Judith lives in Scotland, and has a background in physiotherapy, broadcasting, presentation, and property development. These days, she teaches Heartfulness in organizations and communities, and is Vice-President of two Heartfulness charities.

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Judith Nelson

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 JUDITH NELSON
 introduces a new series for 2022 that highlights and explores ways to
 integrate different perspectives on various topical issues.
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 EMBRACING DIFFERENCE
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 I don’t know anyone who has found the last two years easy. For most of us, it
 has felt like a rollercoaster ride through a very long pandemic tunnel, with
 an unrecognizable landscape as we emerge!&nbsp;



 I have felt overwhelmed by polarized and contradictory information, advice,
 and instructions. How to navigate the non-stop media bombardment of endless
 tips and tools for well-being, and “toxic positivity”? What to do and not do,
 say, think, be, look like, etc.? It’s no wonder I am tired, and it’s a relief
 to drop all this stuff, let myself and my feelings be what they are, accept
 myself, and embrace all our differences.&nbsp;



 Life is an ever-changing picture. We are also constantly changing, even if we
 don’t realize or feel it.&nbsp;Even within ourselves, we often need to
 reconcile many different feelings, emotions, and thoughts, so why do we load
 ourselves with an expectation to be right, to be certain, and to feel the same
 as others? How can we learn to stand in our own “space,” among many different
 views, and enjoy and respect them all? That’s our challenge.&nbsp;



 In a recent discussion, the actor Kabir Bedi asked Daaji about his views on
 God.&nbsp;Daaji said he doesn’t think much about God, and that if you ask the
 five most evolved human beings this question, they would all have different
 views. He spoke about the beauty of individuality, and the need to honor the
 perspective of others when they describe the beauty they see, which we might
 not see in the same way.



 I was happy to hear this answer, as a validation for being authentic. I felt
 encouraged to honor my thoughts and feelings, also allowing the same for
 others. Each of us is a spark of the whole, so by being ourselves we enrich
 our landscape&nbsp;and the tapestry of existence. We can’t and shouldn’t be
 homogenized like milk.


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 So, the big question is: Who is the real “me”? How do you get to know yourself
 and understand when to say yes or no, and when to feel comfortable with not
 knowing?&nbsp;This takes time and practice. How can you allow yourself and
 others that time of discovery, and the opportunity to get things wrong? And
 why does it feel like there’s so much pressure to get things right?



 It’s not the end of the&nbsp;world to think and feel differently from those
 around you, to make mistakes, which are necessary for growth. Unfortunately,
 your ability to peep into the online world of others (even if it’s all
 illusion and fake) won’t help you feel better about yourself. So many of us
 feel anxious and, even worse, hopeless when we do.&nbsp;



 Us oldies enjoyed the freedom of making spectacular but helpful mistakes
 (certainly in my case!), without having them recorded and circulated on social
 media.&nbsp;But that’s not the case today. An excellent BBC documentary about
 mental health issues in young people highlights the fact that children as
 young as eight are feeling so unhappy with themselves that they contemplate
 suicide. It’s hard to imagine how an eight-year-old can feel so desperate. One
 seventeen-year-old girl said,&nbsp;“We are exposed 24/7 and anyone&nbsp;can
 have an opinion about us.”



 There’s no doubt that many youngsters are feeling the pressure to be perfect
 in their behavior, looks, scholarly achievements, and presence on social
 media, where they must look perfectly happy in the perfect life. But life
 isn’t like that. It’s a big mix of ups and downs, experiences, and emotions.
 It’s ever-changing, like the seasons. Even daily, we face many changes of mood
 and atmosphere due to internal as well as external factors. In time, our inner
 environment can become easier to manage, especially as we mature, but we still
 must deal with the outer environment and all that it throws at us.


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 In this spirit of self-acceptance, and instead of
 offering tools for
 self-help, the series “Embracing Difference” will feature
 different views and perspectives on topical subjects. If we can all
 accept the challenge to honor and enjoy these differences, it will
 inspire healthy debate and better understanding, and help us
 find our own ground.
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 Being yourself can take the pressure away, and, for me, that means a
 heart-felt acceptance of who I am right&nbsp;now. I’m not suggesting that you
 start behaving in any way you want, but just allow yourself to be as you are.



 Self- acceptance has helped me to feel calm and present in each moment. It’s a
 relief, like a pause. It’s most beneficial when I feel at my worst, although
 activating self-acceptance, especially in difficult circumstances, can take a
 bit of practice. However, I’m not advocating hard work to achieve it! Quite
 the opposite. In my experience, rather than loading myself with more tasks,
 letting go or not doing can be the best and, paradoxically, the most
 productive thing to do! It’s in the silence or the space between the thoughts
 that you will understand yourself and hear or feel the “yes” or “no” you seek.
 And it’s in learning to stop and pause that you will find the courage to wait
 when the answer isn’t there.



 So, in this spirit of self-acceptance, and instead of offering tools for
 self-help, the series “Embracing Difference” will feature different views and
 perspectives on topical subjects. If we can all accept the challenge to honor
 and enjoy these differences, it will inspire healthy debate and better
 understanding, and help us find our own ground.&nbsp;



 And we’re asking you, dear readers, to join us in embracing these differences
 and enriching yourselves with these lively debates. We also invite you to
 engage by contributing in the comments section on the website.



 There’s no one way, there’s your way, there’s my way, there’s his or her way,
 and that’s okay. Life would be so dull without our differences, so let’s honor
 and embrace them with open arms.&nbsp;


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 “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing&nbsp;and right-doing there is a field. I’ll
 meet you there.”


—Rumi

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