CHITRA MADHAVI shares a young person’s perspective on relationships.

The word ‘relationship’ can mean many things. It may be the bond between a mother and son, sister and brother, friends or acquaintances. It may be a romance, a teacher-student relationship, a professional relationship, or even a connection with a person we meet once in our life, or speak to over the phone. It encompasses all the connections people share.

It is also a term used to describe the way in which people treat each other. Each relationship shared is unique. For example, the way we behave with a teacher is definitely different from the way we behave with an aunt. But also the way we interact and feel around two different teachers can also be very different. For any relationship to develop in a healthy way, we need to trust, accept, be open-minded, loyal, kind, make good memories, wish well, respect, be reliable, communicate, understand and of course love the ‘other’ in the relationship. But thankfully, all these qualities need not be forcefully imbibed; they can become a part of us naturally as we spend time with the other person.

When we think of relationships, we usually associate them with others. We rarely consider a relationship with ourselves. I believe it is one of the most important bonds we can have, as it becomes the foundation or basis for all the other relationships we have.

To maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves we need faith in the choices we make, we need to love ourselves and learn to enjoy our own company. How to empathize with ourselves when things don’t go the way we expect? How to communicate with ourselves, in the sense of not being afraid to live according to the values we feel are important? How to accept our flaws and not try to hide them? And as we learn to respect ourselves we discover who we truly are, and begin to use our abilities to the full potential. Then our so-called flaws don’t hold us back at all, but make us original. Truly and simply extraordinary.



Chitra Madhavi

Chitra Madhavi