Lynne is an authority on the new science and consciousness, an award-winning author, and the architect of the Intention Experiments. A highly sought after public speaker, Lynne has also appeared in many documentaries. She is editorial director of What Doctors Don’t Tell You, and is consistently listed as one of the world’s 100 most spiritually influential people.

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Lynne McTaggart

<h4 style="text-align:justify;">LYNNE McTAGGART is one of the central authorities on the new science of consciousness, and the award-winning author of seven books, including the internationally bestselling The Intention Experiment, The Field, The Bond, and The Power of Eight. Here, Lynne is interviewed by PURNIMA RAMAKRISHNAN about the transformative power of intention, the profound impact of group intention, and the potential for individuals to create significant change in their lives and the world.</h4>&nbsp;Q: Lynne, welcome. You are known for your pioneering work in the science of intention in <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/the-journey-of-total-health" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">consciousness and healing</a>. You’ve explored this science behind intention so deeply. Can you share how you personally define the power of intention?&nbsp;LM: Okay, well, first of all, it’s important to understand that our thoughts aren’t locked inside our heads. They’re trespassers, and they can go out and affect other people and things. We’ve seen that from countless studies on everything from single-celled organisms to human beings. In my own work, I’ve seen that we can affect everything from making plants grow faster, to purifying water, to lowering violence in war-torn and violent areas, and even healing people of things like post-traumatic stress disorder. And I’ve seen it in big groups and small groups. Essentially, thoughts are energy, just as everything else in the body is a collection of energy and energy fields of different varieties. And those thoughts can go out and affect things.I see an intention as a focused thought. You and I are having about 80,000 thoughts a day, and most of them are undirected, most of them are negative. And they oftentimes undermine our life because we’re focusing on negative outcomes, instead of intending for what we want.So, I always teach intention as a respectful and very specific request to the universe. And I find it gets amplified in small and large groups.Q: During your intention experiments, have you encountered any surprising results? Are there poignant moments, epiphanies, which have made you stop and think? What has defined or redefined your expectations of these intention experiments?LM: I think many of the peace intention experiments really surprised me. I wasn’t at all sure they were going to work when we started in 2007. We started with simple things, trying to affect the light emissions of a leaf. And then we moved on to seeds, trying to make them grow faster. And then we moved on to water, trying to purify water, then trying to lower violence in areas.My first experience of something mind-blowing was the seed experiments. I did my very first seed experiment in 2007 when I was speaking in front of an audience in Sydney, Australia. I worked with the University of California’s Dr. Gary Schwartz, a noted psychologist who has a special laboratory with the Laboratory for Consciousness and Human Evolution. He prepared four sets of seeds, each set with 30 seeds, and had his team photograph them and send them to me. And I showed these to the audience and allowed them to select one of the four seeds to send an intention to. So we sent an intention to seed group A for ten minutes. After we were done, I called Dr. Schwartz and told him we were done, but I did not tell him which seeds we sent the intention to. I told him as that was the cue for him to plant the seeds.Five days later they measured the seeds. After they’d measured them, I unblinded the study and told them which seeds we’d sent an intention to. And lo and behold, those seeds grew taller than any others.We did this five more times in different locations with different-sized audiences. And every single time the seeds that were sent an intention grew taller than the controls. But here’s the fascinating part—I was with my audience in Sydney, Australia, and the seeds were back in Tucson, Arizona, 8,000 miles away. Plus, we weren’t sending an intention to the seeds themselves, only to a photograph of the seeds, a symbolic representation of the seeds. So I realized from that very early time that we essentially create a psychic-internet when we make an intention in a group scattered around the globe. That I could see over and over again with the other intention experiments.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Essentially, thoughts are energy, just as everything else in the body is a collection of energy and energy fields of different varieties. And those thoughts can go out and affect things.</h4><hr>Another one that blew my mind was a Sri Lanka peace intention experiment we ran in 2008, when Sri Lanka was in the midst of a 25-year civil war. We did a peace intention for 10 minutes a day over eight days with 15,000 people participating from around the globe. Now, during that week, to my alarm, violence went up rather than down. And I had a professor of statistics doing the analysis. It then plummeted after that. But a more interesting thing happened. The government won a few decisive battles during that week that turned around the entire course of the war. For some time, both sides had been at a stalemate. Then, within a few months, the government was able to take back the north, which was held by the rebel forces. And a few months later, that 25-year intractable war was over.Now, did we do this? Well, it turned out that during the week of our intention pivotal battles occurred, and that was cause for an extraordinary surprise. When you do one experiment like that, it means nothing. There are too many variables in a war. But when you keep doing it and keep getting results, as we’ve done with peace intention experiments, they start becoming interesting.For instance, in 2017, we ran an experiment to lower violence in St. Louis, Missouri, officially the most violent place in America. And we chose a neighborhood called Fairground that was the most violent of all. We had very accurate police data. I once again asked Dr. Jessica Utz from the University of California to analyze data from several years beforehand to six months afterward, to look at the effect of our intention. She found that violence had been going up in all areas of St. Louis, and continued to go up everywhere except the neighborhood we intended where violence went down by 43%. And so it’s happened over and over again.&nbsp;<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/intention_revolution2_38d89b0431.webp" alt="intention-revolution2.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_intention_revolution2_38d89b0431.webp 110w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/small_intention_revolution2_38d89b0431.webp 353w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/medium_intention_revolution2_38d89b0431.webp 529w," sizes="100vw"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">I always teach intention as a respectful and very specific request to the universe. And I find it gets amplified in small and large groups.</h4><hr>Perhaps the one that amazed me the most is an intention experiment I did that same year, at the end of 2017, with eight Arab cities and a large audience of Israeli Jews. I had special equipment so we could put cameras in eight different locations in Arab cities. Each different Arab city had an audience there. And the ninth camera was with an audience of Israeli Jews. I asked them all to make an intention to lower violence in an area of Jerusalem that was suffering from a high degree of violence.Before that, I had to broker the entire thing, as nobody was speaking to anyone else. They started talking, because I could call on the different places. They would talk to me, and then they would also communicate with the people in all the other locations. And they started sending love to each other, they started sending “Your God is my God,” talking about beautiful visions of people coming together from both sides. There was a big love fest. I found that every time I put together polarized and hated enemies, they seemed to come together after these intention experiments.Since 2008, I’ve run 41 intention experiments, and 37 have shown measurable significantly positive effects. I also surveyed the people involved, and for those who responded, about 40% have reported more peace in their own lives. They’re getting along better with estranged partners or parents or children. They’re getting along better with bosses and coworkers. They’re feeling more love for everybody, and around 50% consistently report they feel more love for everyone they meet.Essentially, they’re hugging strangers and peaceful things happen in their lives. Also, about one-third have reported an improvement in a health condition or a downright cure. So that is the biggest and most amazing effect, the mirror effect of these intentions: the people who are sending intentions are being healed as much as the targets.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">So that is the biggest and most amazing effect,&nbsp; the mirror effect of these intentions:&nbsp; the people who are sending intentions&nbsp; are being healed as much as the targets.</h4><hr>Q: I was blown away by the seed experiment. How has the scientific community embraced this, or conversely, what are the challenges you’ve faced to try to share this with them?&nbsp;LM: I'm not interested in the scientific community because they aren’t going to accept it. Scientists are supposed to be explorers and very few of them really are. There are a lot of reasons for that. People lose their positions at universities for stepping out of the accepted paradigm. So I don’t need to convince scientists. There are enough scientists who are true explorers, who are fascinated by my work, and who have helped to measure the work.I work with people at prestigious universities to run the intention experiments—Princeton, Penn State, University of California, University of Arizona, and others in Europe. I choose people who are open-minded enough to do decent research.There are skeptic organizations who attack my work, but they attack it in the flimsiest of ways. My book, The Field, had more than 400 solid scientific references. I had interviewed exhaustively—frontier physicists, biologists, etc.—and had them check every last fact in that book to make sure I had written it correctly. The skeptics have said the book was based on nothing more than Star Wars, which is just incorrect, close-minded, and ignorant.So, I’m not interested in that. I’m interested in getting this information out to people so they can understand that we have extraordinary capabilities waiting to be unleashed, and we are very different from what we are told in mainstream orthodox science.&nbsp;<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/intention_revolution3_b56b5be71b.webp" alt="intention-revolution3.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_intention_revolution3_b56b5be71b.webp 214w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/small_intention_revolution3_b56b5be71b.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/medium_intention_revolution3_b56b5be71b.webp 750w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;Orthodox science is only 300-plus years old, and new studies and discoveries are being found in universities, in little pockets of academia here and there, that are completely transforming the way we think about ourselves and our world. And we’re far greater than we’ve been told!Q: Thank you for that very candid response. For someone who’s intrigued by your work, who’s curious about your work, and who wants to start applying this <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/how-to-manifest-peace" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">power of intention</a> in their own life, how can they begin?LM:&nbsp;They can join my community and my website. When they join, they receive some basic tools and information about how to do intention and how to form a group. They can also read my books. <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/the-intention-revolution" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Power of Eight</a>, the last book published on this topic, has basic descriptions of how to do intention in a group. For people who really want to learn more, I have a whole series of foundation courses.I also have a <a href="https://lynnemctaggart.com/courses/intention-masterclass/the-power-of-eight-intention-masterclass-2025/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">year-long masterclass</a>, my kingpin course, where I work with people live and interactively for a year. Participants start working in groups after six weeks, and each group meets once a week. Under my instruction, they use intention for relationships, for health and healing, for finances and career, and for life purpose. There’s specific information and instructions, and I coach them throughout the year.So there are all kinds of things at all kinds of price points, including free, and every intention experiment is free. I feel everybody should be able to participate.Recently, Gaia released a documentary about my work with large and small groups, The Power of Eight, plus the intention experiments. They interviewed the various scientists who’ve worked with me, and numerous people who have had extraordinary healings with The Power of Eight, too. And it will culminate in an intention on February 1, 2025. I’m going to have a live audience at Gaia’s headquarters in Boulder, Colorado, and we’re also going to livestream it around the world.It's an invitation. So everyone can take part by going to <a href="https://lynnemctaggart.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://lynnemctaggart.com</a>, where there are instructions.Q: I am really looking forward to it.To be continued.

 Unleashing our extraordinary capabilities

The intention  revolution

Madhu is a long-time Heartfulness practitioner and trainer, who works at Kanha Shanti Vanam in PR and security, and as a personal secretary to Daaji. Earlier, he worked in the Chief Minister of Andhra Pradesh’s office and has won numerous award in public service

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Madhusudan Reddy

<hr><h4 style="text-align:justify;">MADHUSUDAN REDDY&nbsp;explores the role fear plays in holding us back from success. He also shares some tips on how to overcome fear and develop courage and confidence.</h4><hr>Everybody wants to be successful, but we succumb to things that are hurdles on the path of success. Though our hearts aspire for success, there is always some fear consciousness deep inside that keeps pulling us back. So if the fear is removed at the outset, we will come closer to success.<hr><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">The whole world&nbsp;sometimes kills your enthusiasm. In those times it is better&nbsp;to follow your inner voice than listen to others.</h4><hr><hr>We have fear of failure, fear of enormous future. We fear people may ridicule us – that either we are too old for the job or too young and immature, that we don’t have the required qualifications or we are inexperienced, that we lack the intelligence. Thinking that we are inadequate in some way, most of us lose the opportunities we have in hand. When we hide behind such pretexts, opportunities are closed to us.How to get rid of fear and fill yourself with courage? Take time and question yourself: What is the cause of my fear? Why am I taking shelter behind these pretexts? If you want to be successful, taking risks is unavoidable. So how to take those risks now?The whole world sometimes kills your enthusiasm. In those times it is better to follow your inner voice than listen to others.When you are in complex situations, even if others discourage you by saying it is useless, continue to try. Think on your own. Once you understand the facts thoroughly and take the risk, it can pave your way to success. But make sure that on your own you try to understand the situation. Once you understand the situation thoroughly, you will be able to take the right decision and never lose the opportunity that you have.You may as well fear quick success, not failure, because if you want to multiply success it is unavoidable that you will face failure. Do not lose courage when you fear the loss of face you may have. You may fear that you will lose your reputation, or you may not have courage to speak in a meeting because you think everybody will laugh at you. Instead say to yourself that the future is full of best prospects, that you will certainly reach the goals you cherish, that you will face any kind of situation courageously, and then you may witness everything happening in your favor.Gradually courage will become a part of you, and there will be no place for fear, anxiety and negativity inside you. Even when there is a challenge or a problem, you will not need to develop courage afresh. All fears and doubts will disappear. We are all inherently powerful but somehow we are discouraged by what others say.If you observe carefully, all power is within you.All the help that you require is also in you.If you think you are successful, you will become successful.If you think you are a failure, you will become a failure.So chose what you want to be.What is courage?&nbsp;Courage allows us to transcend all kinds of fears – fear of death, fear due to discomfort in the body, fear of hunger, fear of insults, fear that others may disagree, fear of evil powers, fearing other’s anger.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/When_fear_knocks2_a7b788df5a.jpg" alt=""><hr><h4>From Fear to Courage</h4><ol><li>When the mind is pure you will naturally feel courageous. When you lose this purity many things create fear.</li><li>If you believe in yourself and respect yourself, you become courageous. Self-confidence removes fear. Instead of thinking about <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/where-is-happiness" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">weaknesses</a>, focus on your strengths.</li><li>Subtle intelligence works like a medicine that cures diseases. Try to acquire the self-knowledge that removes fear. Constant practice helps to overcome all sorts of challenges.</li><li>Develop right thinking and you will not even fear death. Lord Krishna in the Bhagavad Gita says, “Duty if done without any desire even in a small way will protect us from the greatest fears.”</li></ol><hr>Cultivate a pure mind, a moral life, self-confidence and mental restraint in daily life, in order to live happily devoid of fear. Courage can take you to heaven in a moment. Do not run away from the difficulties in life; difficulties&nbsp;run away and vanish when you&nbsp;face them boldly.Desire, anger, greed, pride, illusion and envy create a lot of fear, taking frightening forms and restricting consciousness. They do not allow you to reach your goal. In the ancient texts they are compared with poisonous animals such as sharks, cobras, crocodiles and scorpions. In order not to be influenced by them, do some spiritual practice that will enable you to digest all these poisons. Then you can get to that urn of immortality, the nectar. Face your enemies within.<hr><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Use the tears of your eyes to cultivate your dream. Convert that which is burning you into a lamp and encourage the heart to share the light. Wake up! Your destiny is calling you. Fear nothing.</h4><hr>&nbsp;<hr>&nbsp;Life is a struggle for everyone. Success lies only in that struggle. Set your first step on the mountain; take things head on; have a strong hold on your way to the goal. Those stones that stop you can be your foundation. Mold those who chase you to grow to move forward.Use the tears of your eyes to cultivate your dream. Convert that which is burning you into a lamp and encourage the heart to share the light. Wake up! Your destiny is calling you. Fear nothing.If it is day, the sun says, “I’m there,” if it is night, the moon says, “I’m there,” blessing us with the necessary courage. Therefore, when fear knocks open the door of courage.<hr>

When fear knocks

<hr><h4>MADHUSUDAN REDDY explores how success comes through discipline, and provides simple effective ways of cultivating that discipline in daily life.</h4><hr>Beautiful dreams, pure thoughts, a simple personality, and sustained self-confidence are important qualities of every successful person in this world. But beyond these qualities, that which guides every human life, from the most famous to the simplest, is discipline. In this era, when the world has become a global village, the stark reality is that we are witnessing a progressive deterioration of discipline, discrimination, and values.Today’s children are tomorrow’s citizens, and youth is the backbone of any country. Are our student communities and youth losing their vitality?Nature is the first school of any human being, and teaches so many lessons in life: for example, the skill of a spider in weaving its web; the patience of ants in constructing an anthill; and the way a mother bird teaches her babies to fly. Behind all this is discipline-filled action. There is no life that does not involve discipline. Rewards, awards, and accolades are not the things that make us recognized by this world. If Sachin Tendulkar and Lionel Messi have such huge fan followings today, it is because their personal discipline has made them who they are.Some people argue that success can be achieved through talent without discipline, but that sort of success is temporary. So if discipline is critical to reach the shores of success, why do we lack it? Here are some thoughts:Our lack of meaningful relationships in this age of the nuclear family, single-parent families, and internet-based living.Our education system is mostly confined to book-reading and churning out students as rank-producing machines. We have not yet developed a value-based education policy, although the UN has done so and people are now waking up to the need for it.Many youth have gone headlong into the addictive culture of social media, ragging, drugs, alcohol, and sex, forgetting their goals and aspirations.Where respect for mothers, fathers, and teachers was earlier cherished, they are no longer automatically respected. They need to earn respect. Everything is being challenged.Every day we read about so many crimes in our newspapers: students attacked by acid, others who are victims of ragging etc., and all these actions are symptomatic of a lack of discipline and respect for others. Students come to the cities to become IAS or IPS officers, but they forget their goals, having no thought for their parents’ hardships. They are attracted to the open urban culture, but even if society needs to change, is it the best way?Think about it. If you try to demonstrate against corruption, as an ordinary person, nobody will listen to you. If you give instructions as a disciplined officer, however, things can happen in no time. It is discipline that made Gandhi a Mahatma in the eyes of the world. Edison was a successful person because of discipline.A boy who had a newspaper run went on to become Abdul Kalam, the President of India.Discipline was vital to their success. Discipline is not just for securing success in examinations, but it is the prime quality to achieve anything in life. Here are some ways to cultivate that discipline:Let your everyday routine start with discipline. Say you plan to wake up every day at 4:30 a.m. For two days, you wake up with the help of an alarm. On the third day, make a commitment to automatically wake up at 4.30 a.m. without the help of the alarm.Time is of the essence. Recognize how much time you are wasting, and work to make the most out of every minute in a day.Time cannot be saved like money and needs to be utilized properly.Reduce your dependency on distractions Examples of these include the 5 Cs: Cinema, Cricket, Cable, Chatting, and Cell phone.We are the product of the people with whom we surround ourselves. It is important to be with people who motivate us to be our best.Forget about your weaknesses. Keep trying. If there are no results, don’t feel disappointed. Even if success is late, the happiness that comes out of it is everlasting. Even if the path is full of thorns, overcome them with your efforts; forget about problems when you are on the way to achieve. The world itself will be following you, glorifying you.All the best.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/secret_success2_2453aab2c1.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T05:21:26.529Z"><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by MADHUSUDAN REDDY</h4><hr>

The secret of success

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<h3 style="text-align: center;">In conversation with MADHUSUDHAN REDDY</h3>
<h4>At a young age, MADHU has already made a difference in his native Telangana, India. He is a modern-day karma yogi,
 dedicated to the service of others.</h4>
Q: Madhu, tell us why you have chosen a career in
 social service. 
MR: I have always been passionate
 about social service and involved in service activities since my student days. I am also a founding member of a couple
 of service organizations – the Hrudayaspandana Foundation and Pariniti Unite for Rural Development (PURE).
The aim of the Hrudayaspandana Foundation is to help poor people receive quality medical
 services to treat severe life threatening diseases, with special focus on heart problems. PURE provides holistic
 services to village dwellers, from improving their farming practices to quality education and hygienic lifestyle.
During my student days I convinced many people about the importance of organ donations,
 and out of those 15,000 went on to pledge eye donations. I also organized several blood donor camps and primary
 medical camps in urban and rural areas, in collaboration with the NTR trust and the Red Cross. In addition to this, I
 participated in social responsibility campaigns and found lifetime donors for over fifty orphaned children.
Q: How did you get into this work?

MR: From my childhood I have been
 fascinated with helping the needy. This brought me into service activities from a young age. During my school days, I
 would spend my savings to pay for the needs of very poor children. Later, I started participating in service
 activities in collaboration with NGOs.
Now I have started a couple of NGOs with the help of many friends and well-wishers.
 Through the Hrudayaspandana Foundation, we have organized successful heart surgeries and vascular intervention
 treatments, and through PURE, we have adopted three villages in Telangana and are putting all our efforts into
 improving the standards of education and lifestyle of the children and women. We plan to extend our participation into
 women’s health and agriculture extension activities.
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Q: Tell us more about the village you have
 adopted.
MR: PURE has adopted the village
 of Chegur, in Rangareddy District. Our first initiative is to upgrade the government schools so that they are on par
 with any corporate school.
The first school has been decorated and reorganized in line with the beautiful village
 of Shilparamam (a famous arts and crafts village created in Hyderabad), and the teachers, staff and students are very
 excited about their new environment. We distribute two school uniforms, geometry boxes, school bags, notebooks and
 shoes to all 650 students of the school.

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<h5 style="text-align: center;">God created us equal, but situations might have
 intervened to make us less fortune or more fortune.
 I feel that it is very important for us to demonstrate
 our true brotherhood and share what is with us.
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PURE has also provided those facilities that are found in corporate schools, including
 clean drinking water, clean toilets, a good kitchen, smart boards for every classroom, modern computer labs and
 science labs, with the latest furniture for staff and students. The school grounds have been planted with many plants
 to make the environment greener and contribute to a healthier, happier learning environment. With a firm will to offer
 a high-quality education, digital classes have been organized. To expand the vision of the students, guest lectures
 are being organized by experts from various fields.
We plan to employ teachers to encourage and prepare the students for higher education in
 the near future. The second phase of development will begin once all the schools are upgraded.

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Q:What has helped you personally to develop a
 caring, sharing attitude towards others who are less fortunate than you?
MR: Some incidents from my
 childhood provoked me to be more caring for those who are less fortunate than me. God created us equal, but situations
 might have intervened to make us less fortune or more fortune. I feel that it is very important for us to demonstrate
 our true brotherhood and share what is with us. This is the only thing that gave me true joy during my childhood.
Q:If you were to give three tips to people on how
 to develop love and compassion for others humans, what would they be?
MR: I believe that compassion is
 in the character of every human being. We just need to get rid off greediness. When we realize that we are from one
 creator, we understand that there is a divine relationship among us. Then we experience true joy in serving other
 human beings. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of
 others.”
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<h4 style="text-align: center;">Interviewed by ELIZABETH DENLEY</h4>
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A life of service

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 MADHUSUDAN
 REDDY
 shares some ideas on how to approach our goals so that they become
 more achievable. He also explains a way to respond to success and
 failure.
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 Victory and success are melodious events in everyone’s life. Success can
 be understood as a smile emanated from the innocent strings of our
 heart. The perennial freedom we experience in life is a clear symbol of
 success.



 Sheer hard work and determination are glittering reflections we can
 observe from the history of successful people. Despite many challenges,
 they overcame all their problems and remained as a mountain amidst the
 sea. They could withstand the pressure of turbulent waves and reach the
 destination of success.&nbsp;



 The American industrialist, Andrew Carnegie, joined the steel sector as
 a laborer at 11 years of age and rose to the top level. He also helped
 100 other people to become billionaires. His determination helped others
 grow. A famous musician once received a standing ovation from the
 audience, who surrounded him afterward to share its appreciation. One
 lady approached him and said that it would have been marvelous to have
 had such skill bestowed upon her by God. The musician replied, “It is
 not an impossible task, nor did I bring it along with me at birth.
 Practice with focus for ten years and you will become a perfect musician
 like me. The only thing required for this is practice.”&nbsp;



 So, invest hard work to give shape to your dreams. We can excel if we
 put in hard work. If we fail to reach the expected results, we can try
 to refine our efforts, introspect upon our mistakes, and see to it that
 they do not recur in future. We move forward in the direction of
 attaining our goal.&nbsp;



 If there is no chance to improve the results, we can tutor our mind that
 we are benefited only up to this extent.&nbsp; If that is done, we
 prevent the experience of depression. We remain energetic despite
 half-baked attainments.&nbsp;



 Phased efforts will yield good results. Put in all-out efforts and leave
 the result to God. Fill your heart with this feeling, as thinking about
 the results will consume valuable time.


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 Working hard is good,
 but the
 source of that hard work is thought. Fill your mind with good
 thoughts, and you are bound to receive good results.
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 Work hard, and believe in hard work to achieve your goal. When the
 results come, don’t club your analysis with the elements affecting the
 work. Defeat is also a lesson. There is no need for overwhelming joy
 upon success and depression upon failure, nor a need to attribute them
 to other factors. &nbsp;Real victory lies in receiving success and
 defeat with equal breath.



 Don’t waste minutes, because many minutes make an hour, hours make days,
 days make months, and months make years. Wasting time has its own
 adverse impact on performance. Utilize time properly and become
 victorious.



 Working hard is good, but the source of that hard work is thought. Fill
 your mind with good thoughts, and you are bound to receive good results.


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 There was once a person who was very frustrated in life. He reached
 Delhi Railway Station filled with depressive thoughts that death was the
 only solution to his problems. Because his train was late, he turned his
 attention to a book stall, and in his loneliness he noticed one book. He
 thought, “Let me finish reading this book before I leave this world.” He
 selected a page randomly from that book, and as he read he found a
 change – his feelings and face were bright. A magical power surrounded
 him. His joy knew no boundaries.&nbsp;



 That journey to his village began shaping him into a great personality.
 This person, who went from ground zero to become a great social
 activist, was none other than Anna Hazare. He received laurels by
 developing his village as an example to other villages in the world.



 Do not focus too seriously on failures. They are quite natural. They add
 beauty to life. How can we imagine life without failures? Struggles give
 us strength. Where is the melody of life without these struggles? Do not
 feel belittled by failure. Try a thousand times. Even then, if you come
 across failure, try again, so that success is eventually yours.


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 Feel your goal as your
 life, and think deeply on it. Invite
 dreams on it, work on it, and try to fill every muscle and nerve
 of your body thinking about your goal. That creates a path to
 success.
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 All the power of the universe is within you. We close our eyes with our
 own hands, then cry that darkness exists. Be aware that darkness does
 not surround us. Simply remove your hands so that, right from the
 beginning, you can experience the illuminated world. There is no
 darkness.&nbsp;



 We label ourselves as worthless, weak persons. Do you know how many
 capacities, innumerable strengths, and potential magics are embedded
 within you? Where is the scientist who knows our full human potential?
 Only a microscopic part of it is hitherto seen. So don’t try to degrade
 your personality. How will you come to know how much more is yet to
 surface? Behind you, there is a sea of power. Those who realize this
 become victorious. Visualize the process of evolution from an ameba to a
 human being. Who created this? Is it not your own self-determination?
 Still, do you say that your self-reliance is without any power? The
 strength that brought you up to this level can further improve your
 personality. The character that strengthens your self-determination is a
 quintessential element.&nbsp;



 We all aspire for one thing in life, victory. We do not invite defeat in
 either our intellectual or our spiritual paths. But only a few taste the
 flavor of success, though everyone invites victory. Some of us
 experience middle-level success, while many experience defeat. First,
 decide what you want to become. Then, put in your all-out efforts. It is
 important to note that mistakes are committed by everyone, not only the
 people who experience defeat. The defeated ones leave the work at a
 point where they observe it to be critical.



 We may commit mistakes now and then with the sheer ambition of reaching
 the goal successfully. Such mistakes have no impactful effect on us,
 because we never think they won’t come in our way. We have witnessed and
 studied many wars in history. They armies experienced defeat on both
 sides. Successful persons are always above the feeling of victory or
 defeat.&nbsp;



 To achieve success, you need focused direction, effort, and
 self-determination.&nbsp; Success is yours if you fix the trajectory of
 your focus and your journey. Try to understand and realize what you want
 to achieve. Find ways and means to reach that goal. You can reach it no
 matter how big it is. Divide the goal into sub-goals and allocate
 definite timeframes, whether one week or one month, and complete the
 tasks. Then you will come out victorious.


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Let success be yours

<hr><h4>MADHUSUDAN REDDY share some insights on the value of concentration in bringing about success in any field, and also how to cultivate it.</h4><hr>“All strength is within you.&nbsp; Believe in this.&nbsp; Do not think you are weak.&nbsp;&nbsp; Stand up and express the power within you.&nbsp;&nbsp; The only weapon to express this is ‘concentration’.&nbsp; Please note it.”<hr><h3>What is concentration?</h3>To create love and interest for the goal you select is concentration. It is also enthusiastic eagerness and curiosity. If you do not evince keen interest in the work you select, will you concentrate?&nbsp; It equally applies to education. The happiness and enthusiasm reflected in your personality will amplify your capacity. You can achieve success in any field with the help of improved levels of concentration.To enhance concentration, develop absolute love for your goal, followed by education, industry, and maintaining control. There are no magical or mystic tactics available. Searching for an easy track to boost concentration can be compared to lighting a lamp to see the darkness. It is illogical and ridiculous to assume that concentration will be created without enthusiasm.Recently, a few people have said to me, “I am not able to recall anything I studied.” Concentration and memory are interdependent. Variability in levels of remembering can be directly attributable to dithering and differential concentration levels.Slapdash interest is the prime reason for <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/be-attentive-remain-aware" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">loss of concentration</a>. We watch a movie or a cricket match on television without any disruption or pause when we love to watch it. We don’t show the same interest when watching programs we don’t like. “Liking” and “disliking” play a crucial role in determining the level of concentration.&nbsp;<h3>How to concentrate&nbsp;</h3>To achieve healthier concentration levels, cultivate the seeds of good thoughts and deeds in the garden of your heart strings, by tidying and weeding out unwanted thoughts.&nbsp;To evolve good thoughts in your mind, follow the thrilling stories of great people.&nbsp; It will push you gradually in a forward direction.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/concentration2b_700x509_f1d9f02c61.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-27T10:20:51.956Z" alt=""><hr>It is not possible to invalidate all the thoughts in your mind at once.&nbsp; Even if you stop thinking for one moment, it is an achievement. So, catch hold of some good thoughts from the beginning. Then endeavor hard to accomplish success in your chosen areas.&nbsp; You will experience tremendous happiness when you notice that unwanted thoughts are tossed out of your mind. This experience of happiness is unparalleled.To achieve all this, try to learn yogic meditation.Concentration happens when you thwart your mind from numerous distractions. Immense power is generated in your mind once you can concentrate. The power is spawned from within you.&nbsp;Concentration is possible when you focus on one thing. Then you will not feel overtaxed with work. Start by attempting it. Automatically, the practice will become a habit. Through continuous industry, you will raise your level of concentration.Your mind has great strength and power. Just as the rays of the sun passing through a lens can ignite a fire, your mind also can surpass your expectations when it is concentrated on the field of your choice.&nbsp; &nbsp;Initially I believed that aggression must exist to achieve my goals. But with age, that idea has gone out of my mind. Aggression takes away strength; only with a quiet and undisturbed mind will you achieve the preferred results.Our shastras remind us that extravagance in anything is hazardous and unproductive, whether it is eating in excess, sleeping in excess, or talking in excess. Great people have achieved success only by devoting time in silence.<hr><hr><h4>To achieve healthier concentration levels,&nbsp; cultivate the seeds of good thoughts and deeds&nbsp; in the garden of your heart strings,&nbsp; by tidying and weeding out unwanted thoughts.&nbsp;</h4><hr><hr>You may observe that control of your tongue is very crucial in achieving anything. You will control your mind if you control your tongue. It will greatly help you to achieve your goals with increased levels of concentration.Simply, concentration is the power you provide your mind to make sure it thinks along the lines you desire. Try to increase your levels of concentration while listening in class or at work, the same way you concentrate on a movie or a book you really like.<h3>Education and learning</h3>While learning, increase your focus toward the content you read and listen to. The mind needs to be aware, and for this it is important to keep your mind clean, just as you keep your surroundings hygienic.Then, apportion a certain amount of time to reading your book – an hour, for example – and completely devote your time toward that content only.&nbsp; It is not effective reading if you are hasty and simply refer to the contents.Concentration is required for both referring to and reading a book. Referring to a book may result in a certain level of understanding, whereas a complete reading may result in a much deeper understanding. This deeper understanding will enhance your interest in reading further. If you have questions, or require clarification, discuss with others.&nbsp;None of us like all things. All colors do not attract us. Similarly, school students may not demonstrate equal interest in all subjects. Nevertheless, it is important to try to give attention to them all, keeping the future in view. If you start reading with interest about a subject you have neglected, you may develop a fondness for it.A well-known person who demonstrated these qualities of concentration was Vikram Sarabhai, the physicist and astronomer who is regarded as the Father of the Indian Space Program.&nbsp; He conducted research on cosmic rays, gravitational force, and various planetary motions. In reply to a question posed by a journalist regarding the secret behind his success, he replied that it was possible only with sheer determination and concentration.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/concentration3_2260c7c78c.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-27T10:20:39.561Z" alt=""><hr>So, even a great scientist says that his work is possible only with the concentration! Some students become scared of studies, foreseeing difficulty, and the fear ringing in their minds will take away half their zeal to study and work. It is the prime reason for a decline in concentration. If we allow depression, complaint, and frustration into our minds, progress will decline. Meditation, physical exercise, and yoga are very important ways to maintain a sense of well-being and enthusiasm.The major foes to concentration are living in the past and anticipating the future. We often do this. So try to remain in the present and concentrate on your agenda – success will be yours.By concentrating all these powers, we can unearth all the knowledge in the world. We just need to be aware how to know. There is no limit to the talent of human beings. Simply learn how to focus it on a single point. That is the secret behind all this.

The first step to success

<h4>MADHUSUDAN REDDY is passionate about the future of the children of India, and urges parents to take the time to love and shape them so that the whole country may benefit.</h4>India has such an ancient tradition of respecting elders, parents, and teachers.&nbsp;But unfortunately, we are now witnessing a situation contrary to that culture.&nbsp;The reason is our own neglect. A famous quote says, “It’s easier to bend a plant than a tree,” which means something that cannot be bent in the budding stage can never be bent. Parents and carers have the role of teaching their children values, like respecting elders, cooperation, aptitude toward learning, maintaining discipline and peace from early childhood, but it requires time and patience.&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Parents and carers have the role of&nbsp; teaching their children values, but it requires time and patience.&nbsp;</h4><hr>Today, parents find it hard to spend 4 to 5 hours a day with their children, so the children feel alone. As a result, they are drawn to many enticements and unwanted cravings. Then, parents also suffer. In contrast, what happens when parents give their children what is good for them? What happens when they support them in all matters and provide guidance and advice?&nbsp;Let me tell you a story. A couple went to Taj Hotel with their daughter for lunch. They ordered vegetable soup for her, but when the soup arrived the girl said to her mother, “Mom, I can’t drink this soup.” Her mother called the waiter and requested him to bring mushroom soup instead. The waiter brought the mushroom soup but the girl said that she couldn’t drink that either.&nbsp;The girl’s parents chided her harshly. The girl was sobbing and said, “The soup is very hot, how can I drink it without a spoon?” The parents had scolded her without understanding her difficulty, and the reason was lack of communication. No matter how small the problem, if children learn to open their hearts and talk, they can successfully solve many problems in life.&nbsp;An English child says, “I can achieve anything.” An American child and a European child say the same. Can our Indian children say the same? Even the parents of our children can’t say that. In other parts of the world, parents instill confidence in children from the beginning. It can be said we do not have that here.&nbsp;Parents have a great psychological influence on their children. What happens when they rebuke them, pointing out that they are not good at studies, they are they are not coming first? From childhood, parents, carers, and teachers confine their minds to a limited sphere by saying “you can’t do this, you can’t do that,” so enthusiasm melts away. Not every student can secure first place. Does it make the others worthless or insignificant? Children may prosper in many areas.&nbsp;So look to your children’s talents and skills. They may not all do extremely well in studies, but they may become good artists, singers, poets, sportsmen, or politicians. Guide your children in the direction where their interest lies. Explain to them gently. If you think their direction is not correct, also speak gently so they understand you better. Then let them decide. The world’s greatest intellectuals like Einstein and Thomas Alva Edison were expelled from school. Everyone can do something creative – that is the secret of our creation.&nbsp;Many parents spend large amounts of money for their children’s education, anticipating a bright future. Do they also attempt to know what habits their children are adopting while studying? Ninety percent of parents fail in this.At first, habits are delicate like a spider’s web. As time passes, these habits bind us like iron fencing and steel ropes. So, it helps to inculcate good habits from childhood. To nurture them, parents must also follow them. Personal and social cleanliness, discipline, punctuality, working with a sense of cooperation, respect for elders, kindness and humility in behavior are some of the fine qualities to be adopted from childhood. Mostly, it is parents’ responsibility to inculcate these in their children. In Japan, some institutes are also taking the responsibility, giving proper training from childhood to produce good citizens. Schools there are also traveling on the same path.&nbsp;<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/Our_childrens_Future2_d8b0dc47c1.jpg"></figure>Today, many people think that intelligence and virtues are inherited, and that without them it is impossible to achieve success in any field. Knowingly or unknowingly, parents and teachers plant such ideas in the minds of children. Truth be told, children brought up under the guidance of the best teachers can reach a high level in any field. And the best teachers aren’t those who possess doctorate degrees or awards. It is enough that they love as a mother loves and understand the subject. If a teacher gets angry and blames the students for every little thing, what will be the future of those children? Today, 70 percent of teachers take good care of students who flourish well in their studies and ignore those who are lagging behind. The foundation of a child’s future is not stable when it is built with such insecure bricks. It is better to develop the talent of each child in their specific field.&nbsp;Many parents feel their responsibility is over when their children start school. Sometimes they shower love and give money when it is asked for, without asking why that money is required. Sometimes they get angry and do not help their children. Some parents compare their children with others and belittle them for falling behind, damaging their self-confidence. The behavior of parents is perplexing for children and has a strange effect on their minds. Gandhiji said, “There is no school equal to a good home and no teacher equal to a virtuous parent.”Appreciating and rewarding good work are good traditions, but showing love to children does not mean letting them behave as they like. Restraint is essential in the process of shaping children. When they are disciplined for their mistakes, they will realize those cautions are for their good, and will not be dissatisfied with the way they are treated. Parents need not be too strict nor too lenient, avoiding extremes. &nbsp;We see envious behavior in children now and then. If a mother appreciates one child, the other feels jealous. So, when parents give everything on an impartial basis, be it food, love, or care, their children will feel happy.When parents show a loving and empathetic attitude, and become worthy of admiration, children imitate them. Children are full of potential to channel their inner capacity in the right direction according to the love and moral guidance given to them by their elders.&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Children are full of potential&nbsp; to channel their inner capacity &nbsp;in the right direction according to&nbsp; the love and moral guidance&nbsp; given to them by their elders.&nbsp;</h4><hr>A mother’s love is extremely important for the healthy emotional development of her children. Among those who observed this was René Spitz. He brought to light the death of 34 children in an orphanage, explaining that “The children have all the facilities they need, except a mother’s love.”&nbsp;Today, children develop a lot of mindsets and values from movies and TV serials. If the parents are viewing the TV, the children will follow suit. It is not that everything on the screen is bad, but experience shows that it fails to bring about a desired change in people.&nbsp;The tender hearts of children are like fragile seeds. It is the responsibility of parents and teachers to see such tender hearts blossom like jasmine. And the development of any country depends on the strength of its youth. So think about your children and spend time with them.&nbsp;

Our children’s future

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Mahatma Gandhi

Needs not greed

Real wealth

Mahek is a psychologist at the Turning Point Rehab, Surat, India. She holds a Master’s in Forensic Psychology, London, has worked at Birmingham Prison, and after practicing CBT at victim support NHS, UK, she moved to India.

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Mahek Pathan

MAHEK PATHAN explores the physical, mental, emotional, and social impacts of addiction on individuals and their families. Mahek is a psychologist with the Turning Point Rehab. She holds a Master’s degree in Forensic Psychology and has worked in the UK prison system. After practicing CBT at victim support in the NHS, UK, she moved to working in clinical psychology in Surat, India.<hr>The Personal and Social Impacts of Addictive BehaviorsPeople suffering from addiction experience many different life complications. When they start abusing drugs and alcohol on a day-to-day basis, they have physical health complications, such as liver cirrhosis, heart problems, lung diseases. I have seen clients coming in who have lost a crazy amount of weight, because of daily consumption of drugs and alcohol.There are also a lot of mental health issues, like depression, anxiety, substance-induced psychosis, where they experience hallucinations or paranoia. I see people experiencing PTSD, post-traumatic stress disorder, as well. Alcohol and drugs actually have a very great impact on both physical and mental health.Addiction also leads to spiritual bankruptcy. I have seen clients who have been raised in a decent household, never lied, never cheated, never done anything wrong, then once they become addicted, they lie to their parents, and steal money from their homes. It creates a lot of problems with interpersonal relationships among family members.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thriving_addiction2_378055a6d3.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-11T10:50:56.561Z" alt="thriving-addiction2">&nbsp;<hr>I have seen people getting violent, physically aggressive, abusive, and negligent after abusing alcohol and substances. Even when they are not abusive, they have a role to play in the family, and negligence can also have a severe impact. Addiction is a family disease; if it impacts an individual, it impacts the entire family.When clients complete a rehab program, it’s better if they stay in the recovery phase for some time. But it’s very difficult for their families to believe that they are recovering. When a client goes home, family members often say things like, “Look what you’ve done.” This adds to their problem, especially for those suffering from PTSD. It’s very complex. It affects the entire family dynamic. As Dr. Deshpande says, “Love, care, and empathy really work wonders for the entire family.”The Role of RehabilitationAddiction is a chronic disease. It is something that must always be managed as long as one is alive. As soon as the clients admit they need treatment, there are different forms of therapies available.Rehabilitation seems to be the best treatment program, because it helps not just to physically abstain, because the substances are not available, but also provides a safe space for the person. Rehab is a place where there is motivation, and where a counselor is always available.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thriving_addiction3_068e42b7dd.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-11T10:51:54.613Z" alt="thriving-addiction3">&nbsp;<hr>After the detox comes counseling sessions, group therapies, and family counseling sessions. Even after the client has completed the rehabilitation program, support groups and meetings really help. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, hypnotherapy, etc., also work wonders. Even after a client has completed a rehabilitation program, regular counseling sessions will help them understand deeper inherent feelings, thoughts, and processes.People who are addicted usually suppress their feelings. So, we teach our clients to express their feelings in a healthier manner so that they don’t have to depend on substances to deal with them. I think this helps to maintain their recovery for a very long time.<hr><hr><h4>We teach our clients to express their feelings in a healthier manner so that they don’t have to depend on substances to deal with them.&nbsp; I think this helps to maintain their recovery for a very long time.</h4><hr><hr>I also understand that addiction is actually about personality. It’s not about the substances. A lot of people use drugs for recreational purposes, but only certain people get hooked. An addictive personality has the tendency to get hooked, so they also find substitutes for the substances as well. For example, if they try to leave alcohol they may get hooked on cigarettes. I have seen a lot of clients who have actually changed their addiction to something more positive, for example, social work. They engage and engross themselves in something that is more rewarding and has a positive outcome on their lives.<hr><hr><h4>Illustrations by ANANYA PATEL</h4><hr>

Thriving after addiction

Mamata, a long time Heartfulness meditator and trainer, is the social media editor for Heartfulness Magazine. In addition to her work as a content editor and creator for Heartfulness, she also owns Yellow Door Communications, an agency that helps companies bring their brand narrative to life through social media and content creation. Mamata is based in London, United Kingdom.

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Mamata Subramanyam

<hr><h2>oh, there i am – lost</h2><hr>years ago, i began a very long game of hide and seek. i looked in every nook and i scavenged every cranny to try and find where i might have been hidden.i thought i was concealed behind the fast-fading highs of success. i was adamant that i existed in the hearts of those who never stayed.in my blackest state of loneliness i had given up all hope, and believed I was lost for good. in that dungeon of rock bottom a voice that sounded suspiciously like my own made its way through the cracks of my beat up, battered soul.kindly, but firmly she whispered to my heart: “my dear, you have looked everywhere, when all along, you were here.”&nbsp;<hr>&nbsp;<hr><hr><h2>oh, there i am – found</h2><hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/oh_there_i_am_2_a873fdbc53.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-07T05:44:36.473Z" alt="oh-there-i-am-2"><hr>a few days ago i glanced into the mirror and was surprised to find a stranger peering back at me. who was this girl eyes bright with joy, smile full with excitement, spine straight with confidence, spirit strong with conviction?those brown eyes are shaped like mine. and that smile belongs to me. when she stretches her spine i grow taller. the more she speaks my spirit grows bolder.the deeper i go the more i am surprised to find i was never going to be found in any nook or cranny i was hiding in me all along.<hr><hr><h4>Illustrations by LAKSHMI GADDAM</h4><hr>

Oh, there i am

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 MAMATA VENKAT
 looks back over the last year, which has been full of tragedy, and finds the
 moments of light and laughter that bring joy and celebration to
 life.
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 Here are a few statistics I recently heard on an episode of the
 Hidden Brain podcast:&nbsp;


On average, children laugh 300 times a day.

It takes adults two and a half months to laugh as much.

Adults stop laughing around the age of 23, once they reach working age.


 I’m an adult (theoretically). I laugh a lot, don’t I? I think I do. I think I
 laugh many times a day.


Actually, I don’t.&nbsp;

What is stopping me from laughing more?


 And why does it take difficult moments to realize how much we take joy,
 laughter, love, and people for granted?


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 This realization sticks with me harder than ever in a year our family has been
 hit with several successive months of sudden loss. It has been overwhelming
 trying to make sense of the grief that we never, ever, expected to experience.



 As you slowly start to shake off the shock and heaviness of loss, you
 resurface to find that simple things like jokes, humor, and laughter still
 exist. They are still allowed to exist. And every moment that you get to soak
 in that joy from laughter feels almost medicinal, a soothing reprieve from the
 pain that reminds you that, yes, even in the midst of deep, overwhelming
 sadness, you are still allowed to be happy.



 Laughter has been the light we have let in during a year that has often been
 quite dark. It has come in many forms:



 In the staring contests I have over entire weekends with my young cousins, who
 will giggle at just about anything.



 In a story my dad shared shortly after my grandfather’s funeral, about the
 time my grandfather waved merrily to a driver who was giving him the finger
 because he thought it was a friendly American gesture.



 In the heated board and video games that my nephews pull me into, which have
 me cracking up because of their smack talk.



 In the inside jokes shared over the phone amongst friends that keep us
 satisfied until we can all be together again in person.



 In the Friends reruns that my niece and I enjoy, which still make us
 laugh in all the same spots.



 In the moments my mom and I dance around the kitchen to our favorite ’90s
 country songs that have us sharing twin snorts because she always forgets the
 lyrics.


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 I will allow myself to laugh with the innocence of a child,
 straight from the heart, with abandon and without
 fear, with gratitude for every person in my
 world, and full of appreciation for simple humor,
 joy, and celebration of life.
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 This last year has so painfully and beautifully cracked my heart wide open and
 has taught me to let the light in and appreciate every moment to its fullest.
 I can’t speak for everyone, but I know I often take the simple things for
 granted.&nbsp;



 Forget the adult statistics; I will never, ever, take laughter for
 granted again! I will allow myself to laugh with the innocence of a child,
 straight from the heart, with abandon and without fear, with gratitude for
 every person in my world, and full of appreciation for simple humor, joy, and
 celebration of life.


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I take laughter for granted

<hr><h4>MAMATA VENKAT shares her experience of attending an extraordinary event near Hyderabad, India – the inauguration of a vast new meditation center in honor of 75 years of Heartfulness.</h4><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/KSV_6_4796cabe05.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-07T13:06:09.098Z" alt="a-new-era">On a cool, windy morning on Tuesday, January 28, the Hyderabadi sun slowly cast its light over 40,000 Heartfulness practitioners quietly sitting together in meditation at Kanha Shanti Vanam Ashram. Heartfulness was celebrating the 75th anniversary of its first organization, Shri Ram Chandra Mission, with the inauguration of the world’s largest meditation center. This was to be the first of three separate seminars – the first from January 28th to 30th, the second from February 1st to 3rd, and the third from February 7th to 9th. All in all, 100,000 people attended the three seminars. Seekers from around the world had been eagerly awaiting the arrival of this momentous occasion. In the days prior, they came in waves, filling up the newly-constructed dormitories with suitcases, laughter, and a readiness to absorb the subtle meditative condition that was pervading the dusty Indian air.On the inauguration day, Daaji was joined on stage by Yogrishi Swami Ramdev, the co-founder of Pantanjali Ayurved. Swamiji Ramdev sat peacefully with Daaji as he conducted meditation sessions over the course of the three-day celebration, and also demonstrated his extensive knowledge of Ashtanga Yoga to the audience. He shared a few yogic techniques with the audience, explaining the purpose of each, and encouraging the practitioners to utilize them in times of need. He later expressed his enthusiasm and joy to be part of the celebrations.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/KSV_2_45eb58ff6a.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-07T13:06:54.300Z" alt="Daaji-Swami Ramdev">At the end of his visit, he said, “Though I am leaving physically, Shri Ram Chandra Mission will be in my heart, mind, and soul forever. And those who have not yet come to this spiritual path, they, too, will eventually find this because it is the very goal of life.”During the second seminar, the ashram was graced by the presence of a number of government dignitaries, including the President of India and the First Lady, Ram Nath Kovind and Savita Kovind. A long-time practitioner of Heartfulness, President Kovind expressed his appreciation for the growth of the Heartfulness movement:“I am glad to see that Shri Ram Chandra Mission has been promoting both individual change as well as social change. The Mission is promoting the great ancient tradition of Raja Yoga, meditation in the modern world. This campus, Kanha Shanti Vanam, presents a model of holistic living.”<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/KSV_4_5c0f481536.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-07T13:07:48.802Z" alt="Daaji-Ramnath Kovind"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/KSV_3_8845bf7de6.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-07T13:08:50.708Z" alt="a-new-era">Kanha Shanti Vanam Ashram has experienced significant evolution in the last year, evolving into a beautiful and peaceful utopia that is enjoyed by all. Visitors not only have the chance to utilize the meditation facilities to deepen their inner condition, but they also have ample opportunity to explore each part of Kanha’s 1,400-acre grounds, including the Yatra Garden, many organic vegetable and herb gardens, medicinal gardens, the HFNlife shopping area, Fausto’s Italian Restaurant, the extraordinary children’s playgrounds, the cottage industries, and Books &amp; More, Kanha’s central bookstore. In the evenings, everyone was treated to musical performances from both classical and modern artists.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/KSV_5_affe5f3d22.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-07T13:09:42.815Z" alt="a-new-era"><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by MAMATA VENKAT</h4><hr>

A new era

<h3 style="text-align: center;">GENERATION NOW</h3>
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<h4>MAMATA VENKAT celebrates the season of romantic love and reminds us of the
 importance of self-love for a successful relationship.</h4>
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Let me preface this article by saying that I am no expert when it comes to love and
 relationships. My experience with love comes from years of watching corny (yet satisfying) romantic comedies filled
 with escalating conflicts between two main characters that an audience knows are destined to be together, and a few
 personal, immature experiences with “love” that ultimately ended up being fantastic learning lessons.
It’s February, the month of Valentine’s Day. Stores burst with red and pink cards and
 chocolate boxes and mushy signs of love. Televisions play commercials of fresh-faced partners surprising their loved
 ones with engagement rings from jewelry stores with discount deals. And couples are all abuzz making plans with
 their significant others for the most love-filled day of the year.
I am at an age in my life when many of my close friends are either in serious
 relationships, are engaged or married, or are settling down and starting families. Phone and texting conversations
 are now filled with sleuth-y discussions on when a significant other might propose based on a hint that they dropped
 about a trip in January; single friends ask coupled friends how they knew their partners were “The One,” then weigh
 the pros and cons of getting on dating apps versus arranged marriage; and pregnancy announcements with
 cleverly-crafted captions and colorful gender reveals now fill my Instagram feed. This phase of life was inevitable,
 and yet I am surprised by how suddenly it has crept up around me.
I am the single friend that often asks her coupled friends how they knew they were ready
 to be in a relationship or get married. I collect data from everyone – from my parents’ thirty-year relationship, to
 my best friend’s nine-month courtship, to the friends that went from high school sweethearts to a family of four.
 And while all of them have vastly different stories of how they knew their partner, there is one common thread in
 all of their answers: in order to find love with someone, they first had to find love within themselves.
No relationship is successful, my friends and family always say, if you can’t be your
 own person, develop your own perspective, and become fully comfortable in your own independence. While the current
 “self-love” movement can often feel somewhat saccharin, there is so much validity in it – in learning as much as you
 can about yourself and creating settlement in that before trying to engage with another person.
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I am guilty of not focusing on myself enough. In the past, whether it be in a romantic
 relationship or in friendships, I have been known to give and give and give and, in that unhealthy process, lose
 myself. I’m sure many of us have been in this boat, or are currently in this boat, and are unsure of how to make the
 change.
So how do we break this cycle? I’ve been trying to do a better job of “dating myself”:
I go on walks by myself.
I spend full days alone cooking, reading, researching, and
 meditating.
I write in a diary, often asking myself questions that I
 would ask a partner or a friend.
I visit spots in New York City on my own, and challenge
 myself to do things by myself that I would normally do with friends.
I put extra effort into my practice of Heartfulness, which
 ultimately allows me to feel the most connected to myself.
These small moments of self-love are enough to allow me to continue to do more research
 on myself, to understand what I want and what I need, and to ultimately make those wants and needs the foundation of
 my individual. The more I learn about myself, the easier it feels to hold my own ground and not feel consumed by
 other people’s perceptions and perspectives. And I know that the more solid I feel as an independent individual, the
 healthier of a contributor I will be to any relationship.
So, in this sweet season of love, I hope we never forget to take interest in ourselves
 even when it feels challenging and to give ourselves love first in the best and most positive ways.
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<h4 style="text-align: center;">Article by MAMATA VENKAT 
 Illustrations by JASMEE RATHOD</h4>
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Love and relationships

<h4>MAMATA VENKAT shares 6 simple time management tools you can apply that will help combat the stress that comes with balancing multiple priorities at work.</h4><hr>I burst into tears the other day after a long day at work. A few projects hadn’t worked well, roadblocks prevented me from moving forward on some tasks, and I hadn’t slept well the night before, leaving me exhausted and spaced out. Normally, these things wouldn’t overwhelm me, but combined, they made me feel like a hare-brained mess, and I questioned my ability.Unmanageable days are normal. Often I pile work, stress, and emotions so high that by the time I realize how overwhelmed I am, the pile is already quickly falling around me. If only I had enough arms to catch everything! Knowing that life will always throw several things at me, I decided to be preemptive about the way I handle the stress of it. That way, even when I can’t fully anticipate chaos, at least I will be inwardly still, prepared to handle anything. As my mom always reminds me, it often comes down to time management.So here are 6 simple hacks that can help preempt even the most stressful days, if you practice them consistently:&nbsp;<h4>1. Have a regular routine.&nbsp;</h4>While disruptions are normal, there are things about our routine that we can control. Small things, such as waking up at the same time, having three to four hours in the morning before we start work, eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner at the same time. All these will help set your internal biological clock and make your body feel more at ease.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/eat_5ba01cbc4b.png?updated_at=2023-04-10T08:01:14.742Z" alt="eat"><hr><h4>2. Schedule 30 to 60-minute work blocks, then take a 15-minute break.&nbsp;</h4>Especially because of remote work during the pandemic, the pattern of working without taking breaks has become normal. This unhealthy pattern can lead to faster mental and physical burnout and lower work productivity. Scheduling dedicated work blocks, then schedule a 15-minute break to get up, stretch, hydrate, and give your mind a rest.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/stretch_26ab6ab7dc.png?updated_at=2023-04-10T08:02:41.328Z" alt="Stretch"><hr><h4>3. Reduce meeting times.&nbsp;</h4>Have 15, 30, or 45-minute meetings, so that you leave time to manage deliverables. My days can be filled with back-to-back meetings, forcing me to work late into the night to complete my actual work.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/reduce_meeting_time_5f68028549.png?updated_at=2023-04-10T08:03:57.961Z" alt="reduce_meeting_time"><hr><h4>4. Get your steps in!&nbsp;</h4>Don’t take your body for granted. The less you take care of your physical health, the more worn out you will feel. Even 10 minutes of exercise a day can make a huge difference. Try scheduling your work breaks around some exercise.&nbsp;<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/exercise_0faef2ff90.png?updated_at=2023-04-10T08:05:27.139Z" alt="exercise"><hr><h4>5. Make mental health a habit.&nbsp;</h4>Mental wellness is just as important as physical wellness. Exercises like meditation will help you to regulate the emotions and thoughts that create stress, anxiety, and other negative reactions, so it is easier to meet tougher days in a more balanced state.&nbsp;<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/meditate_678a835dc9.png?updated_at=2023-04-10T08:06:41.951Z" alt="meditate"><hr><h4>6. Sleep, sleep, sleep!</h4>Do you operate with the incorrect assumption that you can function on little or no sleep? Sleep is <a href="https://www.heartfulnessmagazine.com/sleep-2/">critical to purifying and restoring your system</a>. Try to get the recommended 7 to 8 hours sleep each night.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/sleep_90e9fbbf5e.png?updated_at=2023-04-10T08:08:09.596Z" alt="Sleep">&nbsp;

6 simple way to make your workday more manageable

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 MAMATA VENKAT
 manages external communications and public relations for Anthem’s
 Global Chief Information Office. Through personal reflection, she
 talks about how negative emotions – especially anger –have driven her
 to consistently invest time in her whole health and
 well-being.
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 Several situations helped me realize I was doing a terrible job of
 putting myself first. In my twenties, I couldn’t see how unhealthy some
 of my relationships were until I quit them; at one moment I couldn’t
 manage my anxiety, and nearly lost a job because of it; my body felt
 exhausted when I didn’t nourish it with food and sleep; I felt burned
 out because of work stress and anxiety; and I was generally trying to
 exist. But the realization of how little time I was investing in myself
 did not come from any of these specific moments. Instead, it came from a
 feeling that still surprises me: anger.
 

 
 The isolation of the pandemic forced me to do some self-reflection that
 helped me own and rectify my shortcomings, but in parallel came the
 realization that my baseline emotion was often deep anger. I was angry
 at everything: at friends and family who had said hurtful
 things to me months or years ago; at times when I had been too scared to
 stand up for myself, letting people walk and speak all over me; at loved
 ones whose constructive criticism I took too harshly; at the pandemic
 for pushing me out of New York City; at everyone else for everything,
 because it was easier than trying to change myself.
 

 
 I would spiral through thoughts, all with the end goal of wishing that
 people who had walked all over me would come back, fix how I was
 feeling, and give that positive energy back to me. I wanted
 them to invest in me the way I had been willing to
 invest in them.
 

 
 I would hear how negatively I’d speak to myself, constantly shaming and
 reprimanding myself for being human. I could never speak to my best
 friend in the critical, deprecating way I would speak to myself, so, why
 was it okay?
 

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 By “being your own best friend,” you’re less inclined to
 live your life based on other people’s standards.
 Instead you are motivated to live the life you 
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 There was a period when I attended regular therapy sessions (I highly
 recommend them). I spent several sessions venting my frustrations about
 others, and my therapist would patiently listen and validate my
 feelings. But when I was ready to really listen, she said to me:&nbsp;
 

 
 “Remember that game kids play, hot potato? Someone would play music, and
 kids would pretend to throw an invisible hot potato from person to
 person, and whenever the music stopped, the person holding the potato
 was out? Blame is like a hot potato. It’s fine to toss it from person to
 person, but the music has stopped, and right now you’re the one who is
 feeling the burn. And if you’re still feeling the burn, that means it is
 your responsibility to figure out how to stop it.”
 

 
 Wellness experts and Instagram influencers are constantly posting photos
 and videos captioned with 2200 characters of self-love and self-care
 words intended to motivate us to set aside our insecurities, seize the
 day and “be your own best friend.”&nbsp; By “being your own best
 friend,” you’re less inclined to live your life based on other people’s
 standards. Instead you are motivated to live the life you have always
 wanted.
 

 
 As someone who regularly posts lengthy motivational captions on my own
 Instagram page, I’d be a hypocrite if I balked at any of these
 ubiquitous self-love posts. However, I still feel uncertain when I read
 or write such posts, like there is a part of me that is looking for the
 validation that I am allowed to put myself first. Can I really invest
 energy in myself? Am I allowed to do that?
 

 
 This is a discussion I have been having with colleagues and friends–
 especially my female friends. Many of us still feel that internal
 tug-of-war of enabling others’ needs and perspectives versus empowering
 and honoring what feels natural to us. Why do we have such a hard time
 putting ourselves first? And why does it take a real struggle for us to
 realize that we have been depleting ourselves?
 

 
 For me, a lot of it comes from a people-pleasing mentality that is both
 cultural and innate. I often operate with a fear that if I don’t do what
 is asked of me, or what the people I care about expect of me, then I’m
 failing. That is where I have derived a lot of my value. That is also
 where I have derived a lot of my anger.
 

 
 For years I have minimized my inner voice so much that when I finally
 was able to see a 30,000-foot view of my reality, the only thing that
 felt in my control was putting blame on everyone and everything else.
 That anger consumed me so much that it took me a long time to recognize
 that the better, healthier solution was to be present for myself.
 

 
 So, how am I learning how to be my own best friend? It’s a work in
 progress. These are five things that have been helping me feel a little
 closer to my most authentic, natural self:
 

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 Get to know yourself. Figure out what makes you feel
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 My therapist gave me the hot potato metaphor when I was twenty-four. I’m
 almost thirty now. I still carry that wisdom with me in the moments I’m
 inclined to play the blame game rather than take responsibility for my
 own growth.
 

 
 Your relationship with yourself is the most constant and important
 relationship you’ll ever have. It may take time to realize that, but
 when you do, start the work. Get to know yourself. Figure out what makes
 you feel whole. Allow room for growth. Allow room for change. You are
 allowed to put time and energy into yourself. You don’t need
 permission. In fact, you just should.
 

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Listen to the influencers: 5 ways to be your own best friend

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 >MAMATA VENKAT opens up about the
 challenge of finding self-compassion and self-acceptance in a world of
 judgment and criticism. She also offers 10 tips from her own experience
 about how to cultivate a self-nurturing approach to life.
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 >FINDING YOUR COLORS AMIDST THE BLACK AND WHITE
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 <spanundefined
 >I want to challenge all of us with a question: Why are we so good at
 being kind to the people we love, but not to ourselves?
 


 <spanundefined
 >Whenever a friend calls me to vent, to talk through a mistake, or to
 self-criticize, I am always prepared with an arsenal of compassionate
 phrases:
 “It’s important that you aren’t so hard on yourself.”
 <spanundefined
 >“You are not a bad person.” “It wasn’t a mistake – it was a learning
 lesson.” “You are an amazing person, and you will grow from this.”


 <spanundefined
 >I soothe, I comfort, I take away blame. I remind them of their worth. I
 encourage them to accept responsibility for what could be better, and at
 the same time to remember that it is okay to be human. I tell them that,
 in every situation that seems black and white, there inevitably is always
 color.


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 >
 And yet, when the roles are reversed, and it is my turn to feel the weight
 of an error, the cut of an insecurity, or the (completely normal) wetness
 of tears triggered by the overwhelm of figuring out life, I only view my
 world through that black and white lens. I spend hours – sometimes days –
 mentally punishing myself for even the slightest mistake, without leaving
 any room to let the light of Grace in. By not giving myself compassion, I
 limit my ability to create balance, and my world becomes even more
 colorless.


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 >
 Many of you may probably identify with this. How do we find that healthy
 balance of trying to create our best journeys while simultaneously finding
 the right salves that can quickly smooth the inevitable internal bumps and
 bruises that appear along the way?
 


 <spanundefined
 >I imagine that the forced isolation of a global pandemic has exacerbated
 this for many of us. We have all spent nearly a year attempting to wade
 forward through uncertainty, while at the same time we see the need to
 face ourselves and our shortcomings that need work. Marry all of this with
 physical distancing, lots of global uncertainty, and the usual myriad of
 day-to-day stresses, and
 <spanundefined
 >it becomes even clearer that the need for both balance and
 self-compassion is at an ultimate high.


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 >
 So in a year when we all deserve a little slack, are we actually giving
 ourselves the Grace and compassion we deserve? In other words: amidst all
 of the black and the white, both internal and external, are we actively
 searching for color?


 <spanundefined
 >I am the first to admit it: I am no artist. Even my stick figures could
 use some work. But I always appreciate a good metaphor, and thinking about
 things that make the dark moments brighter always helps me to create
 balance.
 


 <spanundefined
 >So what does “finding your colors” look like? Here are 10 tips that have
 worked for me:
 

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 Own the bad moments
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 >They happen, and it’s okay to make a mistake and to own it. It’s okay to
 feel sad, angry, hurt, or miserable, and to own it. It’s okay that we have
 bad moments. They don’t make us weaker or minimize our worth. They simply
 make us human.
 

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 Speak to yourself the way you would speak to your friends and family
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 In hard moments, take a step out of your mind for a moment, and speak to
 yourself the way you would speak to your best friend. Would you approach them
 with judgment, irritation, or harsh criticism? Or would you give them honesty
 with kindness and compassion? It is important that we recognize our
 responsibility to be a friend to ourselves as much as we would be a friend to
 others.

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 alt="creating-balance6"
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 Reframe “mistake” as “learning lesson”
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 I have found that when I look at a misstep as a mistake, I have a tendency to
 be even harder on myself. When I instead choose to look at that misstep as a
 lesson to be learned from, not only am I less likely to be self-critical, but
 I am also more inclined to grow from that moment, and to not repeat it.

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 Take the compliment
</h4>

 Many of us have a tendency to shy away from a compliment. We brush it off
 without embracing it, thinking that we either don’t deserve it, or that it
 will make us arrogant to accept. These days, when someone gives me a
 compliment, I am working on hearing it, pausing to accept it, embracing it,
 and simply saying thank you.

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 alt="creating-balance8"
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 Give yourself the compliment
</h4>

 Own when you have earned it. If you do a good job on a project, at school, at
 making a dish, or doing something as simple as taking out the garbage, pat
 yourself on the back and give yourself the “good job” you deserve – it is
 completely okay to do this.

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 Throw judgment out the window
</h4>

 In the Heartfulness practice, we often talk about attitudes that are poison to
 our spiritual growth, such as prejudice. Judgment, whether is toward ourselves
 or toward others, is a poison to our growth. The more we foster it, the harder
 it becomes to learn and move forward.

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 Create self-compassion practices
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 Are there practices that help you feel more grounded in yourself ? For me,
 those practices include meditation, writing in a diary, going for a walk to
 think, and singing. When I need additional affirmation, I often write positive
 words on Post-It notes and stick them around my room. All of these practices
 help me feel closer to myself, and help to heal those moments of self-doubt or
 self-criticism. Find a few practices that help you to feel closer to yourself,
 and allow those practices to center you during difficult moments.

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 Have vulnerable conversations
</h4>

 Over the years, I have found that having conversations with friends and family
 who are experiencing similar feelings is a helpful way to clear out self-doubt
 and self-criticism. It can be hard to open up and be honest with people about
 insecurities, negative thoughts, or feelings, but by treating this like a
 practice, the easier it becomes, and the more we find healing by relating to
 other people.

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 Push yourself in healthy ways
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 Something I am trying to do is not to let tough moments derail me – be it a
 mistake or moments of insecurity. Instead, own it and push forward. In the
 past, if I would goof up at work, I would immediately start the process of
 self-deprecation, which would cause a lot of anxiety and find me repeating my
 mistakes. It has taken practice and intentional work to arrive at a place
 where I can own a mistake, be gentle with myself about it, and immediately
 figure out a solution so I can actually learn from the past and not repeat it.

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 Make space for gratitude
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 The best way to combat the negative is with the positive. In the last couple
 of years, I have tried to find different moments to acknowledge gratitude,
 whether that is in a diary, on pieces of papers, or in words shared with the
 people I care about. While it can be easy to wallow in the bad, it is
 healthier for our mind, body, and soul to focus on what is positive.


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 Much of this is easier said than done. All of us have our own unique journey
 to take on the path to self-compassion and inner security. As individual as
 our paths are, there is one thing all of us have in common: We all have the
 ability to create color in our lives. We just have to make the choice to do
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Creating balance

<h3 style="text-align:center;">GENERATION NOW</h3><hr><h4>MAMATA VENKAT shares some practical tips on how to create habits out of New Year’s resolutions, and generally how to bring about effective change in your lifestyle.</h4><hr>The start of the <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/the-inner-journey-from-seeker-to-finder-a-new-years-invitation" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">New Year</a> often feels like a period of rebirth. It is a reset of the clock, a fresh start that allows us to take inventory on the status of the past year, to celebrate its wins, and to honor areas of growth and improvement that can be carried into the following year. December seems to be the prime month for everyone and everything, from family members to friends to commercials to self-care articles, to ask us the ever-pressing and slightly stressful bold-lettered question: “What is your New Year’s Resolution?”I am what I call a “recovering resolution-making over-enthusiast.” In the past, every time the last week of December came around, I would evaluate my year and write up a very lengthy, very unrealistic resolution list. I was determined to stick with it. Come January, I would successfully go gung-ho on my list for a few weeks, only to find myself quickly burning out on my goals. March, April, May would fly by, and that long resolution list I made back in December would find itself in a corner of my life collecting dust. Discouraged, I would forget about my goals completely, resolving that next year would be the year that I tackled all of my resolutions. It took a few instances for me to realize that there were two issues with the way I was handling things:I was doing too much, and expecting too much, all in too little time.I was looking at my resolutions as insurmountable mountains that I needed to climb, instead of simply as habit building.That’s all resolutions are really: habit building. I needed to build my habits in the same steady way I built my meditation practice, gradually, with ease, and intentionally. Once I reframed resolutions as habits, it became easier to take them off the pedestal and implement them into my routine.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/start_newyear_right2_ec5bae5802.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T04:29:37.649Z">Here are a few tactics that have helped me build habits throughout the year<h4>1. &nbsp;Define what your goal is and why it is significant.</h4>What is the purpose of your resolution? Why is it significant in bettering your life? Write it out. It helps to understand what it is that you are trying to achieve<h4>2. What steps can you take to get there?</h4>Instead of jumping right in, write out actionable steps that you can take to achieve your goal. When I started to incorporate meditation into my routine, I first started with five minutes in the morning and five minutes in the evening. As I grew comfortable with those five minutes, I kept adding on an additional five minutes until I could sit for 30 to 40 minutes. Taking those steps helped to build the habit and improve upon it.<h4 style="text-align:center;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/start_newyear_right3_ef4348b46e.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T04:31:40.123Z"></h4><h4>3. What does success look like for this resolution at one month, three months, six months, nine months, and a year?</h4>What progress would you like to see in yourself with this habit throughout the course of the year? Mile marking goals helps to set easy points of achievement throughout the year.<h4>4. Track your progress.</h4>Tracking your progress allows you to be accountable for your progress. A few years ago, I took up bullet journaling, a record-keeping method that allows you to design how you want to track your goals and to-do lists. I used this method as a way to record how I was doing with each aspect of the Heartfulness practice. When I saw how it helped me to keep up with my meditation practice, I started to use bullet journaling as a way to manage all of my habits.<h4>5. Be flexible and allow your goals to change as you and your year changes.</h4>Part of habit building is allowing your goals to change and adapt with you as you grow throughout the year. We often have a fixed vision of what our end results should be and get frustrated when those expectations don’t meet reality. I am learning how to allow for flexibility with those goals, as they evolve in the same way I do.<h4>6. Willpower, willpower, willpower.</h4>No goal can be achieved unless you take interest in yourself and apply willpower toward its success. Commit to your goal, and don’t stop until you achieve it.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/start_newyear_right4_6e0bda02ff.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T04:32:34.856Z"><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by MAMATA VENKAT</h4><hr>

Start the new year right

<h4>MAMATA VENKAT mourns the devastating effect of the virus in New York City, yet is completely moved by the way we are all stepping up and taking care of each other. It is showing us what we take for granted, and how much we value the simple things in life.</h4>
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I’ll be completely honest. I stared at a blank Word document for a long time as I tried to compose my thoughts to write this. How can anyone even begin to describe the way the world feels right now? The coronavirus has robbed all of us of any semblance of normalcy. The majority of us are now indefinitely locked down in our homes, while our brave healthcare researchers and workers, including my incredible parents and the majority of my family, risk their lives day in and day out to do their normal day jobs and also treat the overwhelming wave of patients battling the coronavirus, and also frantically solidify a cure to end what has to be the most challenging era of fear and uncertainty that most of us have ever faced.
Sometimes I feel like we are living in a dystopian novel, trapped in an alternate universe without an exit route. Each day, the news becomes increasingly darker and ambiguous, not providing us with any relief of when this situation might end as each country takes every measure possible to curb the spread of this virus. Colleges and universities have moved online for the rest of the year; malls and movie theatres are shut down indefinitely. Business after business takes hit after hit. And social distancing has made many of us feel lonelier than ever: friends and family can only see one another over video chat, if at all, increasing anxiety and depression rates as people get the call to self-isolate and work from home.
My beautiful New York City is currently the epicenter of what feels like a bio-war. Doctors and nurses live away from their families as they work themselves to the bone; hospital beds are running out so fast that the lush green lawns of Central Park are now dotted with white medical tents so healthcare facilities can have more treatment centers for patients; and Times Square, with all of its Broadway shows closed indefinitely and its people-less lanes, is the quietest it has ever been. I don’t know when my home is every going to feel like home again.
This virus has been a rude awakening of all of the things I take for granted: the simplicity of going to the grocery store; taking the Subway to visit my best friend; going to concerts; hugging my mom. I recognize my privilege during this time: I am lucky enough to be safely nestled at home with my family, to be able to work from home, and to take walks and get fresh air when I need it. So many of us aren’t so lucky.
Many of our friends, family members, neighbors, acquaintances, and even enemies and strangers are struggling right now. People have lost jobs, lost homes, and heartbreakingly lost loved ones. Self-quarantine and social distancing have literally uprooted so many lives. But in a time when all of us could theoretically only be looking out for ourselves, I am completely moved by the way we are stepping up for one another.
I was scrolling through Twitter the other day when I read a tweet that at first absolutely broke my heart, but then filled me with so much joy and hope. A man was celebrating his 67th birthday, but because of the coronavirus he was forced to isolate and celebrate alone. When he posted on Twitter asking for a few birthday wishes, the world stepped up, not only showering him with well-wishes and happy returns, but also asking him for his address so that they could send him birthday cards and balloons and treats so that he didn’t have to celebrate by himself. I burst into tears when I read the responses to this man’s tweet.
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cannot be together physically, 
the global community has come together 
to say that ‘together’ is exactly what we need to be.</h5>
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There have been so many other wonderful moments of kindness, community, and generosity just like this one. People are sewing masks and personal protective equipment for the doctors, nurses, and medical professionals who are risking their lives on the frontline every day to fight the virus. Communities are supporting their local small businesses and restaurants, and those restaurants are turning into grocery stores in order to provide food for people who are struggling financially. CEOs and other business heads are cutting their salaries in half or more to ensure that their employees can keep working.
I have seen people express their grief over losing their job on social media, only to have hundreds of people immediately respond to them with temporary job opportunities to help them pay the bills. Health and wellness businesses have moved their operations online, allowing people to take classes online for free or at discounted rates.
Friends and family members are reaching out to one another to check in so that people feel a little less alone. People are standing out on their balconies applauding our healthcare workers, or singing with one another, creating irrevocable bonds with strangers they probably never thought they’d meet.
We are all directly impacted by the spread of this virus, and yet, we are all stepping up and taking care of one another. These moments of positivity, these sweet acts of kindness, stand out to me more than any grim statistic or news piece. In a time in when the majority of us cannot be together physically, the global community has come together to say that ‘together’ is exactly what we need to be.
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Together is exactly what we need to be

<h4>MAMATA VENKAT has learnt a lot about herself from playing tennis. Especially, it has taught her to let go of imperfections and move forward in a healthy way towards continuous improvement in all aspects of life.</h4>&nbsp;<hr>&nbsp;I was twelve years old the first time I stepped onto a tennis court, reluctantly encouraged by both my mom and my cousin to take up the sport as a way to strengthen my college eligibility and build my stamina, and also face my aversion of trying new things.Fun fact: I’m not good at trying new things.I was skeptical, stubborn, and totally terrified as I walked onto the court for the first time, gripping my dad’s dinky old Head racket in my right hand and my water bottle in the other. And when coach Kent smacked that first ball at me and my return shot embarrassingly soared way over to the other side of the court, I became even more determined to hate tennis and prove that my mom and cousin were wrong.Spoiler alert: I fell in love with tennis.Tennis carried me through my teenage years, giving me a sense of confidence that came from feeling strong. When I started playing high school tennis, it also fostered a camaraderie amongst girls my age during a period when we wrongly thought we needed to compete with one another. And I just loved being on the court. I loved inhaling the smell of brand new tennis balls, hearing the sound of the racket smacking a forehand or a volley across the net. I loved the feel of my feet zigzagging across the court as I moved to hit my opponent’s spinserve, the high-fives that my doubles partner and I would share when we won game, set, match. To this day, a tennis court always feels like home.But I had one major problem on the court: I had trouble letting go.Raise your hand if you’re really hard on yourself. So it’s not just me, right? Okay, good.<a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/how-to-build-a-community" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Consistency</a> is key when playing tennis – after all, it’s the only way to keep a match going, to challenge your opponent and wear them down enough that you might have a shot (no pun intended) at winning the point. For the most part I was good at being consistent. But there were also many moments when I’d miss a serve, hit the ball into the net, smack a shot out, or just plain miss the ball completely. And of course, I had to move on to the next shot, while my mind was focused on the error I had made. Mentally, I would beat myself up, wondering why that shot hadn’t been perfect, or why I still wasn’t a good tennis player after all these years. And immediately, my performance would decline. As a (mostly) doubles player, that mentality not only affected my game, but also my partner’s, who had to spend her energy lifting me up and picking up my slack because I was having trouble recovering.And here’s the thing: I would do this in nearly every area of my life! Whether I made an innocuous error at work, said something that unintentionally hurt a friend or family member, or missed a shot on the court, all I did was hold on to that ‘mistake’, which kept me stuck in my head, filled me with anxiety, and ultimately made it very difficult for me to move forward. It has only been in the last year that I have learned to cut myself some slack. But I still have days when I allow myself to worry too much, even though I know I haven’t done anything wrong.I’ve done some digging in the last couple of years to try and understand why I’m so hard on myself. I realized that it is because I expect nothing less than perfection from myself in everything. The problem with setting such high expectations is that, more often than not, I and the people around me will end up disappointed.<hr><h5 style="text-align:center;">I’m human. I’m going to make mistakes. The more I recognize that and give myself grace, the healthier my relationship is with myself, and the stronger my relationships are with the people I care about the most.</h5><hr>To help me overcome this problem on the court, my mom would remind me of how Maria Sharapova handled blunders. She would walk behind the baseline, adjust her racket strings, tuck her hair behind her ears, then walk back to the baseline with renewed resolve. She left her mistake behind the baseline and kept moving.“And that,” my mom would say to me, “is the only way you’re going to win.”Applying that mentality improved my tennis game significantly, but it’s also a metaphor that is relevant to all aspects of life as I work on not being so hard on myself. I can already see vast improvements. But I’m human. I’m going to make mistakes. I am not always going to be the perfect person, daughter, sister, best friend, acquaintance, worker, or meditator. The more I recognize that and give myself grace, the healthier my relationship is with myself, and the stronger my relationships are with the people I care about the most.All of us are doing our best, but giving ourselves grace even when we slip really helps. Let’s keep lifting one another up.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/baseline2_22d2cb78b5.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-05T07:30:53.503Z"><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by MAMATA VENKAT</h4><hr>

Leave it behind the baseline

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 MAMATA VENKAT SUBRAMANYAM explains how heart-based meditative practices have helped her turn feeling
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 If you’re a Taylor Swift fan, a Swiftie, as I am unashamedly proud to be, then
 you can relate to the feeling of hearing her songs and knowing she
 just&nbsp;gets it. The opening notes of a song draw you in like a kid
 in a candy store, the lyrics hit and, “BAM.” Sugar rush. Somebody, something,
 is finally able to put words to the hodgepodge mess of feelings clouding up
 your brain. And she does so to a tune that becomes irrevocably tattooed into
 your synapses, rendering you a little annoyed, yes, but mostly (and most
 importantly)&nbsp;seen.&nbsp;


 I have had many of these revelatory moments with Taylor Swift songs. In
 general, music can be cathartic, and artists like Swift who are very
 lyric-driven can provide us with camaraderie in those deep, dark moments when
 we feel like no one else can understand what we’re going through. In other
 words, those moments of loneliness.&nbsp;


 I have often felt lonely throughout my thirty years of existence. I feel so
 grateful to be surrounded by wonderful friends and family, but, like many of
 us, I have experienced that deep, longing sensation of something missing. I
 can be in a room filled with people and still feel alone. My experiences with
 depression and anxiety have often put me in states of self-isolation, and I am
 guilty of being so reliant on figures and concepts outside of my own intuition
 that when those external reliances aren’t steady or accessible, I lose my
 grounding. I’m not sure how to function without them.


 These are very real understandings that have emerged over the last several
 months as I continue to encourage myself to do the inner work and really grow
 into my individual. Through these realizations have come many truths, but as I
 listened to a new Swift song called, “You’re On Your Own, Kid,” one truth
 became glaringly visible.

The ending lyrics punched me the hardest:

 You’re on your own, kid Yeah, you can face this You’re on your own,
 kid You always have been.


 I realized that I didn’t know how to&nbsp;be&nbsp;with myself. And in
 order to create happiness, it was important that I learned how.&nbsp;


 There are a number of psychological reasons why I struggle with being with
 myself. What I have come to understand now is that feelings of loneliness
 persist because I have not been treating myself as a friend. I haven’t engaged
 with myself with curiosity to understand my likes and dislikes, to feel out my
 interests, to do work beyond the surface to understood who I truly was. I have
 become so used to allowing others to dictate my direction that I don’t know
 how to lead myself.&nbsp;


 The reality is this: while we are surrounded by friends, family,
 acquaintances, even enemies, the only constant in our lives is ourselves. And
 the best way to combat feelings of loneliness is to spend intentional time
 becoming friends with ourselves, the way we would with anyone close to
 us.&nbsp;


 There are several things I have been doing recently to create this inner
 friendship – journaling, reading more books, diving into concepts that had
 peripherally piqued my interest – but it’s really been meditation that has
 helped me the most in turning feeling lonely into enjoyment of alone
 time.&nbsp;


 Heartfulness meditation is a really lovely way to build that inner friendship,
 because the focus is meditation on the energy of the heart. Our hearts are our
 seats of intuition; it’s where our inner voice resides. That inner voice often
 becomes clouded by the illusions of our thoughts, created by stress, anxiety,
 the expectations we set for ourselves, the voices of other people, and other
 complexities. When we don’t regulate those thoughts, those illusions become
 our reality, and that reality often leaves us feeling out of control and, yes,
 lonely.&nbsp;

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 Heartfulness meditation is a really lovely way to build that inner
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 How do we avoid that illusion-driven reality? By consistently tuning into
 our heart and listening to it. The more time we spend with our inner
 intuition, the more we get to know ourselves. The more we get to know
 ourselves, the stronger our relationship with ourselves becomes. And the
 stronger that relationship becomes, the less lonely we feel.&nbsp;


 So yes, you’re on your own, kid. But it doesn’t have to be lonely. Here are
 three simple Heartfulness techniques that you can adopt to strengthen your
 inner voice and, in turn, strengthen the relationship you have with yourself
 so alone time can become more enjoyable:&nbsp;

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 RELAXATION
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 What:&nbsp;A&nbsp;5 to 7 minute guided technique&nbsp;that
 releases tension and relaxes each part of your body.



 When:&nbsp;This guided relaxation technique can be done
 right&nbsp;before&nbsp;you meditate, or in moments when your body is feeling
 tense or anxious. If you are having trouble sleeping, you can also lie down
 and walk through this technique, relaxing each part of your body until you
 feel yourself falling asleep.



 How:&nbsp;Try it with&nbsp;<a
 href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmwqL34FCjA"
 target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener"
 >this guided video</a
 >.


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 MEDITATION
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 What:&nbsp;A simple suggestion to become absorbed in the
 light in your heart.



 When:&nbsp;Ideally, first thing in the morning for 10 to 30
 minutes before you start your day. It can also be done at any other time.



 How:&nbsp;To&nbsp;<a
 href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDClb-yjNdQ"
 target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener"
 >meditate on the light in the heart</a
 >, try it with this guided video.



 If you find your mind drifting to other thoughts, treat them as if they are
 clouds passing in the sky, witnessing them but simply letting them pass. To
 learn how to manage those thoughts, check out the next section, Cleaning.


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 CLEANING
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 What:&nbsp;An active technique of letting go of complexities,
 impurities, and any negativities that build up over time. This technique is
 beneficial for reducing thoughts during meditation, for minimizing anxiety and
 stress, and for eliminating those pesky thoughts that often plague us before
 we fall asleep (no more counting sheep!).



 When:&nbsp;Cleaning is generally done at the end of the day’s
 work for 10 to 30minutes,as a way to release the mental and emotional weight
 of the day.



 How:&nbsp;To try this&nbsp;<a
 href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UrgqTUIu_Qs"
 target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener"
 >cleaning technique</a
 >, follow the instructions in the guided video.


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You’re on your own, kid

<h4 style="text-align:justify;">MALLIKA REDDY is the Founder of Canceled Plans, a sustainable clothing line and top podcast in India. In one episode with MAMATA SUBRAMANYAM, the two of them discuss the importance of mental wellness, tools to strengthen mental fitness, and the importance of taking responsibility for your own light.</h4>Q: Hi Mamata, a while back, you were on a one-way path to becoming a doctor (your family is full of medical professionals), but that didn’t happen. It was a canceled plan.&nbsp;MS: Yeah, that’s been my biggest canceled plan, because for so long that was the one-way trajectory I was on. Everyone thought I was going to be a doctor. I thought I was going to be a doctor, even though I didn’t want to be one. Halfway through college, I wasn’t doing well in pre-med classes, and it was not because I didn’t have the interest or the intelligence to do well. My own mental health issues plus not being naturally good at those subjects was a combination for disaster.I’m grateful to my mom, who saw me struggling and saw that it wasn’t what I wanted to do. She said, “Okay, maybe you should try something different.” There were a lot of disappointed people, including me, as it was who I thought I was supposed to be for a long time. That vision was molded by so many people, and it was all I knew as my identity. I still struggle, because it derailed everything.Q: That couldn’t have been easy. How did you navigate that decision? You said you were struggling with mental health back then.&nbsp;MS: As a child raised in the U.S. with immigrant parents, there is a part of me that is built to become my parents' dreams. That is not at all a knock against immigrant parents in the U.S. with dreams, but it’s a lot of pressure on them and their kids. We’re finally getting to a place where society has language for it. Back then, I was so compliant, and even the idea of stepping out of that shell was terrifying, because it had been an unsafe comfort zone for so long.I’ve dealt with anxiety for most of my life. I now know that a lot of that anxiety has to do with the people pleasing mentality I have, whether because of things that happened to me as a child or because of my own inherent nature. If I don’t do what I think others want me to do, I feel myself internally collapsing, and that causes my anxiety levels to go through the roof. On top of that, I didn’t know a world outside of medicine. Even though I stepped into a degree I really loved, I didn’t know which direction to go, or who I was.<figure class="image image-style-align-center"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/shining_inner_light2_2b633eb087.jpg"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">I’ve dealt with anxiety for most of my life.&nbsp; I now know that a lot of that anxiety has to do with&nbsp; the people pleasing mentality I have,&nbsp; whether because of things that happened to me as a child&nbsp; or because of my own inherent nature.</h4><hr>Q: Thanks for sharing that so honestly with vulnerability. It is taken for granted how easily that comes out, but it’s hard to say when people are listening. You have clearly done a lot of inner work, because it shows in the kind of self-awareness you have when you speak.&nbsp;What has been your journey to make mental health a priority and take care of yourself? And how did meditation come into your life?&nbsp;MS: I started to really consider my mental health when I moved to New York in 2015. I didn’t have words for the intense panic attacks I had at work. There were a lot of things going on in my personal life, and it was reflecting at work. I went on big emotional rants to my friends about the feelings I was having. I really didn’t understand until recently that the reason I vented so much to my corner of trust was because I thought it would heal me. They would give me a solution, or this person or that relationship (no matter how toxic) would heal me.&nbsp;I didn’t realize what I know now, which is that even when someone else does the damage, the power was always mine to begin with. The light was always within me. Even though it is unfair that someone else or circumstances damaged me, there is something empowering about owning the responsibility to take back and strengthen the light. First it shines inwardly, then it can shine elsewhere. It’s actually taken me until this year, until marriage, to realize that.&nbsp;When someone breaks an arm, hits their head, or cuts themselves, it is okay for them to talk about it over and over again. But if you say, “I feel anxious,” or “I’m dealing with depression,” everybody cringes. They can listen for a few minutes, but then it’s too much.&nbsp;After getting myself out of some really unhealthy spaces, I knew I had the tool of meditation, which I’d taken for granted. I was born and raised in the Heartfulness meditation tradition, and I always knew it was going to be a cornerstone in my life, but I didn’t use it the way I could have.&nbsp;Once I hit rock bottom, though, I knew that to take care of myself I had to practice what I was preaching. I needed to apply the meditation practice to myself before teaching it to others (I became a trainer in 2015). So, taking care of my mental health in combination with meditation became critical to me.So many people have said to me, “You talk too much about your anxiety,” “You talk too much about your mental health.” It affected me so much that I almost stopped talking about it. But if I stop talking about something that needs to be talked about, that’s one less person to advocate. I sound annoying and sometimes I’m on a soapbox, but it’s something that needs to be advocated for.I recognize the privilege of all of this; of being in a position to potentially be a doctor, having the support of my parents, etc. But, despite the privilege, I’ve learned that it’s okay to struggle and be figuring myself out, especially if what’s going on in my head isn’t aligning with what needs to be. &nbsp;Q: What advice do you have for someone who is struggling with mental health, with anxiety, with being in the world?&nbsp;&nbsp;MS: Something that drives me nuts is when a friend, a loved one, or anybody says, “Oh, it’ll all work out,” or “It’ll just be fine,” or “Everything happens for a reason,” when I express how I feel. Those things might be true, but it doesn’t stop the stress, the frustration, or the loneliness in the moment. While your experiences with breakdowns and rock bottoms may be different from someone else’s, your feelings are valid. It is terrifying and lonely, and very few people really understand what you are going through.&nbsp;But one person is always going to understand, and that’s you! The best lesson I’ve learned this last year is to show up for myself. You are your own friend. The same way you show up for anyone else, you must show up for yourself. The beauty in that is you return back to your own light that has always been there; you just have to remind yourself of that.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">The best lesson I’ve learned this last year is to show up for myself.&nbsp; The same way you show up for anyone else,&nbsp; you must show up for yourself.&nbsp; The beauty in that is you return back to your own light&nbsp; that has always been there;&nbsp; you just have to remind yourself of that.</h4><hr>Help for everyone looks different. I did therapy for a long time and it really made a difference, and journaling, going for walks, and meditation have helped me, but they might not be for everyone. So, find the things that you like. Be willing to do the work. Be willing to set promises for yourself and keep them, because the only person who’s going to suffer otherwise is yourself.&nbsp;There are many days that are hard; it can be hard even to get out of bed and function. Those things are valid, too. On those days, keep at least one small promise to yourself, whether it’s making a cup of tea, writing in your journal, or going for a walk. Find a way every day to stay connected to yourself.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/shining_inner_light3_d3f54ea387.jpg"> Q: That’s great advice, thank you. It’s going to help a lot of people understand what their options are, and the little things they can do to get started.To listen to the full episode, visit <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/772Ab2SsGdM2nWR2BFbZis?si=c7d8b4d0ec564050">https://open.spotify.com/episode/772Ab2SsGdM2nWR2BFbZis?si=c7d8b4d0ec564050</a><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Illustrations by LAKSHMI GADDAM</h4><hr>&nbsp;

Shining your inner light

<h4 style="text-align:justify;">MAMATA SUBRAMANYAM reflects on her own processes of change, and realizes that there is an easier way to move forward-one that doesn’t involve self-recrimination and instant gratification. She explores incremental change, minute by minute, embracing the messy process that goes with it, and sets herself a brighter vision for how to live her life.</h4>&nbsp;I have big, lofty dreams of whom I believe I can be.I constantly envision myself as a bright, confident, perfectly-coiffed woman in imaginary high heels (I’m only 5’2) who walks with intention and speaks with humility, who has no flaws and no insecurities, and is loved by everyone.In my head, I am the ideal career woman who works her behind off, who aces every project, who never runs out of steam. In my head, I will be a boss lady like my mother, make witty jokes like my brother, get stuff done at the same pace my dad does. In my head, I am the perfect wife my husband will never regret choosing, the one who is always balanced and never stressed, the one who makes him laugh and makes all of his hard moments easy. The one who does everything so perfectly that he can’t help but brag as I sit on the pedestal we built together.In my head, I am the best, best friend; the one who always says the right thing, sends the right gifts, makes everyone feel the most seen, valued, and appreciated. I imagine myself as the light everyone gravitates to, the one who can be everyone’s everything, the one who never makes a single mistake, the one who can do no wrong.But that bubble of a fantasy easily bursts when I see the dozens of unread emails with unmet deadlines sitting in my inbox, the blue notifications of text messages I have yet to respond to from friends, who are probably wondering if they did something to make me mad (you didn’t).I have saved lists of recipes I tell myself I’m going to make, only to lose steam and yet again press “order” on my staple Chipotle meal. I don’t hold my own like my mother, I don’t make witty jokes like my brother, and I certainly don’t work the way my dad does. I have cried three times this week to my husband about my insecurities. Those insecurities put voices in my head that make me question if he is happy that he chose me.And I see her so clearly, the woman I know I can be. If only I could break the cycles of bad habits that hold me back, if only I could stop being complacent, if only I could stop being a ridiculously outdated version of me. My twenties are coming to an end, and every day I feel I have nothing to show for them.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Like any good, reliable mirror, the answer was right there in my reflection, just waiting for me to look close enough to find it: change is not a leap.</h4><hr>As I make the same mistakes over and over again, as I watch in furious envy as other people grow and change and accomplish and succeed, as I leave yet another to-do list unchecked, and though I know the ability to change is only in me, what do I find myself doing? I anxiously worry if I am well past my prime, if my thirties will be a knock-off version of my twenties, in which any success won’t be taken as seriously because I’m not as young anymore, if it’s actually too late for me to be anyone, anything.I keep making the same mistake of wanting to get from point A to point Now by trying to bypass the in-between. When it comes to bringing those dreams out of my head and into reality, I freeze. I get excited about doing the work, but become daunted about diving in, letting all my insecurities and complacencies get the better of me and talking me out of moving forward. I freeze.&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/secret_to_change2_d8e3be705b.webp" alt="secret-to-change2.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_secret_to_change2_d8e3be705b.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_secret_to_change2_d8e3be705b.webp 450w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/secret_to_change2_d8e3be705b.webp 450w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;And then I sit in a large self-made pool of self-pity and self-aware shame, mentally hurling envious anger at the people who have the courage to create their own destinies while being perfectly aware that I am fully capable of making my own dreams a reality, if only I weren’t so fearful or lazy.&nbsp; If only I weren’t in my own way.Today, as I shamefully walked away from another dream I knew I could have achieved, if only I had put in the work, I put a metaphorical mirror up to my heart and asked myself two hard, hard questions:What is stopping me from changing?&nbsp; And what can stop me from ever asking myself this question again?Like any good, reliable mirror, the answer was right there in my reflection, just waiting for me to look close enough to find it: change is not a leap. It cannot be a leap. Over time, change can be measured in leaps and bounds. But to get to that leap, to get to that bound, you first have to take it step-by-step.Change must happen minute by minute, otherwise I am setting myself up for failure. I can no longer expect that by simply making a thought suddenly I’ll change. I can no longer waste a single second. I have to be willing to put in the work to make it happen. Every self-encouraging thought, every forward action, every plugged-nose-closed-eyes deep dive in between point A and point Now must be done with the clear, firm intention of never going back. It must be done with the full bravery to see myself, flaws and all, with a determined acceptance that while those flaws will take time to fill and smooth, the result will be worth it.And it’s time that I recognize my strengths. If I really own the bright parts of me that shine brighter than my flaws, I can let the beauty of those bright parts fill and smooth out the cracks.To create change—real, hard, messy, good, positive, ever-evolving change—I have to be willing to wade through the in-between. I understand that now. I realize I have to do that work to unwind and rewind the in-between, otherwise I’m not really aiming for change: it’s a rustier, burned-out version of who I am now.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">We are complicated, creative, incredible, messy, broken, fixable, wonderful canvases that are subject to change, if we allow that change.</h4><hr>Change is minute by minute.We are complicated, creative, incredible, messy, broken, fixable, wonderful canvases that are subject to change, if we allow that change. It can be a hard ride, but I’m learning that change can be a fun rollercoaster.If we are willing to let it be.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/secret_to_change3_723064ab82.webp" alt="secret-to-change3.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_secret_to_change3_723064ab82.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_secret_to_change3_723064ab82.webp 450w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/secret_to_change3_723064ab82.webp 450w," sizes="100vw"></figure>

The secret to change: take it minute by minute 

<h4>MAMATA SUBRAMANYAM examines the role of joy in healing, resilience, and care amid global grief.</h4>My favorite songwriters and authors often share a variation of the same sentiment: that much of their best work comes from moments of deep pain. Their heartbreak, anger, or case of the blues pen some of the greatest lyrics sung or the most profound scenes in a novel. It is those moments that history or the internet repeatedly revisit, analyze, or post as the caption of a melancholy photo carousel on Instagram (admit it, you’ve done this at least once).&nbsp;And while happiness is also the subject of great lyrics and book scenes, pain’s vulnerability often feels more relatable.I make no claims that anything I write is profound or memorable, but the sentiment of creating from hard experiences resonates with me.Looking back, anything I write almost always came from a place of despair. As a kid, many of the stories I would pencil into wide–ruled notebooks were dramatic, with a protagonist already immersed in some kind of intense personal turmoil before the story had even begun. Writings for college assignments were almost always narrated from a place of insecurity. And at the peak of some of my hardest moments came hundreds of iPhone notes filled with angry and bitter poetry and short essays underscoring the depths of my depression, the despair at being misunderstood, and the frustration at myself for not being able to overcome it. The pain was overwhelming, yet the writing is amongst some of my favorite things I have ever created.Much of the last few years has been dedicated to healing, resolving the roots of my mental health issues so that the feelings of pain are no longer as acutely felt. I am very different from the girl who felt those negativities so intensely, but I am still very close to her, often examining her with a more gentle, reflective lens rather than so much criticality.It is in those observational moments that one question always springs to mind: why didn’t I allow myself to feel joy?&nbsp;<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/feel_joy_2_1106a183ee.webp" alt="feel-joy-2.webp"></figure>&nbsp;Pain and suffering are readily doled out, but in some ways, society has set a standard of joy and happiness that needs to be earned.“I got the good grade, but I can’t be satisfied until I’m at the top of my class.”“I got the promotion and the raise, but it’s not enough. I have to make more.”“I work out every day, but I still look good enough.”“I’ve pleased this person, so now I can be happy.”The ability to <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/the-kids-are-going-crazy" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">reach joy</a> is shrouded by what I now understand to be guilt: guilt for not being enough, for not doing enough, and for not knowing how to define “enough.” The question becomes: how can I appreciate joy as a feeling of freedom to just be, rather than something that must be commodified?In these last few years of gradual healing, I have often reflected on the period in my life when I felt the most uninhibited joy: childhood. I put myself in the shoes of my five, six, or seven–year–old self, breathing in the clean smell of fresh air and warm sunshine while sitting in a field of dandelions in the empty lot next to my childhood home. I take myself back to late nights with a flashlight and my new favorite book, hidden under the flowered tent of my bedspread comfort as I sneaked in just one more page, just one more chapter. I feel myself standing with confidence on stage at my school’s talent show, singing a Shania Twain song while boldly dressed in a yellow churidar. I hear big belly laughs shared with my childhood best friends, unfettered by any need for decorum.I think about how simply everything flowed back then and how complicatedly wound up my life is now. I am untying the knotty threads of mental illness and resewing life with the more colorful strands from childhood that I have neglected along the way: being outside, breathing in fresh air, slow mornings that don’t immediately begin with my phone or an urge to work, singing loudly and without fear.Nowadays, I want to write about my slow rediscovery of joy. But when I open my laptop to a new Word document, I’m struck by a new kind of guilt, triggered by the collective grief, uncertainty, and despair worldwide. I start to type everything I want to say, but stop, wondering how another note on a healthy morning routine reads when nature is screaming for us to look, look, look! at the pain we are putting her through.&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">The question becomes:&nbsp; how can I appreciate joy&nbsp; as a feeling of freedom to just be,&nbsp; rather than something that must be commodified?</h4><hr>&nbsp;We are at war everywhere. The climate worsens. The internet leads us astray. Why should anyone care about anything else? What will we do? It feels frivolous to focus elsewhere, and though I know life continues despite world crises, I wonder how anyone can move forward when so much is not normal.Am I allowed to feel any kind of joy right now when so many of our brothers and sisters around the world are experiencing unacceptable levels of suffering? Is it self–serving to even be thinking his way? Yes? Maybe? I don’t think I’m trying to be, but I don’t know. I don’t know.In a recent podcast episode, a well–known public figure was asked how she is doing at this present moment. She paused, then said something along the lines of, “In my personal life, I’m good. And I am worried because of the state of the world.”&nbsp;<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/feel_joy_3_e2137eb61c.webp" alt="feel-joy-3.webp"></figure>&nbsp;In her answer, I somehow got my own. Life is filled with dualities, and when the more negative of those dualities is overwhelming, it becomes even more important to balance it with its opposite. Joy—especially now—is essential. If I am not actively trying to <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/regenerationregenerative-business" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">create joy</a> in my own life, how am I supposed to help the people who need it the most find it? The more joy we can create and sustain, the more we will be able to remove despair. The more we can lead with it, the more we can heal. And the more we share it, the more we will remember that joy is not something to be earned, but rather to be lived. &nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">The more joy we can create and sustain,&nbsp; the more we will be able to remove despair.&nbsp; The more we can lead with it,&nbsp; the more we can heal.&nbsp; And the more we share it,&nbsp; the more we will remember that joy&nbsp; is not something to be earned,&nbsp; but rather to be lived.</h4><hr>&nbsp;

Am I Allowed to Feel Joy?

<h4>MAMATA SUBRAMANYAM reflects on how her identity as a "nice" person masked a pattern of people-pleasing and self-erasure—and how the uncomfortable work of setting boundaries and confronting her need for external validation became the start of real inner transformation.</h4>On a sunny, cold New York City day nearly ten years ago, I was comfortably seated on the gray sofa in my therapist’s Union Square office, left foot folded underneath me and an overpriced Starbucks hot chocolate cup in my right hand. I was only two-ish months into therapy at that point, a recommendation encouraged by my work manager after her observation that my intense anxiety was directly impeding my ability to work and the quality of that work.My therapist—a soft-spoken, curly-haired Indian-American woman who started every session asking me, “So how are you doing today?”—had been gentle and patient with me as I spent our first eight weeks together responding to her question with the same stories of traumas and triggers and the struggles of balancing being both Indian and American that I had relayed to my closest friends for several years; this time, however, I was hopeful that by sharing these stories with a professional, I would finally be released of the heaviness I had been carrying for so long.Up until that point, my therapist didn’t challenge my venting too much, instead validating my emotions or helping me identify pain points I had yet to discover myself. I was growing comfortable with this, and expected the session on this particular day to be similar, when my therapist threw in a bit of a plot twist with a question:“What is the characteristic of yourself you are most proud of?” she asked.“I’m a nice person,” I said automatically.“Nice?” she repeated back to me, her voice suddenly underscored with a bit of disgust. “Who wants to be known as nice?”I was at first taken aback by her abrupt directness. Then, I was offended. After all, being “nice” was one of the qualities of myself I was most proud of, only second to my empathetic nature. I was glad to be the friend that people turned to when they needed an objective, judgment-free zone. I was the listening ear, sans advice, offering friends and family space to let out their feelings without guiding them in any one direction unless asked. Really, I was a pure Hufflepuff, based on the several Hogwarts Sorting House quizzes I had taken over the years: caring, kind, and loyal to a tee. &nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">I genuinely believed that the only way to satisfy that internal need was through external validation. And patterns—even when we have the most acute awareness of them—are hard to break.&nbsp;</h4><hr>&nbsp;That niceness showed up in my professional life as well—in doing just as I was told, in keeping my opinions to myself, in the results of my Myers-Briggs or other personality tests that often set my colored dot on the way-other end of the chart than most of my teammates—according to the tests, I was all heart, no logic. This aligned with what I believed to be all I offered as a person, in any setting.More than anything, I felt like I had to be nice, like it was the morally correct thing to do. I was abiding by the Golden Rule taught to us in kindergarten: treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. Wasn’t I doing the right thing, abiding by it? I thought so.“She doesn’t even know what she’s talking about,” I thought to myself as I walked out of my therapist’s office later that day, Starbucks cup tepid and half-full. “There is nothing wrong with <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/the-difference-between-nice-and-kind" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">being nice</a>.”As the week went on, however, I noticed that my therapist’s question unlocked an awareness in me that hadn’t been there before: while my niceness was distributed to everyone, it was often shared in surplus with people who took it for granted or whose attention I craved the most. I gradually became aware that I would push my own needs down further in the name of empathy and kindness to accommodate the people I believed should reciprocate that kindness, hoping that by meeting their needs, they would recognize my worth and value in their lives. The more the kindness wasn’t reciprocated, the more I would make myself smaller to fit, and the more resentment and anger I would feel when my actions went unnoticed. That anger and resentment would build, bubbling inside me like a closed-capped, shaken-up soda bottle: ready to explode if opened, but always capped shut because I was too afraid of losing the wrong people to let those emotions out.Even then, I subconsciously understood that, while my kindness was well-intended, it was also rooted in a need that I couldn’t satisfy for myself, on my own: a need to be seen, needed, valued, and loved. I genuinely believed that the only way to satisfy that internal need was through external validation. And patterns—even when we have the most acute awareness of them—are hard to break. Despite that growing awareness, I continued to put myself through what felt like an unsolvable cycle: people-pleasing, minimizing myself, and building up deep layers of anger that I’m still working through because I couldn't value myself enough to stand up for myself.It’s a pattern I’m still working on breaking today, all these years later. To break it, I needed to want to break it, which meant unwinding nearly thirty years of a personality I thought I needed to be valuable, so I could become the woman I had always dreamed of being.&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/i_am_nice2_c74a6a18d6.webp" alt="i-am-nice2.webp"></figure>&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">I have leaned into it even more in recent years,&nbsp; purple-penning my way through a problem or conflict&nbsp; to a solution that feels best to me.</h4><hr>These days, I have been leaning into:<ol style="list-style-type:decimal;"><li style="text-align:justify;">Journaling: Writing has always been a cathartic outlet, and I have leaned into it even more in recent years, purple-penning my way through a problem or conflict to a solution that feels best to me.</li><li style="text-align:justify;">Having an accountability buddy: When I feel unable to set a boundary against the people-pleasing tendency, I ask my husband or a close friend to remind me to maintain it.</li><li style="text-align:justify;">Trying new things: Pushing myself out of my comfort zone helps me get to know myself better, understand what I enjoy, and gain clarity on who I want to be.</li></ol>I also recently began presence-based coaching, which combines mindfulness, somatic <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/practices-for-human-flourishing" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">awareness</a>, and neuroscience for self-discovery with someone I deeply trust. I shared with her the story of how my therapist treated my response about being nice with so much disdain. My coach reminded me that “nice” and “kind” are words that define how we interact mostly with other people, not common terms for how we engage with ourselves.I am seeing the rewards of the work. I am more self-aware of both my flaws and my draws. I am not as quick to fall back into my people-pleasing tendencies. I reflect on what feels best for me before responding to someone else. I feel surrounded by people who value me for me, not for what I can offer them. It’s a good start.These days, my answer to the question, “What is the characteristic of yourself you are most proud of?” would probably vary, depending on the day. On some days, I would probably still say that my kindness and empathy are now reinforced by stronger boundaries. On other days, I would say resilience, my ability to bounce back and keep trying even after failure. Recently, I retook the Hogwarts Sorting House quiz and was surprised to find a new result: Ravenclaw, curious, witty, insightful.I hope I never lose the ability to be nice, empathetic, and kind to others. I still very much believe that those are essential qualities that will keep us all connected, as the world continues to feel even more disconnected. But I hope I continue to lean into the discomfort of growth, that I never fall back into the pattern of staying stagnant in what feels more comfortable. The work to get through the harder parts to reach my truest self is not always easy. The reward of that work, however, is starting to feel worth it.&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/i_am_nice3_055c1ac545.webp" alt="i-am-nice3.webp"></figure>&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">The work to get through&nbsp; the harder parts to reach&nbsp; my truest self is not always easy.&nbsp; The reward of that work, however,&nbsp; is starting to feel worth it. &nbsp;</h4><hr>&nbsp;

Do You Want to Be Around Me Just Because I’m Nice?

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<h4>MANAV DAVE is looking toward a hopeful future, thanks to the inspiration and action of the Gen Zs, and despite the challenges they face.</h4><hr>Take a second to think about this current moment in time. There is a lot to process. In the past two years alone, the Covid pandemic has managed to expose the cracks in our social, economic, and political systems, and has left us wondering whether there is anywhere left to go from here.But the situation has also led to uncovering some very unlikely heroes. While the powers that be are combatting our problems with old and ineffective solutions, a new generation of heroes has emerged to create the world we deserve. Whether it is through harnessing the potential of the Internet and social media, or changing the frameworks and definitions of equity and equality, one thing is for sure: the next generation is ready to make change, and is not afraid to shake things up along the way.From the youngest woman of color to serve in the American Congress, to the youngest person to win a Nobel Peace Prize, this past decade has been full of firsts. Another important first to acknowledge is the Internet. From the first email sent in 1971, to Facebook in 2004, Instagram in 2010, and most recently, TikTok in 2016, this generation has been raised on the Internet and has managed to harness its potential to communicate effectively, and create and organize mass movements for change.One of the first examples of technology bringing people together was Facebook during the Egyptian Revolution of 2011 to overthrow President Hosni Mubarak. Since then, the use of social media to mobilize change has become more effective, with Greta Thunberg using Facebook to encourage Fridays for Future climate strikes, and the rapid escalation and coming together during the Black Lives Matter movement. This generation uses the powers of technology to their advantage.<hr><hr><h4>One thing is for sure: the next generation is ready to make change, and is not afraid to shake things up along the way.</h4><hr><hr>Gen Z, the group of people born from around 1995 to 2010, is said to have the highest diversity in terms of race, class, and gender identity. Combined with increased access to digital platforms, this has led to a generation that is changing the way we look at tolerance, equality, and equity. Some of the social issues that matter most to Gen Zs are equitable access to healthcare, racial equity, and climate change, showing a shift from a self-serving mindset to a humanitarian one.This is not to say that this generation is without demons. The Internet comes with its own set of dangers, and Gen Zsare sometimes inhibited in their ability to form real-world connections and sustain the impact created by mass mobilization. Behavior trends like cancel culture and social media frenzy often make it difficult to understand the dimensionality of an issue and find a proper solution. If Gen Zs are truly going to bring change, they will need to channel their enthusiasm and passion, and also develop the maturity and depth of understanding required to create a long-standing, sustainable, and equitable impact.From Greta Thunberg to Amanda Gorman to Malala Yousafzai, they are making strides in every area – environmental activism, art, racial equality, and education for all. They are ready to use what they have and know to bring a magnitude of change that has never been seen before. More importantly, they are hopeful, and not taking no for an answer.To sum it all up, as Greta Thunberg said, “We can no longer let the people in power decide what is politically possible. We can no longer let the people in power decide what hope is. Hope is not passive. Hope is telling the truth. Hope is action.” And above all, what the next generation promises is hope for a better future.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/why_the_next_generation2_51319c1ea7.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-11T14:00:09.089Z" alt="why-the-next-generation2">

Why the next generation will take us where we need to be

Manilal Roopa is a retired educator and facilitator. He lives in Port Elizabeth, South Africa. He became a Heartfulness trainer in 1991, and continues to work in this role.

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Manilal Roopa

<h4 style="text-align:justify;">MANILAL ROOPA lives in Port Elizabeth, Eastern Cape, South Africa. He is retired after a career as an educator and facilitator for over 50 years, and continues to work as a Heartfulness trainer, which he has done for over 30 years. As a “colored” under Apartheid in South Africa, he has been through much and seen a lot of social change during his life, radiating peacefulness and love throughout.</h4>“As-salamu alaykum.” May peace be upon you. “Wa alaykumu s-salaam.” And may peace be upon you too.Over two billion people around the world exchange this beautiful greeting. It is in Arabic and uttered by every Muslim several times a day. Over a quarter of the world’s population are greeting each other with this prayer for peace. I am honored that many of my Muslim friends greet me this way.<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/may_peace_upon_you2_7f98656f90.jpg"></figure>Over a billion Hindus greet each other by joining their palms and saying “Namaste,” meaning “I bow to the Divine in you.”Over three billion Christians refer to Jesus as the “Prince of Peace,” and many say the prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi:&nbsp;Lord, make me an instrument of your peace:&nbsp; where there is hatred, let me sow love;&nbsp; where there is injury, pardon;&nbsp; where there is doubt, faith;&nbsp; where there is despair, hope;&nbsp; where there is darkness, light;&nbsp; where there is sadness, joy.O divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek&nbsp; to be consoled as to console,&nbsp; to be understood as to understand,&nbsp; to be loved as to love.&nbsp; For it is in giving that we receive,&nbsp; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,&nbsp; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.&nbsp; Amen.My silent prayer is that more and more of us embrace this idea of peace every day of our lives.&nbsp;Daaji, the global guide of Heartfulness, encourages us to send out subtle suggestions daily into the universe:Everything around me is absorbing peace; the air, the oceans, the trees, the structures, the animals and humans. All are radiating peace.All humanity is becoming peaceful, showing more compassion, more kindness, and more love.The world may be in turmoil, the antithesis to peace: Russia and Ukraine, the conflict in Sudan, Palestine, North and South Korea, the riots in France, and political turmoil in several countries.&nbsp;Our past is replete with similar chaos, skirmishes, invasions, and wars. What we are witnessing is not new. A few centuries ago, European countries were constantly at war. Furthermore, in as much as religions advocate peace and harmony among all, the spread of some major religions are premised on brutal conversions.Babuji, the founding spiritual guide of Heartfulness, summed it up poignantly:“Religion divides, spirituality unites.”The term peacefulness is nuanced on the noun peace. It connotes more than individual peace – a world full of peace. As our hearts become full of love, serenity, peace, gratitude, and humility, our world will be transformed into a world of peacefulness.Om Dyauh Shantir-Antariksham Shanti Prathivi Shantir – Apah Shantir Omshadayah Shanti Vanaspatayah Shanti&nbsp;&nbsp; Vishve Devah Shantir Brahma Shanti Sarvam Shanti Shantireva Shanti Sa Ma Shantiir-Edhi Om Shanti Shanti ShantiIt means, “O Supreme Creator, may there be peace in the sky, may there be peace in all the celestial regions, may the earth be at peace. The water, the medicinal and nutritious herbs, the trees and plants all be at peace. Let there be peace in all the elements of nature. Let everything in which You exist be at peace. Let peace reign everywhere. Finally, may that glorious peace abide in me. May there be peace, peace, peace.”This is a prayer for peace uttered by over a billion Hindus.&nbsp;With half the world’s population praying for peace every day, I envisage a state of peacefulness reigning in the hearts of humanity in the not too distant future. May more and more of us embrace this idea of peace every day of our lives.<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/may_peace_upon_you3_c7d6ddc31e.jpg"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">With half the world’s population praying for peace every day,&nbsp; I envisage a state of peacefulness reigning in the hearts of humanity in the not too distant future.</h4><hr>&nbsp;

May peace be upon you

Dr. Kulkarni is an orthopedic surgeon from Pune, India. He is the Associate Director of the Heartfulness CME Program, and a dedicated professional with expertise in counseling, training, and consulting. He interprets time management through the Eisenhower Matrix, offering practical ways of energizing our time.

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Manish Kulkarni

<h3 style="text-align:center;">STRATEGIES FOR MAXIMIZING PRODUCTIVITY AND WELL-BEING</h3><h4 style="text-align:justify;">DR. MANISH KULKARNI is a busy man! So he has created an approach to time management that allows him to focus on what’s important and disregard what’s not.</h4>Time is an infinite space and can create miracles. Twenty-four hours of time is always a stretchable period. We can accomplish much more in less time and practically nothing in maximum time.Time management is the process of planning and exercising conscious control of time—what time we spend on specific activities, especially to increase effectiveness, efficiency, and productivity. When we see good time management, it requires an important shift in focus, from activities to results. Being busy is not the same as being effective or productive. Good time management allows you to work smarter, not harder, so you can get more done in less time.<h4 style="text-align:justify;">Why is it difficult to manage time?</h4>The main reasons for poor time management are:<ul><li style="text-align:justify;">Lack of prioritization</li><li style="text-align:justify;">Absence of optimal organization&nbsp;</li><li style="text-align:justify;">Procrastination</li><li style="text-align:justify;">Distraction</li></ul>&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/energise_your_time2_caced6e7d8.jpg" alt="energise-your-time2.jpg" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_energise_your_time2_caced6e7d8.jpg 222w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/small_energise_your_time2_caced6e7d8.jpg 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/medium_energise_your_time2_caced6e7d8.jpg 750w," sizes="100vw"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">When we start managing our time and benefit from it,&nbsp; we feel more in control of our day.&nbsp; We become more aware of the time we spend on unproductive activities&nbsp; and realize we want to spend more time on productive activities.</h4><hr><h4 style="text-align:justify;">Benefits of proper time management</h4>When we start managing our time and benefit from it, we feel more in control of our day. We become more aware of the time we spend on unproductive activities and realize we want to spend more time on productive activities. So we naturally become more productive in our work, and in our daily activities. We are able to focus longer on what we are doing and, more importantly, we make time for meaningful activities.<h4 style="text-align:justify;">Five helpful pointers for time management</h4><ol style="list-style-type:decimal;"><li>Start your day early by arriving early at work.</li><li>Plan your day the night before.</li><li>Prioritize tasks.</li><li>Take care of yourself right from the start till the end of the day.</li><li>Take small breaks in between daily activities, which energizes your time.</li></ol><h4 style="text-align:justify;">Using the Eisenhower Matrix</h4>Dwight David Eisenhower was a former US President who developed a matrix to divide your daily activities according to important and not important, urgent and not urgent. Based on these divisions, a daily chart can be divided into four quadrants to highlight:<ol style="list-style-type:decimal;"><li>The most important and urgent work that needs to be done right now.</li><li>Non-urgent but important work which can be scheduled at some later time.</li><li>Urgent work that is not important, which can be delegated to someone else, and</li><li>Non-urgent work that is not important, which can be removed.</li></ol><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/energise_your_time3_bd62f74695.jpg" alt="energise-your-time3.jpg" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_energise_your_time3_bd62f74695.jpg 158w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/small_energise_your_time3_bd62f74695.jpg 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure>But in our day to day activities, we often spend more time doing non-urgent, unimportant tasks, and when we decide to focus on the urgent and important tasks the day is nearly over and we are tired. So the Eisenhower matrix is a great tool.<h4 style="text-align:justify;">Ways to energize yourself</h4>Leo Tolstoy once said, “The two most powerful warriors in life are patience and time.” How can we positively jump start our day? One way is with a simple gratitude list. This list can also be done prior to going to sleep. A second way is exercise, which stimulates endorphins, enhances cognitive performance, and kickstarts the day with a feeling of accomplishment. And a third way is to recite positive affirmations or intentions, which will help you affirm yourself and the work you are going to do.They also help improve personal relationships, enhance decision-making capabilities, and prevent missed opportunities in the haste of the day. You can accomplish much more.Create an achievable and realistic list of goals for a day, knowing your limitations. Share appreciation for others, and also appreciate your own deeds. It helps you to live an optimal life.For all this to work out, adjust your mindset. Train your mind to try new things, to adapt to changes, and to face new challenges. Take time for growth. And that’s where Heartfulness Meditation comes into play: “The whole exercise of fine-tuning the heart with the mind is through meditation on the heart.” (Daaji)When we take the time to refine our hearts, we can save so much time, as the heart takes care of the mind.&nbsp;

Energize your time

Marg Patel is Daaji’s youngest son. He is a Heartfulness trainer and a multi-generational business owner in the pharmaceutical and real estate sectors. He also contributes to multiple Heartfulness projects, supporting infrastructure design and development.

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Marg Patel

<h4>MARG PATEL reflects on love and continuity in the Heartfulness tradition through his observations of his father, DAAJI, and the Masters who came before him.</h4>I never knew Lalaji. I never met Babuji. Their names came not as faces or voices, but as figures emerging from stories, silences, and my father’s words. As a kid, I listened but didn’t understand. As an adult, I listen again and now hear something new beneath the words: a love that burned so intensely, it left no trace.I learned about Babuji’s love for his Master, Lalaji, from my father. That love wasn’t based on closeness or time together. It was stronger and rarer. Babuji loved Lalaji so deeply that, even after his passing, his physical absence had no meaning.People understand that a moth can burn itself in a living flame. But they might also say that it doesn’t make sense to give yourself to a flame that has gone out, or to give your whole being to a master who is no longer physically present. Yet, this is exactly what Babuji did. He set himself on fire in the essence of Lalaji’s spirit, keeping the flame alive by becoming its continuation; by becoming the very flame that his Master was.My father said Babuji never saw Lalaji as someone from the past. That love wasn’t nostalgic; it was driven by loyalty. Babuji lived for Lalaji, taking him not as a memory but as an Order, Guide, and Inner Authority. Loving that way takes courage. When the Master can still see you, devotion is easy. But to obey Silence or <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/the-afterglow-of-their-love" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">shape your life</a> around an Inward Presence that offers no outward comfort? That is different.And then there’s my father’s love, first for Babuji and then for Chariji. I didn’t learn this through words either. I learned it by observing how he lives in the world. His honesty, confidence, and unwavering commitment to truth have always distinguished him. He doesn’t distort the truth to make people comfortable or try to gain their approval. I realize now that that firmness is a sign of love. &nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">I didn’t get to meet Lalaji or Babuji, but I do get to&nbsp; live in the afterglow of their love.&nbsp; And through my father, I see that a flame lit&nbsp; by a love never burns out.&nbsp; It simply passes from one to another,&nbsp; and with each transfer, a silent question follows:&nbsp; Are you willing to burn in love?</h4><hr>&nbsp;I see this characteristic reflected in my father’s relationship with Babuji and Chariji. He has never tried to copy them; instead, he strives to be open with them. There is quiet respect behind his firm tone of voice, as if he’s still listening to himself and checking against something greater than his own opinion. In this way, he has always remained consistent.As his son, what strikes me most is something I find difficult to put into words. I see in my father an irrefutable need for universal love in the world, even though he’s strict, diligent, and holds a prominent global position. It’s not sentimental love. Not love as an emotion. But a love that unites people instead of dividing them—above all, a love that desires connection rather than recognition.As my father shared stories of the Masters' lives, it never felt like a <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/hildegard-von-bingen" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">biography</a>, but always like a blessing—something that came alive in how we lived. The stories of past Masters helped shape how we understood love, so in our family, love rarely felt excessive. You wouldn’t see it outwardly; it always stayed balanced. Each act in our family life was free of personal claims, so the ego wouldn’t affect the Master’s work. There was always a desire to let go so something better could emerge.Perhaps this is how the Heartfulness lineage survives—not through titles or the strength of institutions, but through a hunger for eternal love. Lalaji’s flame burned in Babuji, Babuji’s clarity burned in Chariji, and Chariji’s refinement burns in my father. And what passes on further is not personality, but an insistence on truth, a refusal to compromise essence, and a love willing to consume itself for something greater.I didn’t get to meet Lalaji or Babuji, but I do get to live in the afterglow of their love. And through my father, I see that a flame lit by a love never burns out. It simply passes from one to another, and with each transfer, a silent question follows: Are you willing to burn in love?

The Afterglow of Their Love

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Margaret J. Wheatley

The Power of Shared Purpose

Margaret Mead

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Human potentialities

Margaret has been a Heartfulness trainer since 1994. She is Professor Emeritas, University of Colorado, Department of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation. She is known for her research on Parkinson’s disease, and her current work looks at the impact of Heartfulness on the well-being of health professional students.

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