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Tori Amos

Be your own person

Tracie is a LCSW, who has been working in the social service field since 1991. Her work has included Peace Corps in West Africa and trauma recovery with survivors in Chicago. Tracie offers culturally sensitive treatment focusing on individual strengths, self-love and connection.



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Tracie Pape

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 TRACIE PAPE is a clinical social worker,
 therapist, and longtime Heartfulness Meditation trainer, who works in the crisis area of mental health. Tracie
 questions how she is showing up for herself, and encourages all of us to ask ourselves the same
 questions.
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<h5 class="has-text-align-center">“Loneliness does not come from having no people around you, but from being unable
 to communicate the things that seem important to you.” – Carl Jung</h5>



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As all of us emerge from the global pandemic, we are experiencing challenges unlike anything we have ever encountered
 before. I work in the mental health field in the area of crisis, and have witnessed first-hand the impact the
 pandemic has had on mental health. Many who struggled with depression or anxiety prior to the pandemic found the
 symptoms exacerbated by the stress of isolation and fear. One thing I noticed, even with myself, was an increased
 sense of loneliness. This observation has been a catalyst for me to consider what helps me connect to others and
 what gets in the way.



Systemic racism and intergenerational trauma have been at the forefront of mental health issues for social workers
 during this time. The impact of oppression, inequity of resources and support, parents with untreated mental health
 concerns, and lack of education or stigma about mental health can keep many of us in the dark.



Anxiety can keep our nervous system on high alert and sensitive to perceived rejection or judgment. Depression can
 keep us hidden away to protect ourselves from rejection or judgment. During the past two years, most of us have felt
 these emotions to varying degrees. When these states are chronical, we are disconnected from ourselves and others.




Personally, the importance of connecting to myself has been reinforced as I prepare to send my youngest son off to
 college. I have spent many years focusing on being a mother, while also helping others professionally. One of the
 most enjoyable parts about being a parent has been watching my children grow into their own persons, and identify
 their values and unique gifts. Through conversations with my boys, I have realized that a lot of what I try to
 instill and teach others are things I am still struggling to incorporate into my life.



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<h4 class="has-text-align-center">When I am kind to myself in
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While giving feedback to others at work, I often think to myself, “Am I doing this in my own life?” The idea that we
 teach what we need to learn has been popping up a lot for me lately.



As I encourage others to practice self-compassion and take care of themselves, how often am I putting that into
 practice?



Self-compassion is essential if I am to step aside from negative or fearful thoughts about myself and the world, and
 attend to myself with love and kindness. The Chicago South Side Irish mindset I have inherited can often tell me,
 “keep this to yourself,” and “if you worked harder, you wouldn’t feel this way.” The awareness that some of my core
 beliefs are a result of upbringing rather than inadequacies has been liberating. Resmaa Menakem’s book My
 Grandmother’s Hand resonated with me on a very profound level by showing me how much of what I feel in my
 body is inherited or contextual, and it is up to me to respond differently.



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The assumption that we are all doing the best we can has helped free me from self-judgment. When I am kind to myself
 in the same way I am often kind to others, I feel the connection with them more deeply. This has been the key for me
 to feel included and loved. By loving myself, I am able to see, feel, and respond to the kindness and love of
 others. Sometimes, loneliness can set in when we are not looking out for it, or allowing ourselves to feel the bids
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Are you showing up for yourself?

Self-care in the midst of crisis

<h4>This is an invitation from TRACIE PAPE to practice Peacefulness and see what the simple and powerful intentions can create within you and in others.</h4>“Let there be Peace on Earth and let it begin with me.”&nbsp; —Vince GillGrowing up in the Catholic Church, singing this song was my favorite part of the mass. With everyone singing in unison, a sense of connectedness would arise each Sunday when we sang the chorus. For those who meditate, Peacefulness feels like this hymn. Many traditions focus on the importance of love for all and working for a more peaceful world.&nbsp;As a longtime Heartfulness practitioner and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, my understanding of the role spirituality plays in our well-being has evolved. Suffering is an inevitable part of human existence. A common reaction to suffering is to withdraw and isolate in an attempt to protect others from experiencing our distress. Loneliness is one of the most significant factors in contributing to human suffering. One of the greatest gifts we can receive and offer is presence and bearing witness to pain. This is support in its purest form and offers balm for the soul. Presence is manifested in Peacefulness and allowing all to exist as they are, sending out the intention that we can live in harmony with ourselves and each other.I can practice this even when not physically connected to others. I often think of Peacefulness as a pregnant pause. It is a pause and an intention full of potential, unknown and unseen. Before I meditate, before I work, before I interact with others, I pause and enter a state of Peacefulness, allowing me to connect with my values and highest intentions. Peacefulness makes space for stillness, reflection, and intent.Peacefulness allows me to feel connected with others and all beings in that pause, reflection, and intent. I experience Peacefulness as self-compassion turned outward. When I send out an intention for peace, kindness, compassion, and love, I am connecting with that place within me that experiences that condition and hopes for others to experience it. When I practice self-compassion, I tap into the idea that I am already enough as I am, which supports self-love and self-acceptance. Peacefulness helps me tap into this idea that we are all enough as we are, with the intention of spreading this awareness and insight.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Peacefulness helps me tap into this idea&nbsp; that we are all enough as we are, with the intention of spreading this awareness and insight.</h4><hr>As we invite others to practice Peacefulness, it is a collective intent to see where this can take us together. Practice pausing and using the Peacefulness intentions to stay in touch with what is really important. This simple act can reduce reactivity, resistance, and conflict when engaging with others. It is possible to set an intention to focus on connection and well-being above all else. This is an opportunity to see what our collective intentions can create for us, our families, friends, and communities.Peacefulness creates an avenue to connect with that place in us that longs for connection, love, and peace. It also connects with that place in others. We have all experienced pain and hardship that have created barriers to peace and acceptance. This allows us to have compassion for the suffering in others. Peacefulness increases our capacity to understand others’ pain and have compassion for suffering humanity.<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/My_Fellow_Travelers2_8e9faf9b7d.jpg"></figure>We may never know the impact our thoughts and intentions have, so engaging in Peacefulness can be an act of hope. Join me in practicing Peacefulness to channel hope for humanity, to remember that we are all connected, and that we all long for self-love and a sense of belonging.<a href="https://www.peacefulness.org/our-intentions">https://www.peacefulness.org/our-intentions</a>For those of you feeling a calling to practice Peacefulness, we will create the path and future of this approach, and we will see where it takes us together. Cheers to my fellow travelers and I look forward to this journey together.“Peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding.”&nbsp; —Albert Einstein<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/My_Fellow_Travelers3_739b388061.jpg"></figure>

My fellow travelers

Trevor Weltman is a business leader and writer who currently lives with his wife and two daughters in the US. Daily, he reads books of all flavours, from self-help to sci-fi, management theory to graphic novels, and actively applies everything he learns to his attempt at cracking further the code of this thing we call life.

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Trevor Weltman

<h4>TREVOR WELTMAN’s honest appraisal of life in lockdown, with his wife and two young daughters in busy Bangkok, is a refreshing look at how to navigate and transcend the expectations and tensions that surface when we are thrown together for months on end in close quarters without all our normal support structures. Best of all, the outcome is positive and inspirational!</h4>Anything we ever said, ‘I’ll deal with that later. I will feel that later. I will think about that later,’ will come up in meditation, because by meditating you are saying to life, ‘OK, later is NOW. Bring it on.’”—Dr. Lorin RocheOftentimes we use metaphors from our daily life to elucidate concepts in meditation or spirituality that are ineffable or abstract – from the term “enlightened” itself to “summiting the mountain,” “walking the path” to “accruing inner wealth.” Even the great saint Kabir is able to distil the enormously important but difficult concept of cosmic mergence into the ever-accessible “drop of water joining the ocean.”In this way, metaphors are the lighthouses of understanding and the security blankets of language: when faced with what we don’t know or cannot fully comprehend, they balm our intellect and guide our consciousness safely back through the abstraction to more familiar harbors.But what happens when what we’re experiencing is truly novel? What if it is without comparison? How to make sense of something that virtually no one alive today or in the recent past has credibly experienced?What happens when we are without metaphor?I believe this has been one of the most difficult parts of COVID for me, and I would venture for many others as well. As the second wave of the virus intensifies around the world, and as its health, economic, and social impacts all deepen, we are truly in uncharted territory.Certainly there are lessons we can learn from the 1918 Spanish Flu, the 2008 Great Financial Crisis, and the Ebola and SARS crises respectively, to help us better manage the current pandemic. However, I find these past examples don’t do much to help us understand how to feel about what’s happening, and that’s problematic. For none of these previous crises has unilaterally disrupted the lives of most of the seven billion people on planet Earth at the same scale as COVID, nor led to what will in time be looked back upon as the impetus behind the great rethinking and reorganizing of our international politics and national economies.This time period will also be remembered as the great reorganizer of our homes, our families, our priorities, and – as I’ve come to see – our expectations for ourselves and our loved ones.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/choosing_growth2_img_2b4a1d24e5.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-06T06:13:18.743Z" alt="choosing-growth2">So, without any external event to help me make better sense of COVID in a holistic way, my theory at the outset of lockdown was simple: begin actively seeking parallels between my spiritual life and what I have experienced in meditation, to help me better understand my experience of the pandemic.Before I get much further, though, I must admit that this “lofty” idea was born of much less glamorous and enlightened circumstances. In fact, it was an essential coping mechanism. The rigors of isolating in place with two children under four in a country that neither my wife nor I call home was taking a tremendous toll on our marriage.I’m not suggesting that the emergent term “COVID-divorce” was a foregone conclusion; far from it. Rather, we were not in sync as the newness and stresses of lockdown, and the greater uncertainties surrounding COVID, had created and exacerbated new tensions between us.Or had it?It was then I began to realize that lockdown – like Dr. Roche’s quote about how meditation tells life to “Bring it on” – wasn’t actually the cause of the issues we were experiencing. Instead, it was a focusing event, like meditation, that was forcing us to confront the myriad issues we already had, all at the same time.On the surface, these issues seemed interpersonal. She was angry that I was on back-to-back Zoom calls all day long, while I was incredulous at her saying she didn’t have time for herself when she was managing to watch a few hours of Korean dramas and choosing to bake complicated recipes every day.Couldn’t I see she was under water managing the kids?Couldn’t she see I was doing all I could to ensure our continued livelihood and that of all the staff who depend on me?Yet, as the comparison of meditation and lockdown crystallized further in my mind, the truth I came to realize was that these issues were actually just personal to each of us. Deeply so.In other words, deep inside me and deep inside her resided two very different sets of ideals and expectations of what it meant to live well, as well as a raft of expectations for the other person to change and fit these ideals.Thing is, these expectations and ideals, such as support, time management, balance, and even home tidiness, were all based on normal operating circumstances pre-COVID: kids at day care 5+ hours a day, me at the office, access to yoga, the gym, days out, days off, and a weekend that actually felt like a weekend etc.But even then, we still managed to fight and disagree about these differing expectations every single day! In fact, in retrospect, these unspoken and unasked expectations for daily things were the largest source of pain in our marriage.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/choosing_growth3_img_dec7311541.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-06T06:13:18.719Z" alt="choosing-growth3">&nbsp;<hr>Meditation is in no way separate from anything you do during the day, all your relationships, and your whole purpose on Earth.<hr>Many of these expectations couldn’t have been more incongruent with our situation during lockdown. And yet, we were both muddling through a kind of passive despair over what was happening to us, instead of embracing one of the most profound lessons taught by meditation, namely, that our experience of lockdown, as does every experience, was in fact happening through us.Dr. Roche builds on this idea in the same essay when he writes:“Meditation is in no way separate from anything you do during the day, all your relationships, and your whole purpose on Earth. In every meditation, you will have to sort through all the stuff in your mind and heart, and if anything is out of balance, you will feel it intensely. If you have wronged someone, or left an important conversation unfinished, you will find your attention going to it again and again. If you want to go any deeper in meditation, you will have to bring some resolution to your outer situations, otherwise your meditation will start to feel stalemated. So you’ll find yourself adjusting your behavior in daily life to be more ethical, to minimize the amount of your meditation time that is taken up by processing the residue of the day. In other words, in <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/music-is-a-spiritual-experience" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">meditation every day</a> you will have a small degree of the insight people have on their deathbed, where they wish they had lived their lives.”In the same way meditation isn’t separate from the rest of our life, lockdown isn’t a separation from our pre-COVID life either. It is an intensified continuation of it. Akin to “marriage” or “parenting” or simply “life” on “hard mode,” we found ourselves without our ritual distractions of the gym, or yoga, or work, or whatever to hide behind when tensions flared.Thus it drew our expectations out into the open. As we began openly asking each other for the kind of support we needed, lest we kept suffering in silence or exploding in anger, we were able to work through the “residue” of our marriage that existed pre-COVID and ultimately go deeper into our relationship as a result.But, like meditation, it isn’t easy. Speaking so plainly with your spouse about what you need or don’t need as support is difficult. You may get that support, or a multi-day argument, or you may need to give up an expectation to preserve equanimity, or realize you are being unrealistic, which also hurts in and of itself. But, by doing so there is at least a more honest foundation to grow into and through (there are also fewer desires floating about, which is healthy in its own right, and could be the subject for another article).So, no, we didn’t choose to go into lockdown and cut ourselves off from our families and social and professional networks for months on end, but – like how we choose to meditate to work on ourselves – we have improved our relationship during lockdown by choosing to hit pause, accept the situation, reorient our expectations, and take responsibility for how we feel.<img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/choosing_growth4_img_60a5f8644d.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-06T06:13:18.737Z">As hard as it is to write about a shared global experience, I am attempting to do so, because I find many strong, resilient people I know are now at their wits end. Lockdown was manageable for them when it seemed it would be just a few months. But faced with the prospect of another six months, or more, of severely limited movement, and mounting worries about income and jobs, they are starting to cave in to the loneliness, the feeling of being cooped up, and the feeling that life is fully beyond their control.Make no mistake about it, I believe this is all going to get worse before it gets better. So, to gird our sanity as this intensifies, we need to help each other find those metaphors from our life before COVID, wherein we succeeded, excelled, grew, and proactively took charge of our lives.For those with experience in meditation, lean into it as I have. Make it your metaphor. It is the perfect training for dealing with the challenges of uncertainty and isolation posed by lockdown, because it teaches us to address how we feel without brooding, so we can take responsibility for our feelings without succumbing to them. In these troubled times, this is a precious experience to have, and, as my wife and I found out, a critical skill to navigating the uncertainties.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Article by TREVOR WELTMAN Illustrations by GAYATRI PACHPANDE</h4><hr>

Choosing Growth

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 ON CROSSING THE BRIDGE OF YOUNG ADULTHOOD
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 TREVOR WELTMAN describes the rite of
 passage he has experienced moving from youth to adulthood, how he
 navigated this crossing, and how meditation and yogic Transmission
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 “When I was young, there were very
 few elders willing to talk about the darkness; 
 most of them pretended that success was all they had ever known. 
 As the darkness began to descend on me in my early twenties, 
 I thought I had developed a unique and terminal case of failure. 
 I did not realize that I had merely embarked on a journey toward joining
 the human race.” 


 Parker J. Palmer&nbsp;

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 Traversing young adulthood in modern times is like hiking with a group of
 close friends and coming upon an unavoidable rope bridge covered in fog:
 the only way forward is through, but of suspicious carrying capacity and
 wide enough for only one person, you’re suddenly forced to go it alone,
 yet can’t see more than an arm’s length in any direction, say nothing of
 the other side.
 


 You intend to walk slowly and deliberately, but are beset by primal fear
 pushing from behind, uncertain if the failure and therefore danger of your
 next step will send you down simply a half meter into shallow water, or a
 thousand to a point of no return, or instead just reward you with another
 opportunity to continue inching your way forward into further
 unknowns.


 So you pick up your foot, place it down, and …


 Do you decide to give up and try your best to return back to the places
 and people you just came from, or do you feel the ropes underhand and
 choose to trust they are leading you toward the where and the who you’re
 supposed to become?


 This idea, while pitifully telegraphic, is the best articulation I have
 for how I oftentimes felt during my twenties.


 And whether you’re still out there standing on the bridge right now, or
 you’ve already passed on through, you know precisely the feeling I am
 referring to: the desperation, the shock at finding yourself so suddenly
 alone, the feeling that no one really understands or cares, the pressure
 that it’s all on you to make these important life decisions with little to
 no confidence or experience to back them up, and the overall lack of
 clarity over where you’re headed.


 This was exhausting, and as I reflect now on my experience
 “crossing the bridge” over the last ten years, the single thing above all
 that stands out to me as the root cause of pain on my journey was the
 extreme pressure I constantly felt to have had my life more figured out
 than it actually was at any given moment.
 

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 Meditation helped, but not entirely
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 I’ll be the first person to tell you how beneficial it was to have a
 sustained and disciplined meditation practice during my twenties. In fact,
 I would even go as far as saying that my meditation practice is why I –
 unlike so many others – didn’t wind up with anxiety, depression, panic, or
 drug or alcohol abuse. While meditation cannot cure these things, as a
 preventative it gave me the inner tools and resources I needed to cope
 with young adulthood that many of my peers didn’t develop.

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 And yet, I may be the first person to tell you that meditation in and of
 itself wasn’t the decisive factor. As a purely mental or emotional
 training I did for about 90 minutes every day, I benefited from
 Heartfulness in all the ways you’d expect to benefit from virtually any
 other sustained meditation practice: greater focus, greater concentration,
 greater relaxation, greater empathy, greater sense of purpose, and a
 greater ability to center myself during particularly trying times.


 But what about the chronic, unrelenting pressure? What about the
 loneliness? What about the devastating lack of confidence I felt almost
 every day about the important life decisions I had to make or was putting
 off ?


 Thus, meditation helped, but not entirely. While it no doubt helped
 ground me where I was, while I was still there, there was another force at
 play that gave me general confidence in the direction I was headed.

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 Yogic Transmission was my source of solace and confidence
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 The fact of the matter is this: I have been meditating in Heartfulness
 for nearly 13 years now and a trainer for over 10. In addition to my own
 practice, I have conducted literally thousands of introductory meditation
 sessions and given hundreds of talks and lectures around the world about
 this practice since 2007.
 


 And you know what? The absolute last thing I want to talk about or write
 about publicly or privately is pranahuti or yogic Transmission.
 It’s the key aspect of Heartfulness, the “secret sauce” if you will, and I
 have no words or desire to describe it.

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 If I had to credit one thing above all 
 else that helped me navigate the darkest of times 
 during my passage through young adulthood into full adulthood, 
 it would undoubtedly be the surge of confidence 
 I felt every day in meditation, 
 feeling the yogic Transmission.
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 This is mainly because I feel like I sound crazy talking about something
 that by definition is undefinable. In the books it says “pranahuti
 is the life of life,” an “energy that is not an energy,” and – most
 unhelpfully – a “forceless force.” Furthermore, yogic Transmission is a
 deeply personal experience. It is precisely its undefinable yet
 experiential nature that renders it so intimate and therefore unspeakable
 to me. But, in the hope that my experience with yogic Transmission can
 similarly benefit another person so hopelessly caught “on the bridge,”
 here I am doing my best to share one of my deepest, yet-unspoken truths,
 and it’s this:
 


 If I had to credit one thing above all else that helped me navigate the
 darkest of times during my passage through young adulthood into full
 adulthood, it would undoubtedly be the surge of confidence I felt every
 day in meditation, feeling the yogic Transmission.
 

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 Following the feeling
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 Yogic Transmission helped for two key reasons: first, it feels good.
 


 Like a warm inner hug, or a comforting vibration, yogic Transmission
 cannot be quantified but can absolutely be felt. This is no different than
 love, joy, kindness, and other abstract concepts we are more casually
 comfortable with describing, as yogic Transmission is also “unseen but
 real.”


 To quote one meditator, a mathematician by training and computer
 programmer by profession who used to sit with me many years ago: “This is
 not logical or illogical. The fact that I experience it but can’t quantify
 it means this yogic Transmission thing is actually a-logical, as in, it
 exists outside of any framework for logic I have ever learned, studied, or
 known.”
 


 Thus, at times when I was really feeling anxious or worried about my
 future, this comforting feeling would wash over me and act as a welcome
 counterbalance.

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 From constancy to confidence
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 Second, though, and more important to young people: yogic Transmission
 gave me confidence. It was always there, waiting, ever accessible. No
 matter what was happening around me, I could sit down virtually anywhere
 and feel it in the same quality and volume I could feel it anywhere
 else.


 Such a dependable constant is disproportionally profound for a young
 adult, as this stage of life is defined by its transience – the literal
 passage between youth and adulthood. Thus nothing is constant, and nor is
 it supposed to be!
 


 Everything external is in a constant state of change, from schools to
 jobs, new cities to new people.
 


 We are also changing internally – from new ideas to new identities, new
 dreams to new regrets, new habits to new fears, and also new confidences
 to new insecurities.
 


 But no matter how overwhelmed I felt, I’d sit down. I’d start to
 meditate. And after a few moments …&nbsp;I’d feel the tug on my heart. I’d exhale. I’d smile. And many, many
 times, I’d find my shoulders would untense and lower for the first time
 that day.


 Keep in mind, nothing had actually changed – the pressure still existed
 and was mounting. The job still needed to be found or quit. The girl still
 loved me or didn’t. The move either needed to be made soon or was already
 under way.


 But the feeling overcoming me was the same one I’d felt on all the good
 days, too. It literally connected me in a powerful way to all the amazing
 moments I’d experienced after A+ exams and long nights with friends and
 epic road trips and even my transformational journeys to the far ends of
 Earth, meditating in beautiful places with beautiful people from all over
 the world.


 In essence, then, yogic Transmission, by its constancy above all else,
 taught me that finding balance and sanity during the rapid transitions of
 young adulthood was less about seeing through the fog to know definitively
 where I was headed, than it was about learning to
 reach through each moment I found myself in to
 derive comfort and confidence in every other place I had already been
 and felt, both positive and negative.


 One year north of 30 now, and this “practice,” or “belief,” or
 “experience,” if you will, continues with me to this day. For when I find
 the fog has descended (because let’s be honest, it never really leaves), I
 find my hands are already reaching out, searching through the mist and
 grasping for those invisible ropes. And, as it always has, across all
 these years now, the yogic Transmission is still there waiting to continue
 guiding my way.
 

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Invisible ropes of love

<h4>TREVOR WELTMAN and his wife take on the video addiction of their young daughters, as they find their way through the digital maze, and successfully create a lifestyle for the whole family that is happier and more balanced.</h4>After yet another tear-filled episode with my kids pleading for “just one more” video, my wife and I knew change was overdue. It was August 2021, and the digital realm of children’s videos had ensnared our household. Our then 5-year-old and 3-year-old daughters bore the brunt of it. Regrettably, they were clocking in over two hours of YouTube and movies daily.While it’s tempting to blame the endless lockdown hours in a bustling urban center, the reality is different. The country where we weathered the pandemic had a brief lockdown. It merely sped up our descent down a path we’d chosen years prior.Need the kids to eat? Cue a video. Want them to tackle chores, dress quickly, or make a promise? Another video. In search of a fleeting moment of tranquility? Yet another video. We might not have handed them a physical pacifier, but YouTube was our digital one. Cocomelon, Little Baby Bus, Masha and the Bear, PJ Masks, Elsa, Anna, Moana... the list goes on.These videos worked wonders. They also wreaked havoc on our children. Post-screen mood swings were intense. Denials led to explosive meltdowns. They were hooked, only semi-content when engrossed in a video. In this digital sugar high, we played the role of enablers. Declining their requests was a battle. Unlike TV schedules of yesteryears, our kids knew we held the reins. Every viewing request became a zero-sum tug-of-war between an addict and their supplier. Facing the sheer intensity of their reactions, we often capitulated.This dynamic left me uneasy. Witnessing their screen-induced trances, the subsequent mood crashes, and our role in it all was distressing and disheartening. I felt trapped, seemingly powerless to alter course.<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/breaking_habit_screentime2_34a031744e.webp" alt="breaking-habit-screentime2.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_breaking_habit_screentime2_34a031744e.webp 119w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/small_breaking_habit_screentime2_34a031744e.webp 382w," sizes="100vw"></figure><h4>The turning point: a screen-free intervention</h4>Recently, I saw a video of Daaji discussing his <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbNfM9PdrEE" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">grandson’s transformation after a screen detox</a> and it resonated deeply. Our experiences mirrored each other. I therefore feel compelled to share our journey – not as a model family, but as an imperfect one that has found its way through this digital maze.&nbsp;We are not paragons of parenting. We know those homeschooling parents whose commitment and intentionality are awe-inspiring. If I had to label our parenting style, it would be “well-intended lazy.” Thus, our aim isn’t to seek praise or induce guilt (there’s a surplus of parenting content for that). Instead, we hope to offer a practical blueprint.In the summer of 2021, we initiated our intervention. Unbeknownst to our kids, we embarked on a two-week trip to visit friends (the Montessori, homeschooling, highly engaged kind I deeply respect). Days were filled with outdoor adventures, puzzles, art, gardening, and games. The kids, previously screen-obsessed, barely remembered their digital cravings after the initial 48 hours.By the trip’s end, a transformation was evident. Our previously screen-addicted children reconnected with the world and were happier. And none of this was difficult. As my wife always says: children learn fast, but also adapt and forget fast.<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">We ensure they have constant access to&nbsp; their own tools of entertainment:&nbsp; nature, crafts, music, puzzles, books, and&nbsp; most crucially our presence.&nbsp; Seasons dictate our activities: snowmen in winter seed planting in spring, lake splashes in summer and hiking in the fall.</h4><hr><h4>Sustainable change: our new rhythm</h4>Two years on, we’ve maintained this rhythm. We’re not 100% screen-free and don’t want to be. Saturdays are reserved for a movie treat. The girls anticipate it but aren’t consumed by the wait. We also watch some documentaries and other movies together on occasion.&nbsp;This lifestyle comes, however, with a significant caveat: we couldn’t merely eliminate their digital crutch and leave a void. We learned quickly that we have to substitute it with equally, if not more, captivating alternatives.This didn’t mean inundating them with extracurricular activities. Over-scheduling is another pitfall that undermines their well-being.Instead, we reclaimed what YouTube had replaced. We resumed full responsibility for their engagement. This doesn’t translate to non-stop entertaining them. Instead, we ensure they have constant access to their own tools of entertainment: nature, crafts, music, puzzles, books, and most crucially, our presence. Seasons dictate our activities: snowmen in winter, seed planting in spring, lake splashes in summer, and hiking in the fall.Admittedly, this approach is more demanding of our time and focus. But after initial efforts, we’re learning that their self-driven creativity takes over, allowing us some downtime.Now, aged 7 and 5, our children are flourishing. Their creativity, mood stability, and connection to their surroundings have deepened. The same holds true for my wife and me – we feel more in command of our home.In today’s screen-saturated world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But to parents everywhere, breaking the cycle is within reach. It wasn’t even hard once it got underway. Believe me, if we can do it so can you, and likely better.<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/breaking_habit_screentime3_46a804de81.webp" alt="breaking-habit-screentime3.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_breaking_habit_screentime3_46a804de81.webp 128w," sizes="100vw"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Illustrations by ANANYA PATEL</h4><hr>

Breaking the habit of screen time with our kids

Trevor Weltman (American) and Van Le (Vietnamese) are Heartfulness trainers who have been married for seven years. After living in Vietnam and Thailand, they currently live in the US with their two young daughters.

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Trevor Weltman and Van Le

<h4>TREVOR WELTMAN (American) and VAN LE (Vietnamese) have been married for seven years. After living in Vietnam and Thailand, they currently live in the US with their two young daughters. We recently reached out to them for their perspective on intercultural marriage. Here is what they sent.</h4><hr>V: Hey, so Heartfulness Magazine asked if we would write an article about our experience of intercultural marriage.T:&nbsp; Yeah? Cool.V: Cool?T: Yeah. Cool.V: You Americans with your “cools” and “dudes” and “awesomes.” Everything is always great! Except you never answer the question.T: What question?V: Do you want to do it or not?T: Yeah, cool.V: Ahhh. Okay. So, we’ll do it.T: Yeah, awesome. [He doesn’t say anything more]V: And what do you want to write about?T: I’ve got, like, ten angles or concepts we could pursue.V: Ten! What? We just found out less than a minute ago. How do you already have ten concepts?T: I said “like” ten, you know, three. Maybe. Hear me out. I think we should start with a massive metaphor. We could go cosmic, like how the origin of the universe starts with an intense burst that eventually slows at the fringes. Or, agrarian, about the difficulties of grafting two trees together, but how they still manage to fruit. We could draw parallels.V: What are you talking about? The bang big? Fruit trees? They asked for insights about marriage! Why not just answer the question?T: I am answering the question. Are you mad?V: No, I’m not mad.T: But you raised your voice.V: I’m annoyed.T: So … you sound mad according to my culture, but you’re not. Instead, you’re annoyed per your culture? Do all Vietnamese people sound this way when annoyed?V: Yes. No.T: So, no big bang?V: Why not answer directly instead of a massive story?T: Because it’s complicated.V: What is? Writing the article? Or marriage?T: Marriage. I feel like any marriage is like roller skating on ice, where the husband is the left leg and the wife the right, both struggling to find their footing individually, and also move seamlessly in the same direction. But intercultural marriage? It’s the same, except we’re fighting gravity by being forced to do it upside down.V: Upside down roller ice skating? Fighting gravity? That’s what being married to me is like for you?T: No. But I think that’s what being married to me is like for you.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/Interracial_marriage2_81ef159d51.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-10T11:40:32.557Z" alt=""><hr>V: Ha! I guess you got that right. Sometimes you drive me totally nuts with the things you say, and because you have no idea you’re offending me.You act so casually about it that it makes me even angrier. And also, because I can’t express myself in my language in our marriage, it sometimes feels like I have a foot in my mouth.T: A what in where?V: See, that’s a Vietnamese expression. Anyway, when we discuss how I feel, and you literally have no idea, it makes my feelings feel invalidated. Like, did I not just experience this?T: Same. But I honestly think every marriage has this. Like, the whole oafish husband and nagging wife tropes, those have to come from somewhere.V: You think I nag? I don’t nag.T: [says nothing]V: But you’re right. After we spent more time with your family and in the US, you made way more sense to me. Meeting our children’s friend’s parents, making more American friends, it’s like there is this whole part of you that is not just you. It’s American and its Trevor.T: And both are cute.V: [Gagging sound] You always make that joke and it never works.T: That’s what you think.V: But seriously, how will we write this?T: Well, whatever we write, I want it to be funny. Honest. Not too philosophical. No grandiose advice. Show that marriage is a work in progress and we don’t have answers. Just experience.Like you said, the extended time we’ve spent with each other’s families and in each other’s countries has been a massive boon to understanding each other, and helps not to take the many differences in opinion personally. I also want to highlight the amazing expansion of food options.V: What expansion? From you, I learned about bread and butter. And candy.T: Those are three very important food groups. What do you want to convey?<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/pancakes_9aff146521.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-10T11:36:09.030Z"><hr>V: Well, I want to share that it’s not easy. But, that a third culture emerges, a family culture. Between us we have all of these new habits and traditions that are not American or Vietnamese. Our kids get American, Vietnamese, and micro Weltman cultures that include so many experiences you and I never had. That’s pretty cool. And I love how intentional we’re able to be about it.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thai_plate_aee27a1911.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-10T11:37:02.909Z" alt=""><hr>T: Yeah! Great point. And then there’s all of the playful language and mashups we make. To be honest, I’m a little worried our kids don’t realize how much of what we say in the house isn’t actually real, just WeltmanVietese.V: Yeah, it was so hard when we started. But it’s gotten better, hasn’t it?T: Sure has. I feel like our skill of being married is growing, to the point where our cultural differences aren’t a constant minefield of missteps. Rather, they are becoming more of what unites us. That intentionality you spoke of really resonates.V: Do you really think so? Or are you just putting honey on the ear?T: What on where?V: [Sighs] So let’s do it. Let’s sit down later and do it.&nbsp; But let’s eat first. You want fresh rolls or tacos?T: Yeah, cool.<hr>Editor’s note: Upon reading the final version, Van is on record as saying, “Uh, even reading this I am annoyed!”<hr><hr><h4>Illustrations by ARATI SHEDDE</h4><hr>

Intercultural marriage in action

Uday Kumar is an entrepreneur, writer, and Heartfulness practitioner passionate about integrating modern life with inner balance. He leads technology and AI initiatives at work while contributing essays on consciousness, discernment, and the heart’s role in everyday life. His work bridges science, spirit, and heartful living.

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<h4>UDAY KUMAR explores how a simple word of respect reveals the deeper mysteries of spiritual authority and humility.</h4>During this morning’s Dil Se with Daaji online session, something profound unfolded within what seemed like a simple conversation. An MLA (Member of the Legislative Assembly) from Rajasthan addressed Daaji as hukum. Daaji, in his characteristic humility, addressed him back with the same word. The exchange was brief, yet its sound lingered. The syllables rolled out softly, like a bell tone that continues to vibrate long after the bell itself is still. The word hukum carried a reverence that resonated beyond language.This feeling compelled me to explore what hukum truly meant. I looked it up and found that in Rajasthan, saying “Tharo hukum” signifies deep respect, not a mere submission to power. It means “Your wish carries weight because I honor you.” As I would learn, the word “hukum” has traveled across lands and cultures, bearing the fragrance of authority blended with blessing.A few weeks ago, in his write-up <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine/the-urgency-of-our-time" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Guardians</a> of the Sacred, Daaji reminded us that the path to the Divine requires both authenticity and etiquette. The smallest gestures of reverence prepare the heart. How we sit, how we greet, and how we speak to one another all reveal the sincerity of our approach. This refinement of conduct, our akhlaaq, is not formality. It is the language of love, the way we create space for the sacred both outside and inside. Without akhlaaq, hukum can feel like a command imposed upon us. With akhlaaq, it becomes a blessing received with grace.In the spiritual sense, hukum has always carried this deeper resonance. In Sufi traditions, hukm-i-ilahi is the divine decree, the will of God that guides creation. In the <a href="https://heartfulness.org/magazine" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Heartfulness</a> tradition, the ajna chakra is known as the seat of power distribution, and above it begins the vast para-cosmic region, the first glimmer of the divine realm. In such higher realms, command is no longer an external order. It is a light that guides the soul toward higher regions, like a halo from within that shows us the way.When Daaji was addressed as “hukum” and he returned the word, I felt that something greater was revealed. It was not one submitting to another's authority. It was a circle of honor, an exchange where humility and dignity met in perfect balance and proportion. True authority is rooted in humility, and true humility carries an authority that needs no assertion.&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/hukum2_1e3c2f423d.webp" alt="hukum2.webp"></figure>&nbsp;Guardians of the Sacred reminds us that every gesture in the Master’s presence, every act of self-restraint and courtesy, helps keep the inner shrine pure. Etiquette in sacred space is not an outer show but a way of guarding the atmosphere of the heart, where the true Master dwells. Hukum then is not fulfilled through blind obedience, but through conduct that honors this sacred atmosphere within and around us.It is a sound that holds both command and blessing, both authority and surrender—a word that reminds us that when wisdom speaks, the heart listens, and when the heart listens, life takes its proper course. In that listening, we discover not only the decree of the Divine, but also the deep assurance that we belong to Him.In the end, hukum is less about command and more about remembrance. It is a reminder that the heart opens most when it bows to wisdom and belongs to love. And when that bowing is clothed in akhlaaq, it becomes our way of guarding the sacred, keeping the heart as a holy place where the Beloved feels at home.&nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">It is a reminder that the heart opens most when it bows to wisdom and belongs to love.&nbsp;</h4><hr>

Hukum - A Word that Opens the Heart

Uma is a web and graphic designer by profession, serving clients world wide. She is our chief designer for Heartfulness Magazine since its inception in 2015. She has also designed many books for adults and children, and is responsible for the design of our magazine website at www.heartfulnessmagazine.com.

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Uma Maheswari G

Uma is a certified yoga teacher and spiritual coach with over 15 years of experience. She teaches at the Sivananda Yoga Center in Chennai, India.

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Uma Natarajan

<h4 style="text-align:justify;">VALENTINA TSAREV, SRIVIDYA VARADARAJAN, UTTARA VENUGOPAL, and UMA NATARAJAN are all yoga teachers who have experienced the benefits of yoga and Ayurveda at a young age. Here they share some key features of their use for health.</h4><h3>Health according to Ayurveda, and the relationship between yoga and Ayurveda</h3>Valentina, Sivananda Yoga Vedanta: Charaka was one of the greatest Ayurvedic doctors and Vedic scholars, and he asked, “What is health, and a healthy person?” He described a healthy person as one whose doshas are balanced. The three doshas – vata, pitta, kapha – define our personal constitution. Also, one whose digestive fire or transformational fire, agni, is balanced; one whose dhatos, body tissues, are in balance (we have seven vital tissues in our body); one whose malas, wastes, are eliminated normally; one whose indriyas (senses), manas (mind), and atma (soul or the self) are calm and clear. Such a one is called swastha purusha, a healthy person.Yoga and Ayurveda are sister sciences, and they share the same spiritual goals. They require us to connect ourselves to the true self – a healthy person has a healthy physical body, a healthy mind, and a healthy spirit. There are two goals to Ayurveda: one is to protect and maintain health throughout the lifespan, and the second is to cure diseases, disorders, and imbalances in the body and mind. The main focus is the prevention of diseases and the promotion of positive health. In order to reach the main goal of our life, to find our true self, to find Christ Consciousness, we need to be healthy.<h3>Yoga as therapy</h3>Srividya Varadarajan, Krishnamacharya Yoga Mandiram: There is a prevalent idea that yoga is about convoluted postures, and fit and slim people. But yoga is more than physical fitness – it is essential for us to perform our duties, take care of our responsibilities, etc. The body should not be an impediment toward our spiritual growth, so it’s important that we are physically fit, but the influence goes much beyond that. While doing asanas is important, asanas are only one part of yoga. Yoga is beyond that. We practice asanas with the breath, the practice of pranayama, because all that works at the level of the prana in the body, which is the life force. The prana in our body is responsible for all the functions. So by doing asana and pranayama, the balance improves, which in turn makes all the functions work better. Any abnormality in the functions of the body will be corrected because of the prana circulating inside the body. So this is the therapeutic reason for yoga.<figure class="image image-style-align-center"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/yoga_and_ayurveda2_06b0b85fdc.jpg"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">If you practice yoga regularly, the flow of your prana is going to improve and help your organs function better. And your mental health will also improve; you will be happier, not anxious and stressed out, and you will live life smoothly.</h4><hr><h3>Creating a healthy mind</h3>Uttara Venugopal, Yogavahini: Yoga is much more than asanas and pranayama. It is a way of living. Yoga has many, many tools, including meditation, making choices, speaking the truth, living with cleanliness, not harming anybody, and being happy and content with whatever we have. Some of these tools have been taught to us when we were born in our families, and later we learn asanas and pranayama, especially when we’re unwell these days.So, today we are talking about mental health. Take, these two or three years of Covid. It was a huge catastrophe, and people are still struggling with what Covid has done to them. Either they have been affected by the illness directly, or the fact that the whole world was turned upside down. It’s safe to say that almost everyone was extremely troubled. At the other end of the spectrum, individuals have lifestyle difficulties. For example, if you are bent over a computer typing or coding every day, you hardly get up to move. This lifestyle will definitely lead to physical difficulties like back pain, your slept will be affected, and you will have digestion issues. A sedentary lifestyle may lead to diabetes. And all of these are going to affect your mental state.&nbsp; If you practice yoga regularly, the flow of your prana is going to improve and help your organs function better. And your mental health will also improve; you will be happier, not anxious and stressed out, and you will live life smoothly. Your body and your mind will not stop you from doing what you need to do. Work for yourself, for your family, provide. It’s definitely going to help your mental health. &nbsp;<hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Yoga has many, many tools, including meditation, making choices, speaking the truth, living with cleanliness, not harming anybody, and being happy and content with whatever we have.</h4><hr>&nbsp;<figure class="image image-style-align-center"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/yoga_and_ayurveda3_766c985967.jpg"></figure><h3>Yoga and good health</h3>Uma Natarajan, Sivananda Yoga Vedanta: Twenty years ago, I was diagnosed with a women’s health ailment, and the doctor said that there was no choice but to remove my uterus. This came as a big shock to us. When I approached my first teacher she said yoga could help. So, along with the medication I also practiced yoga, and then I became a yoga teacher. It has given me confidence and faith; faith follows from practice, my teacher would say. Twenty years on, I have not had my uterus removed, and I’m functioning well.I’ve personally experienced that yoga can work on your internal organs, along with medication, and after some time the medication is not needed. When you’re committed to the practice, it helps on both the physical and mental levels.&nbsp; I used to be a high achiever and get very angry and anxious about winning at everything; there was always a fear element in me, always uncertainty. But after practicing yoga and meditation in the Sivananda discipline, I started feeling calm and composed. There was an automatic reduction in anger, greed, jealousy, hatred; you witness them slowly fade away from you, and positivity comes without much effort. If you commit to the practice, you will experience all this on your own. When I’m teaching, the students also receive the same energy. My teacher always says that what you have, you can pass on, and receive the same kind of benefit.&nbsp;<figure class="image image-style-align-center"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/yoga_and_ayurveda4_7db693eb2e.jpg"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">The five points of yoga – proper exercise, asanas; proper breathing, pranayama; proper relaxation, savasana; proper diet, vegetarian and sattvic; and meditation and positive thinking. So, you can apply these five points of yoga every day, to every aspect of life. You can practice yoga every moment, just remembering.</h4><hr><h3>How long does it take for yoga to be therapeutic?</h3>Valentina: Swami Vishnudevananda, the founder of the Sivananda organization, was sent by his master Swami Sivananda to the West, to spread yoga. He was traveling in North America and trying to teach yoga the way he taught in the Himalayas, but it didn’t quite work because of the different energy, different people, and different lifestyles. So, he came up with the five points of yoga – proper exercise, asanas; proper breathing, pranayama; proper relaxation, savasana; proper diet, vegetarian and sattvic; and meditation and positive thinking. So, you can apply these five points of yoga every day, to every aspect of life. You can practice yoga every moment, just remembering. You are not thinking about the benefits, but whatever you do, you can practice asanas or meditate, or chant, say prayers or mantras, exercise useful awareness. Once we bring awareness to our practice, we bring yoga to our life.And remember the main goal of Ayurveda is to find our true self. If we just focus on benefits, wondering how long it’s going to take, we are going away from our yoga practice, back to our senses, back to our physical body; how good do I look? etc. Once we withdraw all the senses and bring full awareness to the practice, that’s when we start to get real benefits. And those benefits help us on the long journey to our true selves. &nbsp;<h3>Common ailments treated by yoga therapy</h3>Srividya: The prevailing common problems are musculoskeletal issues due to a sedentary lifestyle, working so many hours; too much time on a smartphone leading to a lot of neck issues, back issues, spinal issues, and knee pain. Yoga therapy is different from physiotherapy, because although we give movements, we also work at the breath level, we work with prana, we work at the level of the mind. Other problems include acidity, asthma, wheezing, irritable bowel syndrome, and since the pandemic, in the younger generations, there are a lot of anxiety and depression issues.We use all the subtle tools of yoga, not just postures. At Krishnamacharya Yoga Mandiram, we address each student individually to find out the physiological and mental condition of the student. We assess them depending on where they live, what kind of work they do, how much time they have for practice, etc., because sustained practice is very, very important. If I tell people to wake up every morning at 5 a.m. and do one hour of practice, it’s not going to work for everybody. We consider all these factors and offer an individual specific program dependent on the student and their ability. It’s a holistic approach. We ensure that we teach them well so that they will practice on their own, daily, which is the most important thing. Ultimately, the goal is prevention, to prevent future suffering. That’s how we try to empower the students.<figure class="image"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/yoga_and_ayurveda5_4559b95251.jpg"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Yoga helps you live well in community, your energy helps other people, the way you interact with friends, your spouse, your parents, your children. It makes things a lot more harmonious and less difficult, that’s for sure.</h4><hr><h3>Yoga for all ages and levels of health</h3>Uma: Step by step, more flexibility develops, deeply into yourself. Yoga is applicable to people of all ages and all levels of difficulty. For example, if you cannot do double leg raises, teachers will tell you an adapted way of doing them, folding one leg and lifting the other leg up slowly. When the flexibility develops you will be able to do it perfectly. The teachers at Sivananda are trained to understand each and every student, their health constraints, their ability constraints, and accordingly, they teach.Everybody can practice yoga, and everybody can feel the difference in themselves. If you keep on practicing, you will feel the benefits, and when you have experienced the benefits, like me, you become committed to the practice.<h3>Beyond health</h3>Uttara: Practicing yoga doesn’t stop you having problems in life. Rather, it gives you the strength, the energy, and the foresight to cope with them very well. When something impacts you, you won’t react and let it affect you as badly as it could. You don’t get sucked down.Yoga also teaches you to understand yourself better, to see where you are at any point in time, and to go someplace better. For example, practicing yoga regularly has impacted the way I cook. Now, that may sound like a silly thing, but I’m feeding people better food. My practice impacts so many other people too. Very importantly, it helps me maintain and develop better relationships with others. None of us live in isolation. Yoga helps you live well in the community, your energy helps other people, the way you interact with friends, your spouse, your parents, your children. It makes things a lot more harmonious and less difficult, that’s for sure. And who doesn’t want to live like that?&nbsp;<hr>To watch the whole discussion, go to <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAS9kqnbbtw" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAS9kqnbbtw</a>

Yoga and Ayurveda for health

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Upama has been a Heartfulness practitioner for over 33 years and is a meditation trainer, an NLP practitioner, a quantum speed reading trainer, a quantum healer, and a Brighter Minds facilitator who has trained more than 3,000 students. She is a special educator, MDA and Davis method.

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Upama Rajasekhar

<h4>UPAMA RAJASEKHAR is a Brighter Minds trainer and Heartfulness trainer. Here she shares some thoughts on future educational goals and today’s children.</h4><hr>Recently I spent three days with the most humble school principal and six of his students during their recent visit to Kanha Shanti Vanam. I am so grateful to witness, develop, acknowledge, and expand my thinking and ideas. I was shocked, surprised, hopeful, and grateful to learn from them.What made them stand out? I feel that right brain education is the answer. I employ quantum techniques as well as utilizing the subconscious mind. I believe that teachers and parents must work on themselves first. Once they’ve tested these techniques in their own lives and are convinced of their potential, they can then utilize them with joy and confidence with children.Children sometimes have difficulty accessing their unlimited innate abilities because of a negative self-image in their subconscious. Education can liberate children from anything that limits their mental potential. If a parent or teacher can eliminate these negative impressions and allow children to discover the innate power within themselves, they will be able to make use of their talents. This self-transformation is an essential element of being an achiever. Children raised in a heart-based program become sensitive, wise, passionate, curious, loving, and kind human beings. What more can we wish for?Today’s child is a wonderful, magical mixture of sense-abilities. In the past 30 to 40 years, science has unlocked the door to the infant mind, giving parents rational proof that their children have genius-like learning abilities during their formative years. As a mother and a teacher, I am encouraged to do all that I can for our children, in the hope that the knowledge they gain and the positive learning habits they form during this time will influence and enhance their learning and quality of life forever.<h4>The relationship between love, the mind, and the brain</h4>The mind makes the brain work, and love makes the mind work. If you respect your child as an individual and show them your love, recognize their existence, and praise them, their mind will be relaxed and they will be able to use their true potential. If you pay attention to your child’s mind and their right brain, they will change, grow, and be easily able to acquire knowledge or information. This is because you were able to ignite a fire within them to learn and absorb. This applies to both parents and teachers.The left brain is trained through knowledge-based education, whereas the right brain has rich potential abilities because it resonates with the cosmic energy. The purpose of the right brain is to process resonance, images, mass memory, and high-speed processing. The right brain can be cultivated by using techniques like sensory perception and memory games.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/right_brain_education3_2d6980d81c.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-11T07:54:03.605Z" alt="right-brain-education3">&nbsp;<hr>The 21st century is the era of the right brain. It is important for education to integrate intelligence and intuition, body and mind, rational thoughts and feelings. Fostering these combinations is the true goal of education.By planting the seeds of music, math, spoken and written languages, science, art, culture, and more, early in life, your child’s mind will have a rich subconscious library of information. They will naturally crave to learn more about the world around them, eagerly building this growing library. And when high-quality input is combined with joyful play, imaginative exploration, and critical thinking activities, both hemispheres of the brain are stimulated, resulting in an incredible whole-brain acceleration.&nbsp;<h4>Future educational goals:&nbsp;</h4><ul><li>Inducing hidden human potential.</li><li>Enhancing the well-balanced development of body and mind.</li><li>Nurturing sensibility.</li><li>Instilling creativity.</li><li>Promoting a deep sense of spirituality.</li></ul><hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/right_brain_education2_6ed790657f.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-11T07:56:47.739Z" alt="right-brain-education2">&nbsp;<hr>In the near future, I hope that we will develop curricula that educate children to be able to carefully understand their ego, the true nature of the universe, and the meaning of life, rather than simply learning facts and gaining knowledge. Parents and teachers can aspire to understand the nature of a child’s mind in order to unlock true potential and allow it to develop holistically.This is my perspective to share, and my joy to impart – the truth about the children of today and their impact on our future. Let us encourage humankind to become like little children. Only after doing so, we can finally come to understand the traits of this new generation and resonate with them.<h4>Today’s child</h4><ul><li>Picks up information at an incredibly fast rate. They are wired to continually gather data and connect or link it to what they already know.</li><li>Is a multi sensory being who can absorb information through more than just their five physical senses.</li><li>Seeks clarity and balance.</li><li>Blossoms in a joyful, stimulating environment that meets their individual needs.</li><li>Brings mental images to life. They can see these images clearly, three-dimensionally, with all their senses. They have the ability to imagine, invent, and create a positive future for all of us.</li></ul>Today’s children are all around us. All it takes is a little bit of effort on our part to see them with an open mind, a listening heart, and a willingness to see.Once we combine what we know about the current generation with effective, gentle, playful learning methods – allowing their unique geniuses to unfold – we need to ask ourselves: how do we evolve in order to successfully raise and nurture today’s children? When we answer this question completely, we will genuinely affect the whole world in a positive manner. In short, we all need to rise up.

Right brain education

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 UPAMA RAJASEKHAR
 is a Brighter Minds facilitator. Here,
 PURNIMA RAMAKRISHNAN
 meets with her and some of the children she facilitates in the program, to
 learn firsthand about their experiences.
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 I had heard a lot about the Brighter Minds program, when I had a chance
 encounter with one of the facilitators ram, Mrs. Upama Rajasekhar, and this
 meeting was perhaps one of the turning points in broadening my own perception
 about the world in so many ways.



 “So, why did you decide to become a facilitator?”“I wanted to train my son. He
 is an archer and wanted to master blindfold archery, so I wanted to help him
 realize his dream. The rest, as they say, is history.”



 This was just the start of the conversation. She invited me to interact with
 her students. When I joined them, I felt like I had entered a sci-fi movie
 set, the likes of Asimov’s second foundation series.



 “My son changed and developed so much in just two days of the program, that we
 felt this is something all children in the world should experience,” said
 Upama.“So what exactly happened?” I asked.“Have you heard of the term sensory
 perception? Our brains can sense certain things from the atmosphere, depending
 on their capacity of perception. When their functions and capacities are
 heightened, we can perhaps call it super-sensory perception,” responded Upama.
 “So, do these kids acquire a sense of perception than is more heightened than
 normal people?”“Well, that is not exactly true,” answered Upama. “To an
 extent, however, we are awed by their abilities to learn quickly and the way
 their memories improve. Their intuition develops, and this leads to better
 confidence in everyday life. They have a pleasant personality, and we just
 feel so empowered around them. Let me introduce you to some of the children,
 and you can interact with them to see what I mean.”



 Some of the kids were familiar, because they were from near where I lived, and
 they sat down to chat with me.



 One boy said, “Aunty, you should see me performing while blindfolded.”
 This young boy was blindfolded and then guessed the colors of colored
 balls correctly. I was awed. I had heard of such things, but never witnessed
 it with my own eyes. “What else can you do?” I asked him, wanting to see
 more.“ Aunty, close your eyes and think of something,” he replied. I
 closed my eyes and wondered what to think of. For some strange reason, my
 attention went to the dry deserts, and I could see a pyramid being built in
 the distance. I went nearer, and noticed that there were so many workers, who
 were probably slaves. I saw a pharaoh nearby, but then thought that a child
 couldn’t figure out something so complicated, so I decided to focus on a
 single pyramid. I opened my eyes to see the boy in a deep concentration. “ Aunty,
 I can visualize some laborers,” he said. “What were they doing?” “They
 were building something,” he answered. “What were they building?” “A
 pyramid, I think.”



 I stopped him, and gently asked him to open his eyes. I think I couldn’t take
 more than this, so I told him to go back to his friends.



 “Upama, how did he do this?” I asked. “So, did you think of a pyramid?”
 she responded with a question. “I visualized exactly what he mentioned –
 some people building a pyramid in the desert,” was my answer. “It
 happens. I am not surprised. Some children have that uncanny ability to tap
 into their abilities at the most appropriate times. But it does not happen all
 the time.” “What do you mean?” I asked. “There has to be an
 environment of calm and composedness. They have to be completely relaxed on
 all planes. So that is why we relax them at the beginning of the session using
 the Heartfulness Relaxation technique. And then we proceed to the other
 activities of the Brighter Minds program.”



 “So in their minds, in their calm composure, are they really able to know
 exactly what someone else is thinking?” was my next question.
 “Neuroplasticity!” responded Upama, with great emphasis. “It just means
 that the brain cells reshape or remold themselves depending on various
 external and internal stimuli in the exercises. We have exercises for the
 right and left hemispheres of the brain, for the eyeballs, and many other
 things. We also have certain music which stimulates the brain and helps it to
 enter the alpha and theta states. We always encourage children to be natural.
 We are not rigid in the exercises. Who knows what these kids could lead us to!
 So, a certain amount of flexibility is required as a facilitator. We
 facilitate the children in their journeys to realize their true potential.”


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 My next question was, “Don’t you think the children could start getting proud
 of their achievements, their confidence spilling over into over-confidence?”
 “When they go through their journey, when their minds are opening up in
 such a magnificent way, there is no place for ego. There is no place for
 pride. The children feel humbled and awed, feeling confidence in the higher
 support, as they evolve. Their hearts are refined, and their humility is also
 refined. The more they know, the more they realize that there is a lot more to
 traverse.



 “Let me tell you about how I feel – there is no place for pride or ego in this
 work. I am happy seeing these children. I have trained 500 children so far,
 and I have seen them flower so beautifully, without ego being inflated. Every
 day I thank God that he chose me to do this in my life, where I can be of use
 for humanity’s upliftment.”



 I also had an opportunity to interact with Upama’s son: “So, did you learn
 blindfold archery?” “Yes,” he responded, “and I am happy for that.”So I
 asked, “What has changed in you from within?” “Ideas come. I am curious.
 I have changed. Feeling change itself is creative. I was a limited version
 earlier. I now feel that every day I am becoming a more complete version. Do
 you know what I mean?” I did not entirely comprehend, but I accepted
 what he said.


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 There is nothing great in what we are doing here. We are not
 creating history. We are not making magic. We are just helping
 people 
 realize their true potential.
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 “Upama, I am curious, can adults also improve their sensory perception?” “Yes,
 we are planning to release adult classes soon, for the general public. We are
 in the process of concluding some research. You know, there is nothing great
 in what we are doing here. We are not creating history. We are not making
 magic. We are just helping people realize their true potential. We are telling
 them, ‘There is this organ called the brain, so please use it to the fullest
 capacity.’ That is all. Why don’t you try what the other kids are doing?” “But
 I am an adult,” I said. “That is exactly what I was trying to convey,”
 she said. “Don’t create these barriers in your mind, as they do not exist. We
 are still researching the program for adults, but that does not mean something
 wonderful cannot happen with you. Come on.”



 My personal experience with what happened is a story for another day. Let me
 tell you, though, I came out with my heart filled with beautiful magic, an
 eternity of waiting having unlocked in my mind. It is difficult to put into
 words what I felt after that. I don’t know about identifying colored balls
 while blindfolded, or guessing thoughts accurately. I have not tried to guess
 things many times, but I can vouch that this is something everyone can try. I
 now understood what Upama’s son was trying to tell me earlier – that indeed
 change is creative. It is the ultimate creativity.



 Sometimes, things we have always wanted all our lives, without consciously
 realizing it, come in packages that we least expect. After witnessing the
 miracles in the mind, how can the heart go back to its past state?


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 Our logic and science are so limited. There is so much mystery in
 this world. Knowing how to unlock our own hidden potential at
 this time in humanity’s evolution seems all the more exciting.
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 Interviewed by PURNIMA RAMAKRISHNAN Illustrations by ARATI SHEDDE
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Change is the ultimate creativity

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Ursula Le Guin

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Usha Padmasola

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 <spanundefined
 >USHA PADMASOLA wrote this article
 pre-Covid. Little did she realize just how relevant her thoughts have
 become in the current era, where most of our connection and communication
 in the business world are via screens. How can we adopt her suggestions in
 2021?
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 <spanundefined
 >Recently over a breakfast meeting, en route to a business site, we held
 some purposeful engaging talks with our 75-year-old negotiator. Needless
 to say we were sold for his wisdom, business acumen and the warmth that
 every bit of his personality exuded. Extending his firm handshake, he
 invited us to visit the NGO he was running in Himachal Pradesh, and we
 bought a lifetime of friendship.
 


 <spanundefined
 >As opposed to such rich invaluable human experience, a recent digital
 engagement hit me hard. The fear of automation and machine-age gripped me.
 This is what happened:
 


 <spanundefined
 >Since I had an issue, I dialed a toll free number of an outsourced
 customer service center. As the automated voice walked me through the
 15-minute route, I was made to feel like a 16-digit numeral by the end of
 the call. I realized that the modern business houses were hitting an
 all-time low on customer service and relationship building.
 


 <spanundefined
 >I wondered: Why doesn’t any company want to speak with their
 customers?


 <spanundefined
 >No doubt technology on one hand has allowed us to be more efficient, more
 productive and more profitable, but technology has also depleted the very
 humane essence from humans and from the many important aspects of business
 today. Today when I have a query and make a call to a business house, I
 expect to speak with a live person and not with an automated digital
 replica that is designed to maximize profits and minimize interaction.
 


 <spanundefined
 >I face the paradox of having to interact more with my plastic cards and
 humans with iPod ear-buds. I am made to feel like a prisoner with a code,
 I feel more like a numeral than a human. Where are all the humans and
 where is the humaneness?

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 <spanundefined
 >Business is not just about analytics, conversion rates and clicks
 through, but it is about making a connection. The feeling of helping a
 customer tackle a problem and presenting them with a solution is a very
 palpable achievement. I wonder if I can put a laugh and empathy on an
 Excel sheet and mark my business. Likes, tweets, shares, posts, upticks
 and chats, although a few mouse clicks help us express ourselves faster,
 it’s a fallacy to think that people are more connected than ever. The crux
 of the matter is that people are connected
 <spanundefined
 >more to technology – smart phones, tablets, laptops and hardware – and
 not to real people.


 <spanundefined
 >Real people build real, face-to-face, human-to-human relationships. Real
 people smile at one another and interact. If we’ve forgotten what it’s
 like to be real humans, let’s:


 <spanundefined
 >Use technology as an invertendo to aid us. <spanundefined
 >Network digitally to connect in a real way. <spanundefined
 >Get to know someone, earn a relationship, and their business. <spanundefined
 >Do it the old-fashioned way and make a connection that will last a
 lifetime.
 


 <spanundefined
 >Real people express themselves through real emotions not emoticons.

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 Article by
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 >USHA PADMASOLA <spanundefined
 >Illustrations by ARATI SHEDDE
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From emoticons to emotions

Uttara has been a qualified yoga teacher and therapist for over 16 years, and with YogaVahini in Chennai for over 12 years, teaching individuals and groups.&nbsp;

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