Eva is Group Head of Public Affairs at Amarenco, a European Solar IPP. As chair of an agrisolar workstream in Europe, she promotes synergies between agricultural and solar sectors to tackle climate change adaptation. She stands for ecological transition, promoting regenerative agricultural solutions combined with solar energy production in rural areas. Eva has a Master’s degree in Law from the University of Paris Pantheon Sorbonne, specializing in public law and political science. She is also certified in Public Affairs, Strategy and Influence, by the Paris Institute of Political Studies.

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Eva Vandest

<h4>
 EVA VANDEST is
 Group Head of Public Affairs&nbsp;for independent solar power producer, the
 Amarenco Group, and chair of a European agrisolar workstream. She promotes
 synergies between agricultural and solar sectors, to bring regenerative
 agriculture and solar production to rural areas. Here she describes the work
 of “The International 4 per 1000 Initiative: Soils for Food Security and
 Climate” in uniting individuals, communities, and organizations to improve the
 quality of the Earth’s soils.
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 We are all concerned by Climate Change, the loss of biodiversity, as well as
 water and food security. Unfortunately, indicators do not lead to optimism.
 75% of the world’s soils are already degraded to varying degrees due to human
 activity – they are either degraded or highly degraded.



 The Food and Agricultural Organization of the U.N. (FAO) states that if we do
 not act now, more than 90% of the Earth’s surface soils could be degraded by
 2050. The death of soils has disastrous consequences for their capacity to
 capture and store carbon emissions, for water and food security, and for the
 prosperity of farmers and their families. Our capacity to feed the human
 population of the Earth in 2050 will depend greatly on our ability to keep our
 soils alive.



 The health of soils, which is mainly indicated by sufficient organic matter,
 is closely correlated with agricultural production and practices. Stable and
 productive soils directly foster the resilience of farms to cope with the
 effects of climate disruption, and help maintaining biodiversity.



 “The International 4 per 1000 Initiative: Soils for Food Security and Climate”
 aims to demonstrate that agriculture and forestry, in particular agricultural
 and forestry soils via natural carbon storage through photosynthesis, can play
 a crucial role in food security and climate change.



 Launched by France in December 2015 during COP 21, 4p1000 confederates all
 voluntary, public, and private stakeholders, including national, local, and
 regional governments and authorities, companies, professional organizations,
 NGOs, research establishments, etc., within the framework of the Global
 Climate Action Plan (GCAP). Based on solid science, it invites all partners to
 promote and implement concrete action for soil carbon storage.


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 With 700 members together engaged in the regeneration of soils, 4p1000 also
 communicates the seriousness and the emergency of the situation, bringing
 awareness that each individual, each community, each organization, private or
 public, can join together to bring radical changes in practices, to restore
 the balance essential for our Earth system.



 Governments and large organizations have the greatest power to make a
 difference, and can have the most impact. However, each one of us can and must
 act. Living a more harmonious life not only guarantees the resources essential
 to our survival as a human species, it also makes us happier. For too long
 happiness has been associated with a lifestyle of overconsumption, creating
 more and more unattainable desires.



 Noise, light, and electrical pollution excite our nervous systems to the point
 where we can no longer sleep, and suffer from depression and burn out.
 Overcrowded and isolated in ever larger and more complex cities, the loss of
 simplicity and the direct link with nature makes us unhappy. Sometimes we go
 so far that we “crack.” One day, we wake up and want to change our lives,
 little by little.



 We quickly discover that the right people are there to accompany us. The world
 is full of ideas and solutions that allow us to rediscover ourselves and
 design our individual and collective destiny. Absolute confidence and a firm
 will lead us inexorably to success.



 4p1000 is an official supporting partner of the United Nations Decade on
 Ecosystem Restoration 2021-2030.


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 To learn more and be involved:
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 <li>
 <a href="http://www.4p1000.org" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">www.4p1000.org</a>
 </li>
 <li>
 Understanding the 4 per 1000 Initiative in 3’30
 <a href="https://www.youtube.com/embed/xohnOdgz-C4" target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/embed/xohnOdgz-C4</a>
 </li>
 <li>
 Why are soils important for the climate?
 <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORncZnlKOZg" target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORncZnlKOZg</a>
 </li>
 <li>
 The Strategic Plan of the 4 per 1000 Initiative
 <a href="https://4p1000.org/sites/default/files/english/en_strategic_plan.pdf" target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener">https://4p1000.org/sites/default/files/english/en_strategic_plan.pdf</a>
 </li>
 <li>
 4 per 1000 at a glance
 <a href="https://4p1000.org/sites/default/files/francais/ok_4pour1000_gb_v2.jpg" target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener">https://4p1000.org/sites/default/files/francais/ok_4pour1000_gb_v2.jpg</a>
 </li>
 <li>
 List of the consortium members and forum partners:
 <a href="https://4p1000.org/sites/default/files/francais/original_partenaires_membres.pdf" target="_blank"
 rel="noreferrer noopener">https://4p1000.org/sites/default/files/francais/original_partenaires_membres.pdf</a>
 </li>
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Soil Health: 4p1000

Fabio is an artist and musician. He grew up in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, graduating in stage design from UNIRIO. Currently living in Freiburg, Germany, he teaches drawing and percussion in learning institutions and works as a freelancer artist, receiving orders from around the world.

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Fabio Kohler

<h4>FABIO KOHLER is an artist and musician. Here he explores the mystical aspect of creativity, and how meditation helps him to engage more deeply with the subjects of his artwork.&nbsp;</h4>Doing a portrait is a challenging task. The face proportion has to be precise to within millimeters. Otherwise, the person will not be recognized or something will feel wrong. But this covers only the visual part. The next challenge is to catch the particularity of the person. This is similar to the process, “from thinking to feeling,” or in this case, “from seeing to perceiving.”One fine day, my Chinese teacher commissioned me to paint a portrait of herself. Our student and teacher relationship was based on artistic exchange and mutual admiration. During her classes she would sing Chinese songs or demonstrate Chinese traditional dances to the students. I went several times to see her flamenco dance performances, in the same way she attended my musical concerts where I played percussion. This interaction definitely had an impact on the final drawing.When I personally handed her the portrait, I asked her to show it to her husband. The moment he saw the drawing, he said, “非常好!”(meaning “very good” in Chinese). But what I could read in his eyes was, “What an amazing person I’m married to.”&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting2_534da42b76.webp" alt="portrait-painting2.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting2_534da42b76.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting2_534da42b76.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting2_534da42b76.webp 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;This episode reinforced my belief that on a conscious level the mind of the artist is occupied in formal principals (shape, proportion, light and shadow, texture, etc.), while their inner being is accessing the energy field of the person portrayed.The same process happened while drawing any spiritual person. Once you draw the human form of those souls, you start feeling the vibrational field of the person portrayed. And those vibrations are reflected through the portrait. When I showed a drawing of Jesus that I had made to Daaji, he said, “Look how compassionate these eyes are!”If you look carefully at this drawing of Jesus, you may notice that it was based on a photo of Babuji. Babuji’s eyes were strabismic. He himself used to say that while one eye was looking outside the other was always looking inside.&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting3_8fa83416fa.webp" alt="portrait-painting3.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting3_8fa83416fa.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting3_8fa83416fa.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting3_8fa83416fa.webp 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">While the artistic process is flowing outwards, culminating in works of art, the practice of meditation leads inwards. Both activities combined may be very complementary.</h4><hr>This can also be applied in the process of art. While the artistic process is flowing outwards, culminating in works of art, the practice of meditation leads inwards. Both activities combined may be very complementary. Personally, I feel deeply absorbed when I’m doing an artwork. At the same time, the practice of meditation itself helps me to access a subtler and deeper level of artistic expression. It’s like the material wing and spiritual wing; in this case the artistic and spiritual wing combined make the bird of creativity fly high.For me, the mystical experience is the greatest reward of being an artist.&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting4_37b6fd1f4f.webp" alt="portrait-painting4.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting4_37b6fd1f4f.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting4_37b6fd1f4f.webp 800w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting4_37b6fd1f4f.webp 800w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting5_463d43a8b0.webp" alt="portrait-painting5.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting5_463d43a8b0.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting5_463d43a8b0.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting5_463d43a8b0.webp 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting6_214cf668e8.webp" alt="portrait-painting6.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting6_214cf668e8.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting6_214cf668e8.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting6_214cf668e8.webp 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting7_fd7879ccb9.webp" alt="portrait-painting7.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting7_fd7879ccb9.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting7_fd7879ccb9.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting7_fd7879ccb9.webp 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting8_262a5b83f5.webp" alt="portrait-painting8.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting8_262a5b83f5.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting8_262a5b83f5.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting8_262a5b83f5.webp 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting9_60722335dd.webp" alt="portrait-painting9.webp" srcset="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/thumbnail_portrait_painting9_60722335dd.webp 145w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/large_portrait_painting9_60722335dd.webp 500w,https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/portrait_painting9_60722335dd.webp 500w," sizes="100vw"></figure>&nbsp;For more artworks and to commission a work of art, visit: <a href="www.fabiokohler.com">www.fabiokohler.com</a><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Artwork by FABIO KOHLER</h4><hr>

Portrait painting

<h4 style="text-align:center;">FABIO KOHLER explores the creative process of an artist, and the interface between creativity and spirituality through consciousness and inspiration.</h4><hr>In our daily life we naturally meditate to perform our worldly duties. For instance, if an artist is creating a painting his mind will be continuously thinking about the work in progress while choosing the object, the theme, the best material, the technical solutions, and so on. It’s seems quite easy and natural to meditate on a worldly activity. On the other hand, when it comes to accessing higher states of consciousness in the spiritual realm, it’s seem quite difficult as we don’t have an object or external reference point to start with.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/fabio1_img_e918eba995.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-03T03:20:07.128Z" alt="fabio1_img"><hr>So here I will look into the artistic process of creativity, to see how a worldly activity may culminate in a spiritual experience.Before even starting any creative process, it is important to prepare some ideal circumstances. First of all, time is needed to make room for creativity. A person whose plate is full is often not able to feel or receive inspiration. The second requirement is a clean, pure heart. Third, it is helpful to create a space – an environment dedicated exclusively to artistic creation.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/fabio6_img_3be81c3325.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-03T03:21:46.441Z" alt="fabio6_img"><hr>In that first moment, the artist is inspired by something that touches him or her from inside, that develops into a feeling of enchantment. We train the eye to be like a newborn baby observing the entire world with a sense of wonder. Then, we give enough time to observe the subject, slowly and with patience. It’s like reading a 300-page novel and telling the entire story later on. If we don’t take the proper time to read the novel fully, we will not get the whole picture.Later on, we start drafting lightly on the paper or canvas. At this step we are repeating what the eyes have seen, and what we have felt, with the hands. When we observe something continuously, the eyes travel around the object. In the same way&nbsp;the hand repeats this eye movement. Initially the whole picture is drafted on the paper, defining the page setting. Later on we get into the details. It’s very important not to be lost in details at this initial stage. Like the old Chinese saying: “If you are seeing the leaf, you are not seeing the tree. If you are seeing the tree, you are not seeing the forest.”<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/fabio3_img_2762fa381a.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-03T03:23:00.806Z" alt="fabio3_img"><hr>After a while, when there is enough visual information on the paper or canvas, we can start analyzing proportion, identifying geometrical abstractions in figures and making necessary corrections. Here enters the analytical mind, but even still it has to be balanced and integrated with the natural flow of the figure. Later on we observe&nbsp;light and dark, adding deep and intermediate grades of shadow, leaving blank spaces in those spots where the light is hitting most. If it is a painting, the next step would then be to add colors, observing the nuances.At a certain point the external object is not required anymore. Now we explore in depth the graphic or pictorial universe, which turns out to be a new reality. At this stage we express our innermost feelings, enjoying the total liberty of contemplating the inner world. This stage may take hours, days, weeks, months or even years. And even when an artwork is finished, we can easily keep on ‘cooking on a low fire’, making continuous small perfections and refinements.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/fabio4_img_b021020a04.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-03T03:24:04.422Z" alt="fabio4_img"><hr>There is a saying that an artwork is never finished, it’s only an abandoned process that others perceive as finished. A famous example is the unfinished painting, the Mona Lisa by Leonardo Da Vinci, which he painted over 3 years and continued refining for another 11 years until he separated himself from the work.I find that it’s preferable to spend more time on one or just a few drawings, going deep into each one, rather than working on many at once and finishing them too fast. There is an importance to the depth we achieve in each work. This depth continues to deepen, and each previous work leads to greater depth in the next one. It’s a vertical journey.<hr><img src="https://cdn-prod-static.heartfulness.org/fabio5_img_be4b9c5e83.jpg?updated_at=2023-04-03T03:24:57.120Z" alt="fabio5_img"><hr>At the end, stepping out of the artistic process and contemplating the work, all sorts of feelings arise, like “How was this done?” and “Who did this?” At the same time, all the effort and feeling of doing the work is still very much alive and leads to future work. We have no choice but to keep on excelling, because the previous artwork, yesterday’s effort, no longer satisfies the soul. This will continue until our final breath on Earth marks the end of this process.So the ultimate beauty of artistic creation is to refine the tool to such an extent, that we become a channel of creation coming from the deepest inspirations of the heart. Then we are able to completely integrate the artistic process with spirituality.To see more of Fabio’s work, please visit&nbsp;<a href="https://www.patreon.com/fabiokohler">https://www.patreon.com/fabiokohler</a><hr><hr><h4 style="text-align:center;">Art and article by FABIO KOHLER</h4><hr>

Art and meditation

<h4>
FABIO KOEHLER
 is an artist and a musician who has been living away from his native
 Brazil for over six years. Here he shares the joy of samba, and
 describes how people from all cultures have danced and made music to
 connect with life, transform pain into happiness, and come together in
 community.
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EMBRACING DIFFERENCE
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Vejam essa maravilha de cenário É um episódio relicário Que
 o artista, num sonho genial Escolheu para este carnaval E o
 asfalto como passarela Será a tela Do Brasil em forma de
 aquarela



Look at this wonderful scenario It’s a reliquary episode That
the artist, in a brilliant dream, Chose for this carnival And
the asphalt as a catwalk Will be the canvas Of Brazil in the
form of a watercolor



Aquarela Brasileira by Silas de Oliveira https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHN2TVwNhEo


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Whenever the word happiness comes to my mind I think of samba! I grew up
in Rio de Janeiro, which is a postcard city due to its natural beauty
and its Carnival. When I was fifteen years old, a musician taught me to
play the main beat of samba on the pandeiro, an instrument
similar to the tambourine, during a moonlit party on the beach. Since
then, I have not stopped playing that instrument! I left Brazil in 2015
and the feeling of homesickness increases day by day. Since I left, the
need to play the pandeiro, especially Brazilian music, has
grown greater and greater. Nowadays, it is easier to count the days I
don’t play the pandeiro. For me, playing samba is directly
related to happiness. There is a famous song which says:



O samba é pai do prazer O samba é filho da dor Um grande poder transformador



Samba is the father of pleasure Samba is the child of pain A
great transforming power



Desde Que O Samba É Samba by Caetano Veloso https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MB-iGuBVclo


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And another one says:


Minha beleza encontro no samba que faço Minha tristeza se torna num alegra cantar



My beauty I find in the samba I make My sadness becomes a joyful
song



Esperanças Perdidas by Os Originais do Samba https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mLj9AK0edCY


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Samba has a joyful feel, and wherever I play in the world I feel this
joy is perceived by people, especially children. They are immediately
receptive to the happy vibrations and start smiling and moving their
bodies. The pandeiro (and other frame drums with jingles) was
used in diverse cultures during dances and festivities. It is known as
the bringer of joy. Whenever there is a pandeiro, the music is
filled with happiness. It is generally represented as a heart or, more
precisely, as the “heart of the musician.”



Meu coração é um pandeiro Gingando ao compasso de um samba
 feiticeiro



My heart is a pandeiro Swaying to the beat of a sorcerer’s samba



Morena Boca de Ouro by João Gilberto https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umbS_GJ0S50


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Samba had its origins in the African continent and developed in Brazil
in different areas and in diverse ways. Samba today is associated with
the city of Rio de Janeiro, because Rio was the entrance for the slave
trade coming from the African continent. There were an estimated one
million slaves in fifty years alone, which is an astonishing number.
Brazil is recognized as having the greatest number of slaves during the
colonial period.



Babuji used to say, “If you cannot leave the toilet better than before,
at least leave it like it was before you used it.” That’s why I’m deeply
grateful for the enormous work our forefathers did for humanity. During
their conditions of slavery, they transformed that pain into joy and
left us the samba! Lalaji used to sing to alleviate his stomach pains.
His sorrow would be transfigured into sweet sounds for the listeners,
just like samba music. It’s a great lesson on how to deal with sorrow
and pain. I feel very grateful to be able to play such music.



There is a song I encourage you to listen to, because the singer
Martinho da Vila is known for singing while he is smiling. You can hear
it in his voice:



Canta, canta minha gente Deixa a tristeza pra lá Canta
 forte, canta alto Que a vida vai melhorar



Sing, sing my people Leave sadness behind Sing strong, sing
loud That life will get better



Canta Canta, Minha Gente by Martinho da Vila https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FxQB1FYLu5k


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This song contains the popular saying, “Quem canta seus males espanta,” which means, “One who sings, sings his woes away.”


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What has this all to do with my life? These are the tools I use. Besides
playing pandeiro every day, I also sing the rhythm. I sing in
the corridor, I sing on the streets, while working, and even in the
bathroom. My acquaintances know me for this, and recognize me from afar,
even making jokes about the percussive sounds I make with my mouth. And
when I walk, I dance to the rhythm of samba. Samba dancing is normally
taught first as walking and then the characteristic movements are added.



This is the way I have found to express happiness. I’m sure each of you
has your own way. If you do not know it yet, I encourage you to find it.



The pandemic has deeply affected the artistic sector, especially live
performances. This break in live performances gave me an empty feeling
at first, and a craving to play with and for others, but it also
permitted me to develop the art of percussion. During the pandemic, I
took care of a multiple sclerosis patient. When I started to work with
her, she could not move her fingers, but she was completely conscious,
with no brain damage. During my job interview, she showed me her drum,
and when I told her that I was a percussionist she asked me to play. At
that moment she smiled like anything. On the days I forgot to play she
would tell me, “Today you did not play for me.” She was an antenna:
Whenever I played with too much mind, she would say “Today it was not
good.” Whenever I played from the heart, she would smile joyfully.



This went on for three months, until one morning she passed away in my
presence. That night, I informed her family about the moment of her
passing and the family presented me with her drum. They asked me to play
it at her burial, which was an unprecedented episode in my life. It
changed my approach to music, art, and life itself. I could understand
how the drum connects us to the other world. It shaped my soul to such
an extent that my way of playing was deeply transformed.


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Even though samba music is transient, the approach to life remains. I
have witnessed many times how hard-working people, living in harsh
circumstances, are able to find joy in their music. They dance through
life. Their daily duties do not always permit them to sing or dance, but
samba-like activities can serve as the oil to our daily routine. No
wonder people feel the need to go out to bars, discos, and concerts to
relax, meet people, listen, and dance to music. All indigenous people
have used dance and music in their group activities. A lot of their
dances came out of work, like hunting, planting, and harvesting. So,
they were able to integrate work itself with dance and music!



I think joyful vibrations from music like samba make the world a happier
place. That’s why I feel like playing music until my final breath. I
would even say samba itself is my breath. There is a final song I would
like to share with you:



Vem que passa Teu sofrer Se todo mundo sambasse Seria
 tão fácil viver



Come that it passes Your suffering If everyone could samba It
would be so easy to live



Tem Mais Samba by Chico Buarque https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5B8n0DyRtA


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Finn is a professional counsellor specialising in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), clinical hypnotherapist, stress management consultant, ordained Buddhist dharma teacher, and HeartMath facilitator. Specializing in men’s counselling and coaching, he has devised and facilitates a series of workshops and meditations for men, “The Heart Of The Master” program.

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Finn McMillan

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 FINN McMILLAN is a relationship counselor who has used
 his experience of heartbreak, with his clients and himself, to learn an
 important lesson: the heart is a repository of strength, courage, and
 love.&nbsp;
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 “A ship in the harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are made
 for.” – John A. Shedd.



 “Be not afraid.” – God



 Many of us have seen the exquisite images of Japanese pottery marked and
 scarred with gold or silver where breaks and cracks have been repaired,
 rejoining the shattered pieces to manifest beauty where once was
 brokenness. The art is known as Kintsugi, and is the bold
 embrace of this brokenness to create something new and wonderful, where
 nothing is hidden, shamed or denied, but rather made more perfect by the
 very process of fracturing. As a relationship counsellor and
 mediator, I have spent many years holding space for men and women in the
 bleak depths of agony as relationships died and they endured the worst
 wounds of heartbreak. And sometimes, I would show pictures of these
 beautiful examples of kintsugi to help them find a healing
 context to make sense of their pain in the gradual unfolding of their
 lives. However, as the years have passed, and I have explored
 my own experience of deep heartbreak, I have learned something new,
 vital, and even more hopeful.


The heart never breaks.


 The heart can never break. The heart is the very source of healing, of
 openness, of trust and faith, of ever-renewing. The heart is never
 diminished, nor wounded. Indeed in ancient Celtic teachings on the
 “Three Cauldrons,” the heart centre (Coire Emmae, or the
 Cauldron of Vocation) is seen as becoming ever more abundant through a
 lifetime of both joy and sorrow. It is in the open
 hearted embrace of both joy and pain, love and sorrow, that the
 heart matures and strengthens. And it is in the denial of these
 emotional depths that we lose our connection with the heart’s messages
 and prompts. But the heart never breaks.



 There may indeed be pain; the pain of growth, the pain of new birth, is
 often required for the heart to thrive and grow. The deepest wounds can
 nurture the deepest and the best in us; the greater betrayals the
 greater resurrections. This is all in the process of the heart that
 never breaks. Two dichotomies are at work when we try to
 understand “heartbreak” and to process the pain of it. The first is that
 between love and fear; the second is between ego and the heart.



 Reflecting on this, we can begin to understand ancient teachings which
 have always seen that the opposite of love is not hate, but fear.
 “Perfect love casts out all fear,” it has been wisely observed. Where
 the one exists, there can be scant room for the other. It is also often
 thought that the opposite of fear is courage. But this is not the case.
 Fear is the precise condition required for courage to exist. And we know
 that courage itself is one of the core values of the heart. Indeed, we
 get the word itself from the French word for heart, coeur.



 This is the challenge of living a life in divine alignment with the
 heart; to recognise that it takes courage to love, and to live
 whole-heartedly in the face of fear. The evolutionary challenge
 here is to recognise that which we fear, and to trust that the heart is
 resilient and all-embracing enough to hold and embrace that. Living
 heartfully is to risk, explore, gamble, trust and leap.


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 This is the challenge of
 living a life in divine alignment with
 the heart; to recognise that it takes courage to love, and
 to live whole-heartedly in the face of fear.
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 From philosophers to saints, from psychologists to neurologists and
 biologists, the primary quest for safety (always the prerogative of the
 ego that wants to maintain control of external factors and environment,
 or the primary signalling of the brain’s amygdala to the physiological
 system) has been identified as the greatest impediment to any
 psychological, social, emotional or spiritual growth. Even Ben
 Franklin’s famous observation, that “those who would give up essential
 liberty to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty
 nor safety,” demonstrates the principle in political philosophy.



 With experience and mistakes, options taken and opportunities lost, one
 increasingly comes to look over the course of one’s life and realises
 that, in the end, it was the lack of courage that caused the greater
 losses. To gain anything means to lose what was had before, and what was
 had before was safe. To do anything of meaning means to risk
 losing in the attempt. To love means to risk hurt. To gamble means to
 often lose.



 A wise woman once taught me the vast difference between playing life to
 win, as opposed to playing it simply not to lose.
 Living to win means to risk losing, and those that do live this way both
 win and lose often. But to live simply not to lose, in fear of hurt and
 loss, ensures one is likely protected from grief and hurt, but at the
 cost of never truly winning. Living this life keeps one merely safe and
 cocooned, fragile, ever-protective of that fragility, ever-fearful to
 lose.



 Living bruise-free and risk-averse is easy, as is living without
 passion. But where is the life in that? Where can the love ever be?


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 Where is the heart?
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 Of all the virtues of the heart, it is courage that opens the gate to
 the joys of the others. I used to wonder why in the Bible every time an
 angel appears, the first thing s/he says is “Be not afraid.” When
 something wonderful and new comes into a life, it cannot come to
 fruition unless one can overcome the fear of the challenging and
 frightening new unmaking it brings with it.



 “Be not afraid.” The motto of a true life, lived beautifully and
 heartfully.



 As to the other dichotomy that often turns us from the wisdom of the
 heart is the contrasting imperatives of the ego/brain and its stories on
 one hand, as opposed to the heart’s deeper understandings on the
 other. It is our brain and the voice of our isolated self
 (ego) that tells us to protect our heart from damage. But the
 heart never breaks, it is only the ego that may. The heart can feel pain
 and grow from it, whereas the ego sees impending pain and fearfully
 shrinks away. And so, the ego tells us – in the face of heartbreak,
 betrayal, lies and hurt – to never risk again. To only ever approach new
 love or experience from a place of hurt and mistrust. It does so,
 because its entire self-creation is put at risk. Am I good enough? Am I
 enough? What’s wrong with me? Will I be hurt? Will I survive? This is
 all the language of ego, not heart.



 And so, as we identify with the ego and the processes, analysis and
 questions of the brain, we move away from the direct experience of heart
 expansion and believe our dysfunctional beliefs. And the ego is
 conniving in how it offers us its clever narratives.



 The ego, particularly one that has been traumatised by hurt and
 betrayal, pretends that the inclination to close down, run away, not
 risk love again, is to “protect” the heart. It will proclaim great and
 often noble-sounding assertions that the greater virtues are
 “independence,” “sovereignty,” “self-sufficiency,” and remove itself
 from the risk, messiness and reality of love, humanity and the work of
 the heart. But it is, invariably, simply the voice of fear. The brain
 lives in linear time and provides the ego with fears of past experience,
 projected into anxieties of future realities. The heart, not needing any
 such protection, lives in the now of experience. Trauma holds no place
 in the heart, this abundant and bottomless well of self-healing.



 A healthy brain and heart will naturally operate together in cohesion,
 but each individual needs to understand where the executive power in
 this relationship lies. As the Heart Math Institute’s research has
 shown, the heart’s intelligence and information networks exceed even
 those of the brain. It is not the brain that controls the heart (the
 heart only variably heeds the instructions of the brain), but rather the
 heart that invariably determines how the brain functions, thinks,
 perceives, and determines the signals it provides to the body’s various
 electrical, hormonal and biochemical functions. The information network
 that connects the brain and the heart runs predominantly from heart to
 brain, not brain to heart.


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 Returning to the ancient Celtic model of the Three Cauldrons, one
 cauldron is in the head, one is in the heart, and one is in the loins.
 The head controls ego and thought, the realms of past and future in time
 and space. The cauldron in the loins manages bodily energy, sensations
 and instinctive needs. Both are important, but a weighting in either
 will cause us to live cut off from the font of our deepest wisdom.
 Either can draw us into cold and passionless lives, without courage,
 distant from the touch of love and the voice of intuitive wisdom.



 The heart is our home, our destination, our greatest joy and most sacred
 guide. It continually blesses us, and the world around us. It opens us
 to the mystery of Love. And it never breaks.


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The heart never breaks

Fiona studied Fine Arts and Spanish at the University at Albany in New York. She is a Heartfulness trainer and a certified Yoga instructor. Fiona is inspired by nature and is passionate about creating introspective spaces to share with others through her landscape paintings, photography, music, and conversation.

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Fiona Neary

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 FIONA NEARY
 celebrates diversity as a way to create communities that are vibrant,
 dynamic, and interesting. She finds ways to overcome language barriers, and
 discover common experience and ways of communication that are uplifting and
 allow us all to flourish.
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 In nature, there is a tendency for plants of many species to grow in diverse
 communities; climbing, crawling, fruiting, sturdy vegetation that support one
 another like a symphony. There is beauty and harmony in the offerings of each
 plant and flower, and every bug and animal living nearby also benefit from
 this array of sustenance. They are all different colors and shapes. But
 despite the variety, all plant life is working toward a simple goal: to
 thrive, rise to the sun, and let life blossom into future generations.



 I think we are very similar to our green-leafed friends. We have the inherent
 desire to help each other grow and reach our full potential. This beautiful
 spark of humanity is easily seen when we have a common goal centered around
 community, caring for one another, with a focus bigger than ourselves.Any
 perceived differences naturally fall away. At the same time, we are all
 unique, and the many cultural and demographic distinctions make the human
 experience so fascinating.



 I have felt the greatest sense of unity amongst large groups of people,
 sharing a common goal and direction, or the appreciation for something
 beautiful. I have traveled overseas a few times and experienced deep
 connections with people in airports; people I would probably never encounter
 otherwise. Sometimes, there is a feeling of overwhelm and vulnerability. But
 when you share this duality of emotion with another traveler, there is a
 strong sense of camaraderie and teamwork when heading to the destination
 together.



 This in-between space can foster the most wonderful synchronicity. I think it
 is the magic in travel. Being in an unfamiliar place can strip away the
 conditioned behaviors we follow daily, and enables us to step away from our
 differences and embrace each other’s humanness.&nbsp;



 I think experiencing different cultures is an essential part of life. Even
 with language barriers we find other ways to communicate. Smiles are a
 universal form of body language! Our human hearts are always connected to each
 other, just like tree roots are connected to each other through the soil.


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 Smiles are a universal form of body language! Our human hearts are always connected to each other,
 just like tree roots are connected to each other
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 Music can unite people of all backgrounds. Its sweet sounds are heard floating
 through the subways, buskers on the street, and from children’s mouths. In a
 large, bustling metropolis like New York City, I have seen musicians draw a
 crowd. People appreciate the beautiful melodies. A feeling of unity and
 togetherness is apparent, and no one cares what class, status, age, or race
 the other people are. There is just music!&nbsp;In difficult times, music is
 one thing that can soften hearts and let us breathe in the light of comfort
 and community in the gravity of it all.&nbsp;


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 In modern times, social media is one of the primary methods of communication
 and knowledge-sharing. I believe it is so important to be conscious of what we
 are allowing into our minds from the cyber world. In the beginning of the
 year, I decided to follow people and social media accounts that fill my heart
 and show the best side of humanity, for example, accounts on Instagram that
 share only good news.There are people greeting family members for the first
 time in years, surprising grandparents on their birthdays, doing something
 simple and meaningful. These videos and stories are sent in from all over the
 world, people from every culture and background, and you can feel the beauty
 in human connection.



 It is so easy to have empathy when we see someone overcome with joy and tears
 in their eyes. When I am down, I sometimes watch one of these videos, and
 become filled with love.



 I am also very interested in stories of strangers or friends sharing openly
 about life and healing together through a common understanding. Thoraya
 Maronesey is a filmmaker who interviews strangers in different cities to find
 out their secrets. They choose to stay anonymous or show their faces.
 Something about this casual invitation allows them to feel seen and heard.
 Hearing the struggles of others helps us feel a little less alone in whatever
 we are going through.&nbsp;



 There is so much in the news that can make us feel divided. Sometimes we feel
 lonely or unheard, or brought down in sadness. But there is so much good
 happening also! We can live and flourish like the many plants in a garden and
 lift each other up. By getting curious about different cultures, we see that
 we are all part of the same small, vibrant globe.


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 Explore and discover the gifts of
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 Come to Kanha. Learn. Grow. Share.
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 “Knowing that you love the Earth changes you,
 activates you to
 defend and protect and celebrate. But when you feel that the Earth
 loves you in return, that relationship transforms from a one-way
 street to a sacred bond.”
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 FIONA
 NEARY is passionate about creating introspective spaces to share with others through painting,
 photography, music, and conversation. She and her mother DEBORAH NEARY have created a fun exercise
 for us. It is both creative and enlightening.
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Trees are foundational in Nature. They grow from the smallest seed, but have the potential to create an entire
 forest. Trees are structured to withstand the strongest storms and the most severe weather. Their roots keep
 them steady in the ground, they grow trunks that carry water to the treetops. Then in spring and summer, flowers
 and leaves color their branches, give protection to the birds and nourishment to our atmosphere. We, as humans
 also have relationships and habits in our lives that give us strong foundations to flourish and grow as people.
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 humans also have relationships and habits in our lives that give us
 strong foundations to flourish and grow as people. As a metaphor, we can compare ourselves to the parts
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In this exercise, you draw a tree that represents YOU! There are so many trees in the world. Do you have a
 favorite? Are there any you can see outside your window or in a local park? Maybe a tree that exists far away…
 like the Baobab in Africa, a tropical palm, or an alpine spruce.&nbsp;



Don’t worry about drawing it correctly, express from the heart. And then think about some things in your life
 that have positively shaped you… who, or what may be in your roots, your trunk, branches, and leaves.



The roots represent your history – the family you come from, your heritage, strong influences which shaped your
 beliefs.



The trunk represents your life today – what is your career? Your “chosen” family, the organizations and
 communities in which you belong.



The branches represent places in your life that are stable and supportive – where you can jump and always know
 you will land safely, no matter how hard you fall.&nbsp;



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 to show the various ways the “tree of life” can be drawn, and the ways
 each of our lives are all unique.</h4>



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The leaves represent your passions, hobbies, and other influences – friends, books, music, sports, ways you spend
 your free time.



The fruits represent the result of action – has acting on your creativity and talents resulted in something
 wonderful? Have you created something new for the world to see? Have you started a new group or program?



Other parts of the tree – for example, buds could represent new hopes and dreams for the future, thorns could be
 difficulties in life or protection from harm.



My mother and I created these drawings as we were traveling and it was a breath of fresh air to create amidst the
 travel stress. We hoped to show the various ways the “tree of life” can be drawn, and the ways each of our lives
 are all unique. Yours will probably be completely different!



Draw for 20 to 30 minutes, or continue for however long you wish. Feel free to share this exercise with family
 and friends, present them with your experience and what you’ve learned during the process! How did this feel to
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A fun exercise: Tree of life

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Expressions of peace from around the world

Four Arrows, aka Don Trent Jacobs, is a champion of the Indigenous Worldview, has been endorsed by some of the world’s most noted thinkers, and has received the Martin Springer Institute’s Moral Courage Award.

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Four Arrows

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 FOUR ARROWS,
 aka
 DON TRENT JACOBS, Ph.D., Ed.D.,
 is the author of numerous books, peer-reviewed articles,
 and chapters on applications of the Indigenous Worldview as a proven
 solution to our existential world problems. Former Director of Education at
 Oglala, Lakota College, and currently a professor of education for change at
 Fielding Graduate University, his academic work, spiritual life, and
 social/ecological justice activism have received international recognition,
 including a book on his work by Dr. Michael Fisher entitled
 Fearless Engagement of Four Arrows. In part 1 of this series, he
 speaks with
 JUDITH NELSON
 from the Heartfulness Institute about worldviews and
 complementarity.
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 Q: A very big welcome, Don. Can you tell us a bit about your
 background?



 4A: I was born in
 St. Louis County, Missouri, USA. My mom was Irish-Cherokee, and my dad was
 Irish, but my Cherokee background was ignored, except once a month when mom
 would talk about it. Her dad had committed suicide, and it was not something
 to have as a positive.



 I went into the Marine Corps during the Vietnam era. When I got out, I had a
 chip on my shoulder about the falsities of that war, and I took it out on
 adventures like wild-horse training and white-water rafting. I tried a river
 that had never been ascended before, the Rio Urique in Copper Canyon, Mexico.
 The canyon was 8,000 feet down, and I had a near-death experience where the
 river disappeared into an underground hole.



 I had a vision during that experience, which brought me to studying the
 Indigenous worldview. It was not just the vision but also the Rarámuri people.
 They saved the lives of my friend and me by getting us out of the canyon.



 I called that vision CAT-FAWN. CAT stands for Concentration Activated
 Transformation. You can think of it as self-hypnosis or spontaneous hypnosis.
 FAWN is Fear, Authority, Words, and Nature. The CAT was the mountain lion that
 led us out of the cave as the river rose from flooding; and the FAWN was one
 that the Tarahumara had been carrying over their shoulder. They had run it
 down – you may have heard of the Tarahumara as being great runners. Those two
 animals turned into the words “CAT-FAWN.”


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 I got a second doctorate with an Indigenous worldview cognate, and I was
 convinced from the vision and subsequent work that the changes that happened
 to me were about remembering our original worldview. As soon as I graduated, I
 was hired as Director of Education at Oglala Lakota College for the Pine Ridge
 Reservation. I found individuals who still held onto the old ways, and I
 became a Sun Dancer. One of the seven sacred ceremonies of the Lakota is the
 making of a relative. I was made a relative of the Medicine Horse Tiospaye,
 and I commenced writing about the Indigenous worldview, one that belongs to
 all of us, one that guided us for 99% of human history up until 8,000 years
 ago. That’s been my life’s passion.



 Q: How did you come to have the name Four Arrows?



 4A: I got the
 name Four Arrows during the relative-making ceremony. I did a
 Hanbleceya (vision quest) prior to that and had a vision of a lake
 with four arrows shooting from the middle of it. Each arrow went in a
 different direction – west, north, east, and south – and when it hit the
 ground it turned into an animal. When I came back, I burnt my clothes, went
 into the lodge, and told them my vision. I was given the name Four Arrows.



 Q: Can you explain what you mean by worldview?



 4A: Experts like
 Kotlko-Rivera essentially say that it’s a fundamental belief in our human
 relationship with Nature and with the supernatural. It undergirds all our
 beliefs and philosophies. I follow the theory of Robert Redfield, known as the
 father of social anthropology. Working out of the University of Chicago, he
 brought the German idea of Weltanschauung to the academy in a more
 meaningful way.



 In the early ’30s he said that there are only three worldviews: The Eastern
 worldview, which the yogic traditions come from; the Western worldview; and
 the primitive worldview. Later, he decided that the Eastern one had largely
 been subsumed in terms of operations, governments, schooling, etc. So he said,
 “There are only two,” and he called one the metropolitan or civilized one, and
 the other the mythological or indigenous one.



 He believed that the greatest tragedy to happen in human history was the
 destruction of the Indigenous worldview by those who colonized and
 operationalized the dominant worldview.



 One definition I came upon on for worldview is that it’s really about how to
 understand the norm of opposites that exist in the world – night
 and day, in and out, up and down.


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 In the dominant worldview, there’s a rigid either-or, whereas in the
 Indigenous worldview there are night and day, in and out.
 These polarities certainly exist, and we recognize them in our language, but
 the Indigenous worldview looks at complementary duality.



 There’s a quote in Hillary Webb’s book1, where one of the Andean
 Indians says something like: Well, it’s crazy not to recognize what is bad as
 bad, but the trick is being able to recognize what is bad in a way that brings
 forth harmony. How can you look at “This is healthy, this is not healthy” in a
 way that’s harmonious? Very, very tricky idea!


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 Carl Jung came up with something similar when he said that the understanding
 of duality is an art that realizes the living rhythm that comes from finding
 balance between opposites.



 So, I came up with a Worldview Chart based on research around forty precepts.
 Most of all, the cultures in the world under the dominant worldview have this
 anthropocentric view that humans are at the “center.” No matter how much you
 love animals or pets, you still operate according to you – everything is about
 humans. Capitalism essentially is about humans – everything else on Earth is
 utilitarian.



 In contrast, there are the Vedic traditions (I practice Kundalini Yoga, and
 this is just a theory now, on my part). They have attempted to bring us back
 to our nature-based worldview, to an understanding of our interconnectedness,
 but they have done it as “postvention” instead of prevention. They say, “Well,
 this is what we can do from where we are,” whereas in the Indigenous
 worldview, as Webb shows, 78% of all pre-contact cultures were peaceful
 societies. They were living and maintaining their societies through
 ceremonies.



 My students use the Worldview Chart all the time. Whenever something comes up,
 they look at it and ask, “Okay, what are the challenges? Why is
 anthropocentrism creating this problem? What would happen if we truly see,
 let’s say, trees as sentient, and ants and cockroaches in the bathroom as
 sentient? What if we take time to study, to observe, even if we have to use
 Google to find out what they’re all about?” “What if we really have in our
 minds that humans are not superior? How would that affect how we treat people
 of different color, of different sexual identity, of different economic
 class?” Pretty soon, people start to see that all these worldview precepts
 work together.



 My students use the Worldview Chart in every class. While talking about
 sociological, ecological, justice issues, complexities, and problems, they go
 through it and say, “If we could have a sense that competition is about
 developing positive potential, not about winning to feel superior,” or “If we
 could really understand that there are spiritual energies in the world, and
 that experience would allow someone to do such-and-such.”



 I ask people to do an exercise where they choose one thing from the dominant
 worldview list on the left that they are engaged with. Many individuals and
 groups like your own find that they resonate with something on the right-hand
 list – the Indigenous worldview – but I ask them to look at the list on the
 left, and it has really been amazing. At the Boston College of Business, one
 person who had never thought about the Indigenous worldview said, “Wow, I
 can’t believe how easy this would be to do. I can see how even though I
 generally believe people are good, I live in a world where human nature is
 seen as essentially corrupt or evil. That’s what’s operating and I buy into
 that. I buy into social laws as primary as opposed to the laws of Nature.”



 So, people recognize that we live in systems that are essentially guiding us
 via the dominant worldview, and that’s why we’re in such an existential
 crisis. Then we look at the Indigenous worldview, and we talk about “What
 would happen if we had our organization operating according to a number of
 these principles?” So, does that help a little?


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 Q: Yes. In fact, I’m quite struck by the similarity between
 our
 Heartfulness system and its aims, and the Indigenous worldview that you have
 on the right side of the chart.



 4A: I felt that
 when you were first talking about Heartfulness. It’s not unusual, because some
 of the original yogic philosophies were in sync with the Indigenous worldview.
 There’s one world based on Nature and Spirit, and then there’s the
 human-centered materialistic world that we live in, which during less than 1%
 of human history has destroyed life systems, happiness, and everything else.
 It’s a no-brainer for me, and yet there’s a lot of resistance.



 A lot of my colleagues see duality as binary, because the dominant worldview
 is binary, and they can’t understand how playing with the two sides
 is not a violation of the “us-versus-them” thinking. That’s all they know,
 that’show it works. They don’t understand the phenomenon of complementary
 thinking.


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 So, let’s talk about the original myths of twin heroes around the world. There
 are always twins – two men, a man and woman, or two women – who work together.
 One represents the solar energy and one represents the lunar energy. All
 Indigenous cultures have these myths, for example, the Navajo have one called
 Monster Slayer and the Child Born of the Water. Monster Slayer is the solar,
 and the Child Born of the Water is the lunar.



 They come to a monster with long arms, and Monster Slayer says, “No problem,
 I’m a good shot, I’m going to get him with my arrow.” The Child Born of
 Water says, “O brother, his arms are so long, he’ll get that arrow and us.
 It’s not going to work.” Monster Slayer says, “Well, what should we
 do?” And the Child Born of Water says, “I think we should sing to
 him.” So they sing to him. The monster, never having been treated that
 way, mellows out. The lesson is that monsters are those things in us that are
 our greed, our jealousy, our anger, etc.



 Jump forward to the dominant worldview, where all the twin-hero stories have
 been changed. Romulus kills Remus, Jacob steals Esau’s birthright, and so on.
 Everybody knows Hercules, but nobody knows his brother, Iphicles, who was the
 lunar twin. We have dominated in a solar way, and we’ve made that masculine.
 We’ve dominated the feminine, right?


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 So, with this idea of complementarity, people are confused by seeing a duality
 and not immediately saying “Ah! This is what I’m against.” It’s a tricky
 business to be able to say, like the Indigenous Andeans said: It’s crazy to
 think that something that’s bad isn’t bad.


The trick is bringing the awareness and the solution in a harmonious way.

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To be continued.

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 This interview has been brought to you with the collaboration and support
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 1 Webb, H.S., 2012.
 Yanantin and Masintin in the Andean World: Complementary Dualism in
 Modern Peru. University of New Mexico Press, USA.

Exploring different worldviews

Kinship and interconnectedness

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 FOUR ARROWS,
 aka
 DON TRENT JACOBS, Ph.D., Ed.D., is the author of numerous books, peer-reviewed articles,
 and chapters on applications of the Indigenous Worldview as a proven
 solution to our existential world problems. Former Director of Education at
 Oglala, Lakota College, and currently professor of professor at the School
 of Educational Leadership for Change at Fielding Graduate University, his
 academic work, spiritual life, and social/ecological justice activism have
 received international recognition. In part 3 of this series, he speaks with
 JUDITH NELSON
 from the Heartfulness Institute about how to work with worldviews and be the
 best person you can be.
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 Q:&nbsp; You’ve spoken already about indigenizing our systems, but can you
 talk a bit about how to do that?



 4A: I believe
 that the Indigenous and Dominant worldview reflections can be taught along
 with the CAT–FAWN methodology. CAT stands for Concentration
 Activated Transformation. You can think of it as self-hypnosis or spontaneous
 hypnosis. FAWN is Fear, Authority, Words, and Nature. All we have to do is
 say, “Okay, we’ve got this challenge, whatever it is – making money, stopping
 pollution, or whatever it is. Let’s use CAT–FAWN to get in touch with our
 world.”



 We start with CAT –
 Concentration Activated Transformation. All right, what do we
 know? What are our assumptions, and are those assumptions true? Where do they
 come from? Most of our assumptions about life come from early childhood, but
 there are also things that have been taught by the authorities during times of
 fear. During times of stress, all creatures become hyper suggestible to the
 communication of a perceived authority figure.



 So, we look at meta-cognition. “What am I thinking about thinking? What is the
 source of this?” And, if necessary, we think about how that idea came to us
 and why we believe it.



 We hold on to that CAT idea, and now we go to FAWN and we
 start with Fear. What are we afraid of? How does fear – in
 any of its forms, from apprehension to paranoia – influence what we’re doing,
 what we’re deciding?



 In the Dominant Worldview, fear is to be avoided. We don’t like it; we don’t
 like the taste or smell of it. In the Indigenous Worldview, once the
 fight-or-flight mechanism of fear is over, it becomes an opportunity to
 practice a virtue – patience, courage, generosity, fortitude, humility,
 honesty, persistence – the great universal virtues. Fear is an opportunity to
 practice those things.



 Then, courage turns into fearlessness once we take action. Fearlessness means
 that, whatever the outcome, we’re fully engaged.



 Now let’s take Authority. In the Dominant Worldview,
 authority is almost always external – the papa, the preacher, the Pope, etc.
 In the Indigenous Worldview, the highest authority is your personal reflection
 or lived experience, with the understanding that everything is connected.
 People think of Indigenous people as collective, and the Western people as
 individualistic. No, not really. Have you ever seen a more individualistic,
 autonomous individual than an Indigenous person?



 Indigenous people have non-hierarchical cultures, so their authority,
 ultimately, is their own reflection; and the goal of their individuality is to
 help others, to help the community.


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 Okay, now let’s take Words. What words are we using? In the
 Dominant Worldview, we’re in a post-truth world; words are deceptive, children
 are using them deceptively, presidents are using them deceptively. It is
 commonplace. Books have been written saying it’s a survival thing to use
 deceptive words, right?



 In the Indigenous Worldview, words are sacred vibrations, so you’ve got to do
 your best. Truth is multifaceted, and you do your best to communicate. That’s
 why a verb-based language is easier because it’s always flowing; it’s harder
 to concretize it.



 As you begin to do the work, you can ask, “What words are we using?” When I
 taught hypnosis at UC Berkeley, a man came to me because his armpits sweated
 profusely whenever he was going to a meeting. I asked, “What do you say
 to yourself before you go to the meeting?” He said, “I don’t know, I look
 at my watch and go. I guess, ‘I have to go to this meeting.’” I said,
 “Just change ‘I have to go to the meeting’ to ‘I want to go to the meeting’
 and see what happens.” He thought I had hypnotized him, but I didn’t! All
 hypnosis is ultimately self-hypnosis, and that’s how powerful words are.



 Kipling said that words are humankind’s most powerful drug. That opinion comes
 from a Dominant Worldview, and it’s true, but Indigenous people would not use
 those terms. They would say that words are sacred prayers. So, if a woman
 is obese and she comes to me to get healthy, I say, “What do you say when you
 look in the mirror?” She replies, “I see a fat person, I’m fat.” And
 I say, “Let’s look at the words and your accuracy. Is it possible? If you were
 fat, you’d be in a jar. I don’t understand how that can be.” Pretty soon
 she’s got the idea, and she says, “Ah! I see myself in the mirror as a
 beautiful woman who happens to have more adipose tissue than she wants and is
 good for her health.” Ta dah! Now we can work with that. That’s how
 powerful words are, and it changes everything.


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 Technology is the balance between worldviews, and we can use
 technology to say, “If that’s what these ants are doing, it
 confirms that we need to be more dedicated to working together.”
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 The last one is Nature. What are we learning from nature
 about how our organization can move forward, how our family plans can move
 forward? Nature is all around us. Something will show up: a line of ants will
 appear, or you’ll look out into the yard and see a fox. Something will come,
 trust me on this. Just open yourself up to it. Learn as much about that
 creature as you can. That is something we’ve lost. Technology is the balance
 between worldviews, and we can use technology to say, “If that’s what these
 ants are doing, it confirms that we need to be more dedicated to working
 together.”


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 Q: I’m really struck by the common threads between what you’ve been saying
 and Heartfulness. For instance, you practice self-hypnosis and we practice
 meditation, and we also use beautiful, positive ideas and affirmations to
 see the world in a different light, to see people advancing, to see them
 develop, etc.



 4A:&nbsp; Yes,
 it’s the same thing. Meditation with affirmations is self-hypnosis; meditation
 without affirmations is being receptive to whatever comes. There are two sides
 to that coin. When you bring affirmations into meditation, then it becomes, by
 definition, a hidden hypnotic phenomenon. In Yoga, they do that very often.
 Often, it’s just tuning in, and other times it’s sending out love to the world
 through affirmations.



 So, if we could look at this series of worldview assumptions using
 affirmations, in one generation we would see changes happen. The Neusiok/Miwok
 Indians had lost their language, they were alcoholics, they couldn’t grow
 things, and some of the women thought, “We can bring back our ways.” In one
 and a half generations, they brought back the language, the ways of being, and
 now their sheep grow bigger, their corn grows bigger, and there’s hardly any
 alcoholism. Theoretically, we can return to our original worldview and live
 the heart-minded way. That’s one of the worldview precepts – living with the
 heart, following with the head, rather than the other way round. I think the
 yogic traditions are helping to bring us closer and closer to that also.



 Everyone can change, and they can do it from whatever tradition they wish. If
 we look at the religions – let’s take Christianity. An expert on Western
 Christianity showed me how the Church has created racism and maintained
 racism. But you can also look at Christianity and find things that resonate so
 beautifully with our worldview. So, a person can stay a Christian, because
 Jesus did many things that relate to this.



 Any culture can keep its unique diversity and find the place where it can
 include this worldview.


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 Q:&nbsp; I understand that, as I come from a religious background and ended
 up in a meditation practice because I wanted to understand life from a very
 different level. Meditation leads to a meditative life, a meditative state,
 in a way that I think you’re describing the connection to everything. If
 practiced well, you realize the connection with everything.



 It’s interesting that there are many threads working toward the same ends.
 It’s exciting to see how many systems are trying to connect to the same
 thing from different angles, because we’re not all the same. I picked up
 from your interviews that it’s about honoring our personal experience,
 instead of following someone else because they are an authority
 figure.



 4A:&nbsp;&nbsp;
 You’re absolutely right. Ultimately, it’s the experience. That’s where our
 teachings come from, not from somebody telling us; we have to experience it.


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 Q: Are there any practical ways to reduce our footprint and environmental
 destruction, rather than waiting for governments to solve this for us?



 4A: Well,
 everybody can live with a light footprint. Just do your best. Buy locally
 produced food, be mindful of what kinds of products you buy, know the
 corporation’s footprint, etc., and all those consciousness activities.


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 But I’ll close by saying that I don’t think we’re going to be able to turn
 things around. I was at the University of British Columbia the first time I
 said that, a year before the pandemic. The audience didn’t know whether to
 throw things at me or cry! Then the logical question came back, “Then why
 are you here? Why are you doing this work? Why are you writing these
 books?” And I answered, “Because I want to continue trying to be the best
 human being I can be.”



 I wrote a little book called
 Sitting Bull’s Words: For a World in Crisis. Sitting Bull didn’t have
 hope: all the buffalo had been killed, smallpox was wiping people out, and he
 was being chased. And yet, he never stopped being generous, he never stopped
 laughing, he never stopped writing songs, he never stopped his spiritual
 practices, he never stopped resisting, and he never stopped caring for the
 future of children.



 I don’t think hope is the certainty that things are going to turn out okay. A
 healthier definition of hope is the certainty that whatever you’re doing is
 worth doing regardless of the outcome. I find that people feel liberated by
 that and they have less burnout. They say, “I see what’s happening with the
 oil spills, I see the wars, I see the injustices and the political corruption,
 but the direction I’m going in personally, experientially, in my work, makes
 sense.”


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 The practical thing is to live our lives as best we can, and that means
 personal health and vitality, compassion, and empathy for others. I believe
 that we’re bodies inhabited by spirits, and our spirits can practice this and
 learn the lessons that we’re uniquely given in this life. Then, the chances
 are that when we rebuild, it won’t be like the post-apocalyptic movies, with
 guys with machine guns raping women. We’ll see people living according to our
 original worldview.


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 The practical thing is to live our lives as best we can, and that
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 Q: Thank you. That’s a lovely note to end on, because you’ve given a
 positive and helpful ideal for people who feel overwhelmed with all that’s
 going on. If we understand, “I can change myself. I’m not responsible for
 everything out there,” it provides a calmer sense of our part in this. As
 you say, if everybody does this, it will make all the difference.



 It reminds me of something one of our Heartfulness teachers said when he
 was asked, “How do I distinguish between right and wrong?” He replied,
 “Just ask yourself, ‘What if everybody did it?’ and you’ll get the
 answer.” He made it so simple. If we ask ourselves “What if everybody
 loved?” it would be fine; “What if everybody killed?” it wouldn’t be
 fine.



 Thanks again Don for a fascinating interview.
 


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Live life the best you can

Francesca is published in The New York Times, Brain, Child Magazine, The Manifest Station, Ed Week, Drunken Boat, and Word Riot. She leads an annual workshop at The Harvard Graduate School of Education. Her manual, Writing Workshop; How to Create a Culture of Useful Feedback, is popular worldwide.

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Francesca Grossman

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 After thyroid cancer, Crohn’s disease, and other autoimmune diseases
 defined her twenties and thirties,
 FRANCESCA GROSSMAN
 was left feeling alone with chronic pain. This invisible companion
 affected her whole life – intimacy, motherhood, friendship, work, and
 mental health – but after more than twenty years she started talking
 to others and discovered that her story was not unique, and neither
 were her feelings of loneliness and seclusion. Francesca decided to
 help her fellow chronic pain sufferers feel a little less alone, and
 her latest book,
 Not Weakness: Navigating the Culture of Chronic Pain, is a
 testament to their ability to live and love with chronic pain.
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 I have lived in chronic pain for most of my adult life. One thing I can
 tell you with absolute certainty is that the difference between living
 with it and giving up has almost always lived in kindness.



 The first time I lost control of my bowels, I was on the platform of the
 Number 6 train. I was twenty-six, and a cup of coffee I’d sipped led to
 stomach pain I can only classify as agonizing. Though I did everything I
 could to get up the subway steps and into a near by restaurant, my cold
 shaking body let go three steps from the top. The problem in a situation
 like that, I have since learned, is walking makes it worse. And stopping
 gets you nowhere.



 I sprinted in shame to my gym, a place that had been my salvation. I
 rushed into the shower with all my clothes on, peeled them off, pumped
 bright green body soap into my jeans, and threw away my underwear in a
 naked dash from the scalding shower to the metal bins.



 A young woman wearing a black staff T-shirt approached me in the locker
 room. I had seen her many times before, folding towels mostly, mopping
 the floor, and I always nodded my hello. She always nodded back. “Are
 you okay?” she asked. I was unable to speak. “Do you want me
 to wash and dry those for you?” she asked gently, pointing at the heap
 of wet clothes on the bench beside me. I sighed, nodded my thanks
 and sat in tiny white towels for the next forty-five minutes while this
 beautiful woman did my laundry.



 While the moment remains one of my most humiliating, I think it’s
 important to reflect on the kindness this woman showed me. She didn’t
 have to help. She had a lot to do, she was at work, she had a life that
 did not include cleaning up after me.



 We have this assumption that in shameful situations most people will be
 cruel; they will point and laugh, they will walk away disgusted, and/or
 they will not help. I’m not sure if that comes from the playground, the
 horrific news cycle, bad TV, or our own insecurities, but in my
 experience it is mostly false.



 This example of kindness and help is just one of many I can recount. A
 woman stopped what she was doing to help me clean up. She looked at me
 naked and shaking, sitting next to a pile of wet dirty clothes, and she
 held out her hand to take them. She washed my clothes, and in doing so
 washed away some of the shame that had covered me too. Her kindness was
 a work of grace.



 At the time, this was the most humiliating day of my life, and my
 response was to bury it deep within me. It was only the beginning of the
 shame I would experience in the next two decades living with a number of
 autoimmune diseases, which triggered and caused severe everyday pain and
 the total breakdown of my body.


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 We have this assumption that
 in shameful situations most people will
 be cruel; they will point and laugh, they will walk away
 disgusted, and/or they will not help, but in my experience it is mostly false.
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 Living in chronic pain can leave you feeling like there’s no goodness
 out there, that no one can understand and therefore no one cares. I have
 experienced – and the women I’ve interviewed have also – repeated
 dismissal, silencing, and shame by some of the people who were supposed
 to care for us. But many people have been saviors. I have had many
 doctors, nurses, aids, therapists, instructors, and friends who have
 done everything in their power to make me well. My gratitude runs deep.



 The women who spoke to me for my book lit up when I asked them to tell
 me about their experiences with kindness. In almost every case, they
 were happy and eager to recount the moments and people who changed their
 lives simply by being kind.



 Samantha was in a near-fatal riding incident in the mid ’90s, which left
 her with severe, constant chronic pain in her leg and shoulder. She told
 me,“ I’ve run across many kind people. Too many to count. A couple jump
 to mind.



 “The first was a nurse who figured out a way to wash my hair in the
 hospital after my accident, without me having to ask. She knew it was
 bothering me to have dirty hair. Her name was Sophia. I’ll never forget
 her.



 “The second was a paramedic who held my hand in the helicopter on the
 way to the hospital. Never got his name, but I do remember his smile,
 and the way his simple human touch made me feel that everything would be
 okay.”



 Studies show that delivering health care with kindness leads to faster
 healing, reduced pain, increased immune function, lowered blood
 pressure, and decreased anxiety. According to Dignity Health, “In a
 randomized controlled trial of patients with irritable bowel syndrome,
 patients who were treated by warm practitioners who listened actively
 and expressed compassion for their condition experienced less pain, less
 severe symptoms, and greater health improvement than other patients in
 the study… leading to a general conclusion that better communication and
 listening have a positive influence on controlling pain.”



 Love is big. But kindness is often small. Reaching out instead of
 recoiling. Checking up instead of writing off. Texting, nodding,
 smiling. A one-armed hug. A calming song, a cool cloth. A sweet phrase.
 A compliment. Small gestures that in retrospect make huge differences.


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 To the nurse that washed Samantha’s hair, it is probably just something
 she is happy to do. To the woman in the black T-shirt, maybe I’m a funny
 anecdote or maybe I didn’t register much at all. I’m sure it seemed like
 a very small thing to her.



 But to me, it was huge. And there is no doubt that small acts of
 kindness like these helped save my life.


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 Love is big. But kindness is
 often small. Reaching out instead of
 recoiling. Checking up instead of
 writing off. Texting, nodding,
 smiling. A one-armed hug. A calming song, a
 cool cloth. A
 sweet phrase. A compliment. Small gestures that in retrospect
 make huge differences.
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Kindness makes a world of difference

François started his career in a leading market trading bank in the heart of Paris at the age of 20. Two years later, he also started volunteering for an NGO spreading practical means for rejuvenating human values. He has an MBA in intercultural management, foreseeing the need for unifying skills to address the challenge the planet is facing, and in 1995 created his first company, Indo-French Business Research Consultancy, to assist the changing world workplace environment and challenges. In 2014, he left his job in one of the top five banks in Paris to create awareness in the field of participatory economics and related initiatives. These days he works as an activist, permaculture consultant, and eco-village consultant.

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François Bouderlique

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 FRANÇOIS
 BOUDERLIQUE
 shares some very practical ideas on how we can move forward toward a “new
 normal” in our post-Covid world. They are not new ideas, instead coming from
 the timeless wisdom of two great sages from India, Swami Vivekananda and Ram
 Chandra.
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 For more than a year now, our lifestyle has been put to the test. The pandemic
 and its consequences on our family and economic situations have disturbed life
 as we knew it. I guess it is just the beginning of multiple challenges that
 will come in the coming years. This phenomenal change has been very
 challenging for most of us, with a flow of events that are pushing us to
 assess our deepest convictions, consciously or unconsciously.



 How to get stronger to regain a lost balance, build new inner convictions, and
 try to cement a renewed harmonious lifestyle and face life courageously as it
 comes to us?


How to keep our balance?


 How to know what decisions will keep us on the right track, living a life of
 purpose and fulfilling action?



 How to tap into our deepest ideal while strengthening our character in a
 practical way?


Quite challenging right now, no?


 Let me share with you the formula of Swami Vivekananda, who, at the end of the
 19th century, was the epitome of strength and vision with a practical approach
 to life. It has been my favorite quote, and I believe it summarizes a
 wonderful approach for life in modern times. It compresses a timeless wisdom
 on how we can synchronize our hearts and minds for our ultimate benefit:



 “You must try to combine in your life immense idealism with immense
 practicality. You must be prepared to go into deep meditation now, and the
 next moment you must be ready to go and cultivate these fields. You must be
 prepared to explain the difficult intricacies of the shastras now, and the
 next moment to go and sell the produce of the fields in the market. You must
 be prepared for all menial services, not only here, but elsewhere also.



 “The next thing to remember is that the aim of this institution is to make
 men. … The true man is he who is strong as strength itself and yet possesses a
 woman’s heart.” 1


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 Strength is the hallmark of Swami Vivekananda. He goes so far as to say that
 weakness is a sin!



 Now, if we combine this with the idea of an ashram as presented by Ram
 Chandra, known to many as Babuji, we get a magic combination that will fuel
 our enthusiasm to lead a life of perfect alignment with our deepest dreams and
 inner convictions, in the most natural way.



 For Babuji, an ashram is not a place for religious zealots living with a set
 of artificial rules away from society. Instead, it is the field of action of
 our immediate families, where practical duties meet commitments to higher
 forces to which we all aspire deep within ourselves.


Here is his definition:


 “Grihastha ashram (family life) is not a bar in gaining the real aim
 in life. I think this is the best ashram in which higher approach is easily
 possible. … I assure you that a perfect saint may be found in this ashram
 alone. We perform our duties and remember Him as Ultimate Reality.”2



 Our immediate field of action – given at the time of our conception in our
 environment – starts with our family. It needs to be cultivated and enriched
 first. Our strength will develop naturally with efforts, dedication, and
 sacrifice. Daily meditation keeps the flame of our inner ideals when we live a
 life of practicality, as beautifully explained by Swami Vivekananda.


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 “Family life is not a bar in gaining the real aim in life. I think this is the best ashram in which higher approach is easily possible. … 
 I assure you that a perfect saint may be found in this ashram alone. We perform our duties and remember Him as Ultimate Reality.” –Babuji
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 Take care of our immediate surroundings harmoniously, get stronger in the
 process, and naturally develop a healthy lifestyle year after year. What a
 simple formula for success!



 If I am facing each and every challenge within the close circle of my family,
 work environment, and social interactions, I will equip myself with the
 necessary strength to enlarge my circle of influence. If I succeed to create
 harmony in this small circle, the ripple effect of that harmonious circle will
 affect the world on a larger scale.


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 At times, we are tempted to run away from it, creating the illusion that the
 immediate circle can be neglected or avoided, to pursue a new home somewhere
 else. The problem is that if we have not taken the time to build our muscles
 of acceptance and compassionate action within our close encounters and
 families, what are we really going to achieve elsewhere?



 In the gym, you start by lifting 30 kilos then 35 kilos etc. Muscles of inner
 strength and character are also built in a proportional manner, consistently,
 starting at our doorstep.



 So, let us get strong together, step by step, kilo by kilo, practically, while
 keeping the inner eye alert on our ideal by daily introspection. How can we
 nurture this grihastha ashram within our own homes and offices, as
 described by the heritage of those saintly figures who lived a practical life
 and succeeded in embracing both the inner ideal and the worldly environment?



 Such a simple path is given to us to attain strength of character, and this
 worthy strength is the only thing that will really shape our destiny and make
 us happy in the long run.


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 ¹ Swami Vivekananda, 1947.
 Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda, Vol. 3, “Lectures from Colombo
 to Almora. Sannyasa: Its Ideal and Practice.” Vedanta Press.



 2 Ram Chandra, 1989. Complete Works of Ram Chandra, Vol
 1. Shri Ram Chandra Mission, USA


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A formula for inner strength

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Frank Borman

Exploration

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Fred Rogers

The child in me

Ganesh Pai

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 GANESH PAI
 shares memories of his father and the lessons learned from his father’s
 behavior, presence, and attitude of forgiveness.
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 The tempo1 was ready to depart. It was a short 30-minute journey
 from Bhatkal to Uppunda, a sleepy village in coastal Karnataka, India. My
 father, sister, and I were traveling together. Since we were first in, we
 quickly found seats. Pretty soon, the tempo was jam-packed; even an ant could
 not have entered. As the journey started, the conductor started collecting
 fares, and as he neared our seats, he asked me to stand up and let an adult
 sit in my place. I was about to get up when my father tapped me on the
 shoulder to indicate that I should stay seated right there. The conductor told
 my father, “Sir, you will have to pay full fare for your two kids.” So he
 handed over two notes without batting an eyelid, and my sister and I traveled
 comfortably that day.



 We may not have been rich, but he made us feel rich that day. That’s my father
 for you. I have many such beautiful memories from my childhood about my
 father, watching him up close and being inspired by his outstanding qualities.
 Let me share a few memories from my childhood that have left an indelible mark
 on my memory.&nbsp;



 Growing up, I was a big fan of cricket. Not a difficult choice to make in a
 cricket-frenzied nation. One of my uncles had gifted me a cricket bat and I
 looked for every opportunity to wield my new willow. My brother and I would
 play cricket in the living room on the first floor of our home, and our
 mother’s warning not to play there would fall on deaf ears. My father had also
 advised us to stop playing inside. It was a Sunday afternoon when my brother
 and I decided to have our bilateral series. Things were looking good until the
 ball smashed against a beautiful chandelier hanging on the ceiling.



 To say I was nervous will not do justice to how scared I felt that day. I had
 no idea how to deal with the mess I had created. My fate hung in as much
 imbalance as the chandelier on the ceiling. When my father came home for
 lunch, my mother did the honor of breaking the bad news. In my mind, I was
 pretty sure that I was about to get a tight slap. My father heard my mother,
 gave me a deep look with his penetrating eyes, and left without uttering a
 word. He was upset. However, in that instant, he had forgiven me. His love for
 me outweighed his liking for a materialistic possession. I can never forget
 his act of kindness.&nbsp;



 My father had a rock solid routine. He would have been a perfect brand
 ambassador for a Swiss watch. His clockwork started at 8 a.m. when he left for
 the restaurant, where he worked as the Manager. At 8:30 a.m. he was in the
 market, purchasing vegetables and groceries. At 9:30 a.m., he was at the bank.
 Since he was always one of the first customers, he wrapped up his work fast.
 From there, he completed any other work. Finally, he dropped the bag of
 vegetables and groceries he purchased for our home and then returned to the
 restaurant.


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 He was forgiving, but never gullible. He was prudent
 with his time
 and money, but not a miser. He was centered even when surrounded
 by a cyclone. Intuitively, he seemed to know that he was much greater
 than any situation he would ever face.
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 With this well-planned schedule, he never needed to step out again. He
 believed in the economy of efforts. He would advise us to plan our activities
 to accomplish the most with the minimum amount of time. He would urge us not
 to go out four times to complete four different tasks. Instead, step out once
 and complete four tasks in one shot. He believed in return on time as much as
 return on capital. He may not have read productivity classics like&nbsp;Getting Things
 Done&nbsp;or&nbsp;Eat That Frog, but he could have given any
 productivity guru a run for their money.&nbsp;



 I admire my father’s emotional stability. I remember an incident on a late
 summer evening when I was around ten years old, and we had a short circuit at
 home. There were sparks coming out of the power meter and my mother and I were
 shocked. I ran to see my father in his restaurant and told him, “Bappa,
 there is a fire at home.” Without panicking even for a moment, he
 patiently heard me and quickly concluded that it wasn’t something serious.
 Then he coolly said, “I see. It should not have happened. I will send an
 electrician. Don’t worry, I will see you and Mom at home later.” I was
 shell-shocked to see his calm demeanor in the face of what looked like a
 disaster to me. His calmness gave me a sense of assurance, and I instantly
 felt relieved. Personally, it was like watching James Bond effortlessly
 conquering a high-stake crisis.&nbsp;



 When I look at how my father led his life, I notice that he did not operate
 out of 101 philosophies. He had just a few, and he followed them irrespective
 of the situation around him. He was forgiving, but never gullible. He was
 prudent with his time and money, but not a miser. He was centered even when
 surrounded by a cyclone. Intuitively, he seemed to know that he was much
 greater than any situation he would ever face.&nbsp;


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Wisdom from my father

Garima Garg Seth

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 THE GOOD NIGHT GUIDE
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 DR. GARIMA GARG SETH is a pediatrician
 with a mission to help children learn good sleep habits. Here she explains
 to us what that means, and how as parents we can provide the best possible
 environment for children to develop a healthy sleep lifestyle.
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 Early to bed and early to rise, 
 makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.
 
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 -Medieval Proverb
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 We all grew up with our elders quoting this old adage, but somehow today
 sleep has become a casualty of modern life. I often find parents saying that
 their children do not sleep until 12 or 1 in the night. Some are happy and
 proud about it, while some are worried. Sleep is extremely important to
 support children’s development both physically and mentally. Establishing
 good sleep patterns can help children to meet their full potential. It can
 improve a child’s quality of life, memory, learning, attention, and
 behavior. Children with good sleep do better in school and have lower rates
 of mental and physical health problems than those with sleep problems.
 


 It is also important for parents’ mental health. As a parent, it is
 important to introduce good sleep habits early in your child’s life. A
 well-rested household usually makes for a happier home.

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 How much sleep do children need?
 
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 Sleep needs change as children get older. There are set guidelines that
 define the amount of sleep needed by children for optimal health. Regularly
 getting this number of hours of sleep can help your child avoid health risks
 associated with sleep deprivation. Now this is a general guideline that
 applies to most children, but some will have different sleep needs. If your
 child sleeps less or more than the average time prescribed, it’s not always
 an issue. But, it might also be tempting to think that your children can get
 away with less sleep than they need or that they should be able to cope
 fairly well with a few skipped hours of sleep. This is not true
 either.


 The recommended sleep per 24 hours according to the age of the child, as
 per the American Academy of Sleep Medicine (AASM) is:


 Newborn to 3 months: 16 to 18 hours (including naps) 4 to 12 months:
 12 to 16 hours (including naps) 1 to 2 years:
 11 to 14 hours (including naps) 3 to 5 years: 10 to 13 hours 6 to 12 years: 9 to 12 hours 13 to 18 years: 8 to 10 hours

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 What are the signs that children are not getting enough sleep?
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 They may show decreased levels of alertness, poor school performance, and
 bad moods. Young children may even have too much energy or hyperactivity
 leading to behavioral issues. In teenagers it can sometimes show up as mood
 changes and irritability.


 Listed below are just a few of the symptoms of sleep deprivation in
 children:


 Learning problems: concentration issues, difficulty remembering things,
 hyperactivity Poor mental health, behavioral issues, headaches Lowering of immune system function Weight gain, growth issues In older age groups: hypertension, obesity, depression etc.

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 Is a nap required during the day?
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 Napping is normal behavior in children. Most young children take naps
 during the day. Newborns and young infants usually take several naps: by 9
 to 12 months infants have a pattern of 2 naps a day, and by 15 to 24 months most children take only a single afternoon nap.
 Older children may not nap at all.
 


 Naps usually disappear by 5 years of age. Naps help preschool children to
 avoid becoming overtired. Ironically, an overtired toddler is harder to get
 to sleep than a well-rested one. Naps in preschool children can be
 encouraged and scheduled so that they aren’t too close to bedtime, as a
 poorly timed nap can affect your child’s sleep at night.

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 Good sleep routines 
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 Everybody can benefit from a sleep routine, including adults. This is also
 called good sleep hygiene. A good sleep routine is planned. Consistency and
 firmness are also keys.

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 1. Make sufficient sleep a family priority
 
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 As a parent, you are a role model for your children. First, understand the
 benefits of getting enough sleep for yourself. Set a good example. Show them
 it is part of a healthy lifestyle, just like healthy eating and exercise. It
 is understandable that sometimes, with current job profiles, it is
 difficult, but at least give it a try.

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 2. Stick to a realistic and consistent age-appropriate routine
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 We all have an internal daily body clock, sometimes referred to as the
 circadian rhythm. Our body functions according to it. Have a set bedtime and
 wake-up time for your children every day of the week, including non-school
 nights. It is better if there is not more than an hour difference from one
 day to another. Regular late weekend nights or sleeping-in can throw your
 body clock out of rhythm. 
 

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 3. Predictable sequence
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 Have a set daily bedtime routine following a predictable sequence of
 events, such as brushing teeth, taking a warm shower, going to the toilet,
 changing into nightwear and reading a story, etc. It should not last for
 more than 15 to 20 minutes. Many parents like to use the 4 Bs of brush,
 bath, book, bed.

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 4. Beds are for sleeping 
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 Avoid spending a lot of non-sleep time in bed. Spending hours lying on the
 bed doing other things before bedtime keeps the brain from associating bed
 with sleep.

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 5. A comfortable, cozy room
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 A child’s bedroom can be cool, quiet and comfortable. Melatonin is a
 hormone which aids sleep and it occurs naturally in our bodies when it gets
 dark. So it is a good idea to put your children to bed in a dark environment
 and to dim the lights before sleep. A low-level night light is acceptable
 for children who find completely dark rooms frightening. Keep your child’s
 bedroom at a comfortable temperature (around 75° F, 25-26° C) and not too
 hot or cold.

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 6. Relaxing activities 
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 The hour before sleep can be for shared quiet time, like listening to
 relaxing, calm music, or reading a favorite story book. Avoid high
 stimulation activities such as watching television, playing video games or
 exercise. Children can easily develop the habit of “needing” the television
 to fall asleep. It’s also difficult to control your children’s viewing if
 the set is in the bedroom. Melatonin production is interfered with by screen
 activities, both before bed and during the night. It is best not to have
 video games, televisions or telephones in children’s bedrooms. Set a
 “technology curfew,” especially for older kids. 
 

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 7. Exercise
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 Make sure your children spend time outside every day when possible and are
 involved in regular exercise. Having physical exercise as part of the day,
 at least 3 hours before bed, often helps with falling asleep and staying
 asleep for a longer time.

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 8. Avoid caffeine
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 Avoid caffeine (sodas, chocolate, tea, coffee) in the afternoons and
 evenings. Even if caffeine doesn’t prevent falling asleep, it can still lead
 to shallow sleep or frequent waking.

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 9. Eat a healthy meal well in advance and avoid big meals in the
 evening
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 But don’t send your children to bed hungry. A glass of milk before bed is a
 good idea. Heavy meals within an hour or two of bedtime may interfere with
 sleep.

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 10. Falling asleep routine
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 It is best for children to go to bed drowsy but still awake. Letting them
 fall asleep in other places forms habits that are difficult to break.If a
 child is awake in bed tossing and turning, it is better for them to get out
 of bed, do a low stimulation activity like reading, then return to bed
 later. This keeps the bed from becoming associated with sleeplessness. If
 still awake after 20 to 30 minutes, spend another 20 minutes out of bed
 before lying down again. Be gentle but firm if your child protests.If your
 child is never drowsy at the planned bedtime, you can try a temporary delay
 of bedtime by 30-minute increments until the child appears sleepy, so that
 they experience falling asleep more quickly once they get into bed. The
 bedtime should then be gradually advanced earlier until the desired bed time
 is reached. 
 

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 11. Cuddle up
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 Give a hug or a kiss, say goodnight to your children, sing a lullaby.
 Security objects at bedtime are often helpful for children aged 1 to 3 years
 who need to feel safe and secure, especially when their parent is not
 present or they are sleeping alone. Try to include their favorite doll, toy
 or blanket when you cuddle or comfort your child, but make sure it does not
 pose a choking hazard or cause injury. Cover toys or remove them if they are
 causing a distraction at night, so that they are out of sight.

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 12. Clocks are for waking up
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 Turn clock faces away so that children cannot stare at them.

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 13. Discipline elsewhere
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 If you need to discipline your children, use another space in the house,
 not the bedroom.

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 14. Make sure your children feel safe at night
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 If a child feels scared about going to bed or being in the dark, praise and
 reward them whenever they are brave. Avoid scary TV shows, movies and
 computer games. Don’t ignore their fears.

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 15. No worries
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 Avoid children worrying at bedtime. Children with this problem can try
 having a “worry time” scheduled earlier, when they think about and discuss
 their worries with someone they trust.

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 16. Short and sweet bedtime checkups
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 When checking on children at night, when they are sleeping in separate
 rooms, checks should be “brief and boring.” The purpose is to reassure the
 child you are present and that they are okay.

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 17. Maintain a sleep diary
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 This is so you can keep track of naps, sleep times and activities to find
 patterns and address problem areas when things are not working.If your
 children still have trouble getting to sleep, contact your pediatrician or
 healthcare provider to rule out any sleep disorder.

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 Reference: AASM guidelines, May 2016,
 Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine.

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 Article by DR. GARIMA GARG SETH Illustrations by ARATI SHEDDE
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